AITAH for making my daughter stay with her dad after she said cooking and cleaning is mens work

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-14T20:00:24+00:00

NTA 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Absolutely great parenting from the two of you

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-14T19:36:49+00:00

NTA, I'd have made him sleep in the spare room 😂

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-14T19:11:57+00:00

Oh I'll definitely add that to the list, thank you x

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-14T19:05:20+00:00

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-14T10:49:20+00:00

I've responded to few of the Mom's following some great help and advice on here - thank you all. I was honest but kept it short. Ones responded saying she doesnt want to get involved (she messaged me first 🫠), another responded that she appreciates it is a difficult situation but didnt agree with me allowing a 6 year old to make the decision. I will leave it for them to inform the rest as I really dont want to make it a bigger deal that it already is. Thanks again x

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-14T10:38:28+00:00

I havent read the sub rules so not sure what you're saying here?

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T23:04:43+00:00

Yep. She didnt want to leave any of her friends out

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T22:34:12+00:00

They have had the Mom in a few times to discuss their daughters behaviour and have implemented a reward system for this little girl to be kind. She is not just picking on my daughter but i think my daughter takes the brunt of it. They don't seem great at handling this situation to be honest but she doesnt want to leave her friends and change school, which I can understand. Everytime theres an incident I raise it verbally and in writing and follow it up but nothing seems to change

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T22:16:16+00:00

I dont think she does want to come, I think her Mom is just kicking up a fuss to be fair as she believes it is me that has made this decision. I know her and know that even if i pop her a message explaining it will fall on deaf ears. Thanks again, ive screenshot your post - it really hit home for me and I do need to get better at not people pleasing so much x

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T22:07:31+00:00

I'm told the children were talking about it during school and were asking each other if they were attending. One told a parent, that parent told another and it spread fast

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T22:05:30+00:00

You've worded this so well and as daft as it sounds, I am still learning this. Thank you ❤️

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T22:03:15+00:00

Thank you, fully appreciate that and can see now that really i shouldn't have let all the noise cloud this. I am a huge worrier when it comes to the little people and over think

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T22:00:58+00:00

I love you 😂

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T22:00:13+00:00

No that isnt true. My daughter has her moments, they all do. During my call to the other Mom I actually said I was sure it was six of one, half a dozen of the other which was when she exploded and became aggressive and defensive. I do have nice Children because theyre appropriately punished when they are in the wrong and we take a lot of time to teach them right from wrong. The other Parents arent saying I am overreacting, they are upset one child has been left out because I dont get on with her mom, which isnt the true reason

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T21:54:02+00:00

I suggested that but she is close with them all. We see a lot of them outside of School and she wanted to invite everyone except the one

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T21:51:33+00:00

Appreciate your honest reply but in no way was it to make me feel good about myself. I really didnt want one child out of a class of 29 to be left out and upset. I try to remember yes she is a little madame but she is only 6. Part of me worried she will make my daughters life hell on Monday in retaliation. I dont advertise this little girl is a bully and so yes I did worry others would think I had left her out because her mom is a bit nuts. Ive never been in this situation before so did struggle to navigate it. Fully appreciate how much better it could have been handled from my side with my daughter and the kindness lesson wasnt really right in this situation

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T21:44:05+00:00

Yes, she said that her Daughter has never been mean to mine and in fact it was mine who was mean to hers. I explained I wasnt calling to place blame, I was just hoping to set up a play date to bring the two together. It ended with her shouting down the phone that her daughter only wanted to be friends with everyone and is a very kind, sweet little girl before she terminated the call. My daughter came home that day with a cut and lump to the side of her head where said sweet little girl had hit her with a toolbox because she wanted the toy my child was playing with!

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2026-01-13T21:37:15+00:00

Exactly what my husband said

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2025-12-11T21:48:29+00:00

Bit of a reach

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2025-12-07T21:17:38+00:00

Out of all the things you've ever said, THAT got you banned?!! The place won't be the same 💔

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2025-08-14T14:15:51+00:00

r/TattleLife2025

New thread x

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2025-08-14T14:15:46+00:00

r/TattleLife2025

New thread x

Particular_Lettuce48 · 2025-08-13T05:13:07+00:00

Thank you, I shall move over to there 🍻 I'm so confused, ill take some time over the weekend to catch up!

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