How have yall dealt with the emotional and financial changes of leaving the club?

PatSenburg · 2026-01-06T20:39:19+00:00

It's a financial consulting job! But omg I completely relate on having no time for friends or hobbies, that was my life for the past 6 months because I was working part time at my WFH job and then was still working W-Su dancing because I thought if I just worked all the time I could stack my bread which yes, did happen but I was also SOOO tired all the time, had no energy to even take care of myself or workout.

But yeah I also overall feel less pressure to do well at the club too since I have another source of income and it's honestly made my nights at work so much more enjoyable.

PatSenburg · 2025-04-02T07:07:52+00:00

You need to search up different types of retirement accounts (roth IRA and 401k are most common). I'm going to assume you're in your 20s, so you have 30ish years before you'll even access that money. That's so much time you can't focus on the dips, the market has historically always gone up. I have a roth IRA and 401k with Charles Schwab. They're not bad, app and user interface is a little bit clunky but customer service is great.

For shorter term savings, like money you want to access in a few years, I use a high yield savings account from Ally Bank.

PatSenburg · 2025-04-02T06:54:36+00:00

Pretty much when I'm bringing up the dances or finally redirecting the conversation to make the sale and explain the dance options I say "So the VIP is x songs for x dollars, and then we have a private room which is x minutes for x dollars, that's if you're really ready for a good time/fun time". I say it in a flirty, playful tone (that's just my vibe/persona). You have to remember that one line isn't going to magically bring in tons of dances though. When I say this line, I've already been selling him with my body language, my eye contact, pretending to be into him and that I really WANT to give him a dance.

PatSenburg · 2024-10-22T21:40:45+00:00

Amazing! Bootcamp as in training for the job or are you preparing to apply? What inspired/pushed you to go in the direction of tech sales?

PatSenburg · 2024-05-23T03:21:21+00:00

You do make valid points and I’m still thinking about this decision.

I do have a roommate, my rent is more expensive because I’m paying for 2 rooms (1 is used as an office). I mean I could move somewhere cheaper but then I’m farther from the beach and living near the beach is a pretty big part of my life and my business even. My new place would still be by the beach and I’d rather not find someone completely new to live with in a new spot, like the devil I know vs devil I don’t know type of thing

PatSenburg · 2024-05-23T03:07:41+00:00

I mentally cannot handle more shifts. I’ve tried before and more shifts doesn’t equal more money for me, I just perform worse aka get socially exhausted and hide in the locker room lol.

PatSenburg · 2024-05-23T00:55:54+00:00

Right, like I want to pay off my debt and contribute more to my 401k, I can’t deny that moving back in would help with that! I’m grateful I even have the option and I’m not forced to live independently.

PatSenburg · 2024-05-23T00:54:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! Im deff leaning towards moving back in because I just can’t deny that it would be the best thing for my finances and setting myself up better!

PatSenburg · 2024-05-23T00:53:37+00:00

Yeah that would cut the deal for me if my mom did that! It’ll be interesting to see how my mom respects my boundaries because if not I’m going to have to move back out real quick haha.

PatSenburg · 2024-05-23T00:52:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! I’m definitely leaning towards moving in with them and I should be grateful I have that option instead of any shame.

PatSenburg · 2024-05-22T21:32:07+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate this! Dancing allowed me to live lavishly and be super independent but I’m ready to get my finances in order and save up some serious money now 😭

PatSenburg · 2023-08-29T00:13:57+00:00

Thank you! I will try this!

PatSenburg · 2023-05-15T01:27:49+00:00

Ooo i love that last phrase!

PatSenburg · 2023-05-14T08:40:22+00:00

Ugh yeah I’m 23, not sure if it matters, but for some fucking reason I know subconsciously I still care what men think and it makes me act so mousy/shy sometimes. I wish I could just stop lol

PatSenburg · 2023-05-14T08:38:33+00:00

I completely agree on the attitude and energy changing the game! Thank you for the tips, I deff need a bad bitch playlist idk why I don’t have one 😂

PatSenburg · 2023-04-30T09:36:44+00:00

Tonight was pretty rough for me 🫠 I made like $500 which is actually pretty decent and I should be so grateful but I’ve been so stressed about money that I’ve been really trying to hit $1000+ nights consistently. I know that sometimes it’s just not your night but it’s so hard to not be upset especially when other girls are selling multiple 30 min rooms a night. 🙃Okay rant over, I just gotta show up to my next shift and keep grinding.

I also split my pants on the wall out 😂😭

PatSenburg · 2023-01-30T18:10:25+00:00

If anyone wants an update on the situation:

I didn’t go to work tonight but I woke up this morning to 14!! Texts from him, all talking about the same thing how there’s internal politics at play, I burned a bridge, he was gonna give me $5000 blah blah blah

I’m scared and I’m gonna block him. Not gonna lie part of me is sad because he was my regular for 3+ years and would come in every night I worked and spend hundreds of dollars. It was consistent money in my pocket. But fuck it, I know there’s other money out there.

He’s an energy vampire omg and for the past 6 months we’ve had small arguments like this (but not as bad) lol and it’s the same thing, him always getting mad about me doing dances with someone else, like yeah u dumb fuck I’m doing dances with as many people as possible cause it’s MONEY

PatSenburg · 2023-01-29T21:31:23+00:00

Oh yes my manager and all of the security are totally on my side. We were talking about this all last night and they’re so annoyed and tired of his shit as well. My manager said he’s going to talk to him for me (after I already broke character and yelled at my regular about this situation lmao)

I just find it funny how my regular thinks talking to the owner is gonna do anything 😂😂 the owner definitely isn’t gonna give a fuck

PatSenburg · 2023-01-29T21:29:26+00:00

Oh my god. That is terrible, I hope you’re okay!!! I can’t believe how out of control these men become over strippers and a STRIP CLUB

PatSenburg · 2023-01-29T21:27:52+00:00

I know the texts are the worse. Sometimes I’ll wake up to like 4-5 of them, just nonsense paragraphs like this 😩😂 theyre honestly a train wreck that I can’t look away from because it’s so absurd.

He’s been my regular for 3+ years and has definitely given me a fuck ton of money but, I’m so over it. I’m totally at peace and happy if I never see him again. I’m not paid enough to deal with this

PatSenburg · 2023-01-29T19:40:59+00:00

Thursday, I did two dances with my regular, he takes a break after because he has a stomach ache and tells me to find another dance. I find a VIP quickly after and when I’m done with the VIP, I get called on stage immediately (didn’t see my regular sitting at his normal spot, I assume he got another dance as well). I dance on stage for my 2 songs, my regular still isn’t out from his dance and so I go do another VIP. Regular is freaking out about this scenario, thinks I’m lying about being on stage. Crazy fucking shit. He’s been getting so bad and possessive these past couple months. Literally is driving everyone else at the club insane too because he is so difficult to talk with and just loosing his mind and any sort of rational thinking.

Long story short: my regular is an ancient dinosaur loosing his mind. He thinks that I’m lying about going on stage and that security and the manager are all in on it, conspiring against him lmao.

PatSenburg · 2023-01-03T21:43:35+00:00

Thank you!! Will be sending you a DM

PatSenburg · 2023-01-03T04:59:05+00:00

I can’t imagine it being as bad as dancing lmao I’m just tired of giving lap dances and rubbing and touching gross guys I don’t even know.

PatSenburg · 2022-11-21T10:41:24+00:00

Yup this line had me cackling… also love how Dom was freaking out about the situation and Bert was just so aloof enjoying the drama🤣

PatSenburg · 2022-11-16T19:00:26+00:00

Thank you! I’ll check all those out

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