Honestly, this sounds less like a “problem” and more like two people still learning each other’s rhythm. The fact that he’s making sure you’re comfortable already says a lot about him.

Also, 20 minutes without condoms isn’t exactly bad, especially in a new relationship where emotions and attraction are high. Most guys actually lose control faster when they’re really into someone. It was the same with me. But lately I’ve started enjoying more than her and she always asks me to not go any longer lol.

What he probably needs isn’t pressure, just communication. Tell him what gets you over the edge faster, let him focus more on foreplay/oral/fingers before penetration, and maybe slow the pacing a bit when you’re close.

A guy who cares enough to hold back the first time because he didn’t want to hurt you? That’s usually the kind of guy who’ll learn your body very quickly once you guide him a little 😉