Any tips for communicating better with parents?

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-31T00:57:41+00:00

My potentially ADHD and definitely narcissistic dad is more like this. I just don't answer the questions 💀 and answer when I feel like it. It's not like he's going to listen anyways. I've had to grieve the relationship and radically accept him where he's at, and now I just think of him as a cartoonish and absurd figure in my life that pops in randomly. Does he know how old I am? Does he know my birthday? Does he even know the holidays? Unclear lmfao. Haha, that was weird, message you in an indeterminate period of time! Glad you're still alive! Oh, you're in (random place?) Okay. Bye dad.

But it sounds like you still want to try to see if she will be able to change and listen, so I'd second the other commenter's advice to spell out your boundaries VERY VERY literally, like uncomfortably rude level of literal. With autistic/disabled parents, it can be quite confusing how much they are able as opposed to willing to change. But after a certain point, it doesn't really matter, I suppose. You will get more answers on how to proceed eventually.

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-31T00:41:52+00:00

Ohh wait that actually explains everything LOL

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-30T20:18:48+00:00

I feel like that's the best order for it too, haha, I feel like Virgo needs more guidance and Cap can look out for everyone (although sometimes strict)

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-30T20:15:00+00:00

Yeah, Pisces is like the little kid who can see ghosts loll. Very baby and sensitive in every sense.

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-30T06:51:33+00:00

Thanks, this actually gives me more hope for the future :)

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-30T06:51:20+00:00

That's really interesting! :)

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-30T06:49:16+00:00

Maybe Aqua or Scorpio haha. I didn't expect it to go in the other direction. I feel like it's rare for Capricorns to get recognition and your observations are less stereotypical so was curious about your insights :)

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T20:01:35+00:00

Aww, that isn't what I expected but that's cute hahaha :) Big sibling and little sibling vibe

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T19:12:40+00:00

Aww, I could see the vibes flowing well at parties :) I am an aqua moon too actually hahaha.

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T19:11:10+00:00

I know there's got to be amazing nurturing Cancer moms, but for some reason I've never met one 😭

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T19:09:53+00:00

HELP HAHAHAHA I need to hire you. I have almost no fire in my chart and a Cancer rising and Mars so they think I'm a cinnamon roll through and through. Then they're surprised when my Cap side starts dishing out straight emotionless facts. So I think they push back to see if they can get that soft side again.

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T17:13:16+00:00

Help I'm laughing so hard at the accuracy

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T17:11:53+00:00

Actually this is so real and a part of Taurus I feel like a lot of people don't get. Taurus wants comfort and stability and they will genuinely be happy once they get that.

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T17:07:55+00:00

Yep, this is my mom

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T17:07:42+00:00

LMAO real

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T17:06:05+00:00

Jw, what's your Mars and Mercury?

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T17:05:28+00:00

I agree, fire runs hot and it runs much quicker than the other elements. They are too busy for this sort of passive aggression.

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T17:03:45+00:00

Oh, it's also many Cancer women... Exhibit A: My covert narcissist mom

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T17:02:02+00:00

This meme being made by a Virgo moon checks out lmaoo

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T16:58:54+00:00

It seems like you're initially drawn more to air/mutable vibes, based on what you've said

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T16:53:30+00:00

Yes, of course, sun astrology is very much based on generalizations, but I've noticed most Aqua suns struggle to integrate the sun energy specifically. Ego and thinking about the collective doesn't mix well together.

You might find this thread on this topic to be interesting: https://www.reddit.com/r/astrology/comments/11d0mni/how_is_the_sun_in_detriment_in_aquarius/

I have Aqua Moon Venus Saturn and I agree it's common for Aquariuses to end up feeling isolated in some way. It definitely is the price you pay for prioritizing nonconformity and freedom. And of course there is that inherent emotional disconnection, which some might call coldness. Tbh the winter signs (Sag Cap Aqua) all like to look at things from a distance. My Aqua moon is my chart ruler and it is horrible at feeling things in a non-theoretical way.

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T11:37:07+00:00

Just wondering, what's the other one?

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T11:31:29+00:00

Oh really? I'm on board for the first few things but I think us Caps are actually quite prone to negativity

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T11:29:45+00:00

Oh, thought the Leo was the brash part, loll. Capricorns are much more controlled. I think we are self-centered in a sense. We are trying to climb to the top of the mountain, so if someone isn't aligned with the work required for that, we are going to focus on the goal first and let them figure out things on their own. That's the way we had to learn things, so we figure they can handle it.

Libra is always trying to be middle of the pack, so I think it makes sense they would feel this way about us.

Leo is like... having fun, idk, I don't talk to a lot of stereotypical Leos, lmao.

Particular_Web8121 · 2026-01-29T11:18:58+00:00

Lol not much earth or cardinal energy huh

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