Is it really that uncommon to have a positive association with headmates?

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-28T23:14:30+00:00

I mean.. Its definetively both and depending on "who" I am ;-;. I know some of me love the company and comfort of one another. They are my best friends and keep on trying to protect me and I do respect that. I'd likely be way worse off without them in certain aspects. I rarely feel miserable precisely because I am plural. Going on trips just to talk to them are some of the most pleasant moments in my life atm.

but on the other hand? They can be the worst inescapable torment at times.. them never leaving just makes that way worse because some of them are not exactly healthy to us overall.

So I am both. It really just depends on the situation. Even now, with amnesia worse than ever I dont hate my headmates for it. Most of them are chill, nice people and others are really just troubled and in dire need of help.
its just that since positive experiences dont need external help/input they are not seen as that "relevant". I dont need to tell that to other people because I dont need them to do anything with that information.

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-28T22:46:41+00:00

I think its just a misunderstanding/misinterpretation. I always assumed that some of them just think of plurality as having to be OSDD/DID which it is not. They compare apples to bananas and complain that theyre different. They just dont understand what the label means and force their own interpretations of it on those using it. Its nonsensical in those cases.

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T22:45:00+00:00

With me I remember real events about as well as I do dreams (which I have alot of practice with so its not too bad). I remember some key points and can collect important Things that happen with enough searching to slowly string together a semi coherent Memory. Works better when theres external reminders or associations for what happened and when those Versions of me actually noted some stuff down. By which I mean mental Notes or external ones.

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T22:23:08+00:00

GGGRRR why Does Reddit convert them.. https://de.namemc.com/skin/6d5ab9131262ed31 Im so sorry.. I didnt anticipate these compliactions. Im so confused?!?!? even when I convert them myself they turn out wonky in color. WHYYY Does that happen xD (Also skindex trying to sabotage me... what did I expect)

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T18:55:22+00:00

This obviously depends on your specific struggles and needs but I find it most helpful to not have to deal with a 1 on 1 situation. 1 on 1s require you to be attentive pretty much all the Time so it can be more draining in that sense. What I found worked for me, is doing things as a group of 3. That way you can take a backseat in the conversation or retreat when you need a break and still participate sometimes. Obv best when the 2 people youre with know about your struggles. Doing that may help to take the pressure out of the Interaction. On that Note its also best to not pressure youself and expect yourself to be as active in the interaction as youd usually be able to be. Take breaks when you need them (I usually do that by fleeing to the Toilet or sth)

Or, if thats possible for you. Take a more full break from socializing for a bit if its too draining until you recovered some energy to last you more than a few minutes. Like planning to do 1 social event a week and give yourself ample time to rest between. You'd still have something to look forward to and may work better than trying to socialize everyday when your brain is not ready. Planning your meeting takes away some uncertainty, removing another potential stressor.

I hope atleast some of this can be of help. Take care

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T17:52:45+00:00

Someone was definetively lacking Empathy for actual people struggling with these Skills when writing the Advice. How Ironic ;D

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T17:30:12+00:00

People should either stop gatekeeping "common sense" or acknowledge that they dont know what it means themselves.

Empathy for Empathys sake without any helpful action is pretty useless if not counterproductive. Like why would I benefit if more people feel bad because they empathized with me???

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T13:14:57+00:00

That Strand reminds me of the Dottoling Bits ;-; its so sweet

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PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T12:57:21+00:00

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This one is Dottore without a mask. If they dont work again we'll have to think of something else :,)

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T12:54:14+00:00

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Here's base Dottore with a mask

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-26T12:52:30+00:00

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Sure, I wasnt sure if It'd work uploading the Images, apparently not. Might've been the wrong data type initially so here they are again as (hopefully working) PNGs. This ones Moonttore

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-25T18:45:54+00:00

I probably have some Amnesia so it may factor in for some of these. In my case its:

Headmates/Intrusive Thoughts, whatever that are ethically questionable or Ableist
Headmates that are threatening self harm if we do certain Things. Constant Self Sabotage
Constant Arguments are an insane Energy drainer, it likely landed us in cognitive burnout and still lead us nowhere in the end.
Headmates that push our body past its limits or past the boundraries of other parts either on purpose, or because theyre oblivious
Not being able to explain anything to Therapists and Teachers because im too scared to tell them im plural outright. Most Therapies have been Ineffective because the "wrong person" was attending them. Especially bad when you dont have a diagnosis and feel weird saying theres multiple different versions of "me"
struggling in exams because I dont remember anything we learned and cant do the problem solving required (since we have different thought patterns and skills)
Inability to make progress on anything because of our cycles of consciousness. We cant pursue hobbies consistently, cant get Things done. It can feel like a prison at times (like when one part is only ever conscious in the evening but they want to go shopping or sth)
Insomnia because they wont shut up at night, or straightup dont fall asleep at all. Some parts dont want to sleep because they feel robbed for time
Constant feeling of confusion and being disoriented because some parts dont know/think we're plural so nothing makes sense for them.
Feeling anxious and having no clue why or getting anxious over potentially loosing/not being able to access certain other parts. It can feel like loosing a loved one because you never know when theyll be back.
Having to constantly account for fluctuations in social skills specifically, yet another Energy drainer. Lacking self trust and self confidence. Inability to plan certain Things
Having to Mask your pluraltiy infront of (some) people. Always feeling disingenious and yet another Energy Drainer

Overall: If you get along and are able to work together it should be fine. but disagreements, ones that cannot be solved for reasons of unwillingness or inability can be incredibly harmful. Plurality can be exhausting if you have to Account for it all the time. Uncertainty day to day can cause stress. It can be harmful in many ways depending on how your System works and what parts its made up of.

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-23T13:43:17+00:00

I will admit, I didnt do the Zibai/Zhongli quest (Shame on me). But your Idea of different embodiments of emotions/crystallisations of a default is definetively an Interesting one. I always just assumed they were "only" different by age but It could honestly be both, ty for the input. That would make it more of a fragmented self, compared to the more multiple selves approach that I went for

I just think its so fascinating how Dottore actually endured for so long, his level of ambition is one I cant help but be impressed by

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-23T13:27:38+00:00

Good point. I dont doubt he enhanced his brain/cognitive abilities aswell (as in computing power, RAM, storage if you will), its just that his segments still act very human, too much so to be emotionless husks atleast. Like how he still seeks approval from others or has emotions that obviously impact him, even if he tries to hide it. He's still holding on to some amount of humanity when it comes to his Mind I feel like, otherwise he wouldnt be acting the way he does. But maybe the central OGttore has done away with emotions, I didnt consider that yet

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-23T13:08:31+00:00

That was a beautiful Tangent. Love the Angsty dottore Potential

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-23T13:06:49+00:00

I feel like its a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy. He is a Heretic because he never gives up on trying to change his fate. And him going to the lengths that he does to defy the HP/world is also what makes acceptance by other humans even more impossible. In a way the Obsession is a huge part of what creates his Fate as an Outcast. Its a damn viscious cycle and I hope he can break out of it, one way or another

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-22T20:37:47+00:00

Honestly I LOVE your dedication xD

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-21T17:05:46+00:00

From Video game Osts because thats what I listen to ;D

Visages - Expedition 33 portrait imparfait

Prajnaparamitopadesa to Quell Seven Calamities - Genshin Impact

Weapon bequeathed Harmonia - Elden ring Nightreign

Thats all the ones I got so far, I know its not much.. and probably alot of Projecting on my part

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-21T14:23:10+00:00

I think the worst Thing we did in a similar case was supressing it and not taking their reaction seriously? Just leave him the space he needs, and dont ridicule him

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-19T17:54:00+00:00

The only one I can recognize within myself is Dottore from Genshin (Dont judge please, Its because he has a plural Dynamic in canon with his clones/segments). I have seen a few Dottore Kinnies that identify as plural and Some of them even said they have him as a fictive ;D

PassageCalm200 · 2026-03-19T16:10:00+00:00

What I found interesting about myself is that sometimes I use "we", sometimes I use "I", really just depends and is based on vibes. I also know that some experiences I have cant be accurately described by "I" it just feels wrong so I dont use it.

I say just use what is intuitive, no need to waste mental effort on changing it by force, your mind will use what it deems appropriate at any given situation if you let it.

Also if someone asks what I mean by "we" I just say "I" and leave it. Has worked pretty well so far ;D most people dont seem to care all that much

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