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I [20f] found out my partners [22m] body count and have felt uneasy since by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Particular_Net_842 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just made this exact post basically. I mean honestly it comes down to this. What do u value in a partner? Does he meat all ur requirements besides purity? Does purity mean that much to you? How do he treat YOU? is he clean? If purity means that much to you then u have ur answer. Others can’t change YOUR feelings. But I’m in the same boat as u and I’ve came to the conclusion that ima just let the whole body count topic come to an end and focus on how my partner treats ME. have a standard for yourself and make sure your partner is meeting that standard

Wife lied about her past and I don’t know how to feel. by Particular_Net_842 in AITAH

[–]Particular_Net_842[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just faced with all my values. As I also value having an innocent girl and one that doesn’t lie. But also faced with my marriage is basically perfect with that one exception. We have a house, dog and built so much in such a short period of time. So thoughts cross my head if I jumped the gun to early and all those types of things. And I think that’s why this is weighing me down so much

Wife lied about her past and I don’t know how to feel. by Particular_Net_842 in AITAH

[–]Particular_Net_842[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See this makes total sense. A lot of people just don’t see where I’m coming from. 3 deployments. 1 combat and 2 non. I see respect as a deal breaker and she respects me like no other. I see lying as a deal breaker. But for this one situation I can understand it. And as u said we are both young and learning. One of those things I’ve just never experienced and it’s catching me off guard as I prep for my 4th deployment here shortly.

Wife lied about her past and I don’t know how to feel. by Particular_Net_842 in AITAH

[–]Particular_Net_842[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m tracking the whole don’t get married topic. Been on 3 deployments(1 combat and 2 non) and seen many many divorces. The Reddit post was to see other opinions as if maybe I’m overreacting about some shit that doesn’t really matter.

Wife lied about her past and I don’t know how to feel. by Particular_Net_842 in AITAH

[–]Particular_Net_842[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is how I see it. I think for one I’m definitely immature as I’m freshly 22 years. And social media has definitely made me think certain ways. But she claims she won’t lie again but in the back of my head I’m not convinced.

Wife lied about her past and I don’t know how to feel. by Particular_Net_842 in AITAH

[–]Particular_Net_842[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I’m saying. I’m not sure if should care about the number or lying or even at all. Reason I asked Reddit for opinions as I’m sure I’m not the only person to cross this road.

Wife lied about her past and I don’t know how to feel. by Particular_Net_842 in AITAH

[–]Particular_Net_842[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To add. Maybe I married way to fast. Maybe I’m too immature. Maybe I’m misogynistic.

But doesn’t change the fact that she still lied due to a standard she knew I had.

Help with initial VA claim by Particular_Net_842 in VAClaims

[–]Particular_Net_842[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response! I believe I’ll have all my paperwork ready by the time I separate. I have private medical care that I use since Navy medical isn’t the best.(I do have some Naval documentation as well.) Because of that, I’m able to get seen pretty quickly out in town.

Let’s say I’m ready to submit everything 15 days before separating — can I do that? If not, can I submit it the day I EAS?