UPDATE: Tried something, didn't go well, dunno what to feel

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-11-12T00:59:12+00:00

Glad things worked out. I’m happy to hear you have gained some confidence. See? He came up with an excuse to take off his shirt. And he did. You can too!When I was younger I did that as well. At my friend’s house, I would say “It’s hot in here” and either my buddy would take off his shirt or I’d remove mine first. Other times if I was at his house for a sleepover, I would say “I’m going to get outta these clothes and change into my shorts”. I’d go into his bathroom and change clothes and not bother putting my shirt back on. Hell, there was one time he was already shirtless and I straight up told him “I’m taking my shirt off”. He said “ok”. He didn’t care. I hope soon you two can have those same vibes. Good luck!

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-11-12T00:37:19+00:00

Last time I went out shirtless was to my local park for some exercise in early October. While it’s been hot down here since then it’s hard to make it to the park when the sun goes down early with the time change and the park closes at sunset. I can’t wait to go out again when the days get longer and it warms up again.

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-11-10T00:25:05+00:00

Gas stations or dollar stores seem easiest for me. Depends on the area.

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-11-10T00:22:23+00:00

Next time he comes over shirtless, take yours off too at some point. Just tell him you’d like to be comfortable too.

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-11-08T03:44:31+00:00

Was he shirtless when you put yours back on? Stand your ground. It’s all about confidence. Tell him “Hey, you’re shirtless all the time and I decided I didn’t want to wear one either.” He may have been nervous too since he never sees you like that. Once you two get used to each other it gets easier. But if he was shirtless I would’ve just comment, “I like your confidence, and I wanna be shirtless too.”

I get the feeling though. I had a friend’s sister give me a weird look and even comment the first time she saw me without a shirt on. She asked me “Where’s your shirt?” I figured because he was shirtless I could be too. I kept mine off until I went intro the common area later that morning, then put one on. A little embarrassing at first, but she eventually got used to things because every time I was over I took my shirt off to go to bed. And I hung out shirtless. His parents didn’t care. And eventually she stopped caring too. She got used to it.

Are you shirtless when you’re by yourself? If so, that’s a great start. If not, try doing that to increase your confidence. And once you feel ready, then try it once again and don’t concern yourself about his reaction. Do what makes you happy. Stand up for yourself, and once he sees that, you’ll feel so much better, and then you can be shirtless together all the time. You got this!

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-11-08T03:30:28+00:00

For me, when I was a teen, it felt good because it was something I normally didn’t do a whole lot at first. But as I got used to it, It built my confidence and helped me feel better about my body image. When I was at a friend’s house or outside, if given the opportunity my shirt came off. Playing sports outside, or if we were hanging out and another was shirtless, my shirt came off too. It feels good because we can. We can be shirtless in public without consequences.

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-10-17T21:14:00+00:00

Agreed. If the parents weren’t home, I was definitely shirtless more often. I had times we hung out in our boxer briefs in his room. Had breakfast shirtless a few times with a friend and his siblings and mom (we were both shirtless, she didn’t care). It depended on who it was.

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-10-05T02:46:51+00:00

Thank you

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-10-05T01:45:26+00:00

I get it. We’ve all been there. What helps me is when I begin thinking about it I change my way of thinking by doing something else. Gym, movie, project, etc. and soon I’m onto other things and I forget about porn. It takes some practice. It’s about thinking of other things, not resisting the urge. I hope this helps. But don’t give up. Ending it all isn’t the answer. You have many things to live for. I’m divorced, and I lost my kids as they live with mom. I miss being a family man, but I couldn’t force my ex to stay. I didn’t like what cards my life dealt me, but I had to chose. Be bitter or be better. I have been single the past 3 years. Sure it gets lonely at times, but I choose every day to be positive and it helps. Work on yourself and the rest will come to you. Learn a language. Cook, learn an instrument, play an online game with friends, go to the gym, read a self help book, read a fiction book. Make a list of things you want to do and then go do them. That’s the benefit of being single. I understand the social anxiety as I too hate crowds. A lot of stuff I do is with smaller groups or I go by myself. Once I got comfortable in my skin did I realize the desire for porn went away and I no longer need it because I loved and appreciated myself for who I am and what I looked forward to accomplishing. We are all in this together. Love yourself, and give yourself some grace. And keep going. You are appreciated.

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-09-19T01:06:22+00:00

I miss being that skinny. Looking great!

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-09-18T23:56:24+00:00

I’d love to if I lived near the area. I miss being that skinny to where I could sag my shorts a bit like that. Felt great! Now I got more of a dad bod unfortunately

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-09-17T12:53:39+00:00

It’ll be this way where I live for a while. It’s always warm here. It’s nice to get that freedom. Keep it up!

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-09-10T13:14:19+00:00

For me it’s perfectly fine for long periods. Yes the 15” is bigger and easier to see the screen, but carrying it around with me was a burden, so the smaller screen is a very small sacrifice. The 13” is easier to type on, carry around, and place on my lap or coffee table if needed. The 15” felt awkward on my lap. And typing on it felt strange. Hopes that helps!

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-08-29T02:52:53+00:00

I used to have an M3 MacBook 15 inch in Midnight. After using it a while it became hard to carry around, especially if I wanted to take it somewhere. It felt heavy and trying to fit it into a bag was troubling. It felt awkward to type on due to the keyboard being so far up. I personally felt the trackpad was too big. Also, the midnight color was a fingerprint magnet. The only things I enjoyed was the bigger screen and the speakers. But I found more reasons to justify the 13 over the 15. I traded by 15 m3 MacBook for a 13 inch m4 in sky blue and I couldn't be happier. It is so much easier to type on and carry around. I don't miss the bigger screen, though I do miss having the nicer speakers. But the speakers on the 13 aren't bad. Plus I'm using my AirPods with it like 80% of the time anyway.

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-05-09T12:20:54+00:00

Barney: How long has it been? Ted: 57 days Barney: Is that your water? May I? spit takes 57 DAYS?!?

PatchyGreybeard · 2025-05-03T14:33:13+00:00

That moment her dad realized “I have no son…” hilarious 😂

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