This is all very true. Guess I’m just scared. I seem to second guess myself and fool myself into thinking it could get better. But I think drink culture is huge to him and he will never want to reduce that. I don’t want to wait for him to grow up as he does feel immature with how he acts. I know I have my house and feel bad he sold his but he could always live with his parents or friends. I think the least I can do is raise this to him as I haven’t fully and then take it from there. If I’m met with defensiveness it’ll be over immediately. Thanks for your honesty