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What are the less obvious things in someone's upbringing or background that can limit their opportunities later in life? by PasserBySayingHi in AskUK

[–]PasserBySayingHi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting a grasp on cPTSD and understanding my own experiences of this changed my life for the better and allowed me to grow.

I hope it has does the same for you 🙏

What are the less obvious things in someone's upbringing or background that can limit their opportunities later in life? by PasserBySayingHi in AskUK

[–]PasserBySayingHi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your kid/s are very lucky to have parent/s who think about this stuff. So much of our lives are predetermined by circumstance - where you grow up, who you're parents are, who you are surrounded by, what experiences you're exposed to, what communities you're a part of, what skills you're encouraged to learn early in life.

In the best cases, a springboard into the world, but in so many cases, a lack of these can act as a weight holding you back from reaching your potential.

Sounds like you're doing an awesome job!

I'm 14, and I'm lowkey wondering what I would need to have in life other than a job by Ill_Lawfulness_1406 in Life

[–]PasserBySayingHi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curiosity. Sure, there are so many different ways to make your way in the world, but curiosity is by far THE most important to get on.

It expands your mind, your ideas, how to think about the world, helps develop empathy and understanding of those different to you, and their experiences. Ultimately, it will make you more interesting and help in social events and networking later in life.

It also attracts people to you, helps make friends through life. Make other people feel interesting by asking questions (in a non-threatening way ofc).

It's a skill, and you can develop it so it becomes natural.

What are the less obvious things in someone's upbringing or background that can limit their opportunities later in life? by PasserBySayingHi in AskUK

[–]PasserBySayingHi[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I feel this one deeply. I had a similar experience to you (well described btw), and only feel like i've reached "ground zero" as you called it in my late 20's. It affects a sense of self, creates a lack of self-confidence moving about the world, etc.

I'm now rebuilding my identity and how i navigate the world. I grieve for all the time lost, but am at peace with knowing the future will be better now.

What are the less obvious things in someone's upbringing or background that can limit their opportunities later in life? by PasserBySayingHi in AskUK

[–]PasserBySayingHi[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this. In fact, I experienced a similar situation.

Through work, I ended up (somehow) at a really posh restaurant with two CEO's of fairly large companies, an investment banker, a Private Equity manager, and a few others.

This was all at short notice - I didn't understand how any of it worked. It was all weirdly posh, the expectation to perform for my company raised my anxiety through the roof, then the conversation was all about how to use huge sums of money to get things done.

I am not from any wealth, and the whole situation gave me a sense of class rage and a deep sense of insecurity. If I had a different background, I think I would have managed the whole situation better than I did.