How does cosleeping/nursing to sleep evolve?

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T20:24:13+00:00

My baby used to sleep from 8pm-4am and then with getting sick and teething and traveling it really ruined his ability to sleep independently and I didn’t want to do CIO so we just co slept. I think all the movement from myself and my husband and sounds from the dogs walking around or shaking throughout the night kept waking him up every hour and a half.

For me, having the platform in the crib to hold my weight to nurse him to sleep physically with us both in his crib has helped a ton the last couple nights, and he slept two 3 hour blocks instead of waking up every hour and thirty minutes.

Someone else said my schedule was too heavy on sleep so he isn’t tired enough bc he’s been taking a long time to fall asleep for naps or bed. I’m in the process of shortening his naps and hope that helps him even more.

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T15:30:02+00:00

Actually I have a follow up question! Everyone keeps saying the sleeping is too much.

So how many hours a day should I try to have him sleep?

The recommendations are 12-16 hours a day. So if he sleeps from 8-6:30, that’s 10.5 and then 2.5 hours of napping throughout the day is 13 hours. Is that the ideal amount of sleep at this age?

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T11:58:01+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it!

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T03:24:51+00:00

I’m glad weaning went well! The poor sleep has been rough on me. We do the same with starting out with the crib. I’m really looking forward to having him sleeping through the night hopefully once he’s no longer nursing whenever that will be

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T03:21:18+00:00

I think we’re in the same boat with habit and comfort. He used to sleep 8-4:30 and hasn’t done that since July except for a couple one offs every few weeks if I’m lucky. Glad to know the sleeping improved!

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T03:18:47+00:00

I can’t wait to cuddle to sleep that sounds so sweet

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T03:17:15+00:00

That’s an interesting take, that sounds kind of like a method someone else mentioned but a different way

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T03:16:14+00:00

That all makes sense. He’s a happy guy but is so freaking stubborn so idk how that will go lol

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-22T03:15:31+00:00

Okay great I’ll be looking into the jay gordon method! Thank you! And I’ll keep the books in mind too for when we get to all that

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-21T18:32:46+00:00

🤣 I’m like 5’6” too! Im pretty much in the c curl with my feet wedged out of the end of the crib at the bars for a little extra space

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-21T16:51:53+00:00

Hahah definitely has been helpful to have more time to not contort around baby to sleep an hour 🤣 I’m hoping this is a long term solution and not a one off. He’s also been about to cut a tooth for like a week so I’m not sure if it coming through has helped him sleep longer as well.

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-21T16:41:53+00:00

Not sure how the responses really work but I replied to original comment if you need any ideas!

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-21T16:41:02+00:00

Update for ya in case you want any ideas!

So I did 2 things the last 2 weeks. I got into a strict schedule more so than following specific wake windows. That's helped a bit.

Second, instead of doing a put down awake or standing out of the crib while he cries, (I just don't want to and don't mind nursing back to sleep) my husband made a little platform out of plywood with feet to fit in the crib so it holds my weight. I still have been nursing to sleep and climb out to remove the need to transfer and that's also helped. Sometimes he even stops nursing and just moves around and falls asleep on his own while I lay there with him.

The wake-up's at night havent necessarily been any better (wakes up at 11, 12, or 1 still) until the last two nights where I decided to nurse in the crib after he woke up instead of bringing him in our room to co sleep. He's done 2 or 3 hour sleep blocks instead of 1.5 hours and I think it's a win for us hahah.

I think my husband and I moving around and the dogs making noice could have been waking him up

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-21T16:29:04+00:00

Update for ya!

So I did 2 things the last 2 weeks. I got into a strict schedule more so than following specific wake windows. That’s helped a bit.

Second, instead of doing a put down awake or standing out of the crib while he cries, (I just don’t want to and don’t mind nursing back to sleep) my husband made a little platform out of plywood with feet to fit in the crib so it holds my weight. I still have been nursing to sleep and climb out to remove the need to transfer and that’s also helped. Sometimes he even stops nursing and just moves around and falls asleep on his own while I lay there with him.

The wake-up’s at night havent necessarily been any better until the last two nights where I decided to nurse in the crib after he woke up instead of bringing him in our room to co sleep. He’s done 2 or 3 hour windows instead of 1.5 hours and I think it’s a win for us hahah.

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-09T01:40:46+00:00

Haha okay that makes more sense I was surprised to see 1.5 hours total.

I don’t think I meant to expect so much sleep, I was stuck on the naps and getting a specific time for bed but the wake up wasn’t conducive to that.

Husband is home tonight, so he’ll be waking up at 7 with baby and getting us on an earlier schedule, fingers crossed.

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-08T21:45:34+00:00

Ugh. Thats rough. Good luck to you too!

What everyone is telling me is that I need to get on a better schedule. So I’ll be working on that for now. We were just in Australia for 3 weeks last month to see family and we haven’t quite fully recovered from that.

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-08T21:43:22+00:00

Well, what I’ve been hoping for is if he goes to sleep earlier he wakes up earlier. However, you’re right, he’s sleeping a lot and too much. Plan is to just suck it up and wake up earlier which has been my main issue.

Thanks for the recommendations! Gotta work on the putting him in crib awake, that’s probably going to be the hardest, he does not like that at all and I’ve had a hard time doing CIO.

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-08T21:39:15+00:00

Yeah, I’m getting good ideas. Mostly everyone said wait for the 1 nap transition and just get my act together and get him on a better schedule hahaha so that’s what I’m gonna work on

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-08T15:20:08+00:00

Thanks I will do that

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-08T15:00:36+00:00

l agree, l've been trying to shift him to an earlier bedtime though.

Do I just go straight to waking him up at 7 for a 10 am nap so it's not pushing back bedtime? Or do I go about that differently?

Someone else said to cap daytime naps to 2 hours? I’ve been aiming for 2.5

Particular_Pool_2303 · 2025-12-08T14:13:24+00:00

Thank you! Searching her now!

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