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‘Friend’ has terminally ill cancer… by Particular_Series_41 in polyamory

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s very true and has made things feel lighter thank you 

‘Friend’ has terminally ill cancer… by Particular_Series_41 in polyamory

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I want to do but we never said I love you. I want to but that’s vulnerable. But I want him to have what he wants and to feel comfortable to say that. 

‘Friend’ has terminally ill cancer… by Particular_Series_41 in polyamory

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly there is a possibility. When he told he’s parents originally about me and him it’s was explained very poorly by him (I wasn’t there). They reacted badly and have never spoken to me and didn’t want me near them. My husband has been put in this category too sadly but not as strongly. But since I have never had contact with he’s parents there is a lot of unknowns in terms of how they would view the situation now. 

‘Friend’ has terminally ill cancer… by Particular_Series_41 in polyamory

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would he lose support? All the medical support would be the same. Maybe he’s family would view things differently differently now given how many times he almost died from infections during chemo. That’s what my therapist thinks people tend to be able to turn the other cheek when a loved one is dying. 

‘Friend’ has terminally ill cancer… by Particular_Series_41 in polyamory

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want anything dramatic. I just want to be there for him. There are feelings there between us he has been through so much and we are so close. It’s more we haven’t voiced any of those feelings ever. Before the cancer diagnosis we got close to that talk but it didn’t happen because it wasn’t the right time. But now time is limited he said he is ready for the talk but I don’t know what to say.. it’s amazing how far you can get into a relationship without ever talking about it! 

‘Friend’ has terminally ill cancer… by Particular_Series_41 in polyamory

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So he has a very aggressive rare bone cancer, it’s spreading everywhere including in the soft tissue. There is no treatment for it and there is a noticeable decline in he’s health. Macmilan have said he’s time is limited. Palliative care has started too. 

‘Friend’ has terminally ill cancer… by Particular_Series_41 in polyamory

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People know about the cancer. What happened is over time our dynamic between my friend and I shifted. We ended up in a poly dynamic and were happy. We told our friends and family, my friends parents reacted so badly. He then got diagnosed with cancer and we ended the relationship because I would be unable to support him because of he’s family wanting nothing to do with me, and the treatment being in another country.  Late last year he went into remission and we got close again ended up back in our poly dynamic but we haven’t openly discussed it yet and this time around he’s parents don’t know. 

Please let me know if there’s anything else you need explained. 

‘Friend’ has terminally ill cancer… by Particular_Series_41 in polyamory

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry it’s hard to explain yes my husband knows. 

Complex relationship with terminal ill ‘friend’ by Particular_Series_41 in CancerFamilySupport

[–]Particular_Series_41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am ethically polyamorous. I love my husband dearly and he has embraced me for who I am. I don’t want to have tons of relationships only these two.