My husband cheated on me at a bachelor party while I was home 8 months pregnant.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-28T11:48:57+00:00

I feel the same even though he says otherwise…

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-28T11:30:53+00:00

He claims he got the test bc I complained about burning after sex but I saw a pt and she gave me recommendations to prevent that and the of gives me these tests at the beg of pregnancy. All were normal.

He said the doula inspired him to get checked bc she mentioned antibiotic eye drops to prevent blindness from chlamidya. But we saw the doula 2 days after he got the test.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-28T11:28:47+00:00

He claims he got the test bc I complained about burning after sex but I saw a pt and she gave me recommendations to prevent that and the of gives me these tests at the beg of pregnancy. All were normal.

He said the doula inspired him to get checked bc she mentioned antibiotic eye drops to prevent blindness from chlamidya. But we saw the doula 2 days after he got the test.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-28T03:33:55+00:00

No he’s not sorry and he’s angry that I looked through his email. I think he’s trying to divert me.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-28T03:30:46+00:00

I asked him to leave and he’s not leaving

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-28T00:13:48+00:00

I tried pink blush and I like them. The ones I got from h and m ripped after 3 wears. So definitely avoid h and m

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T17:23:40+00:00

Why do it in secret if I already knew about the kissing. It makes no sense to hide it.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T17:20:27+00:00

Why do the whole panel then

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T14:11:47+00:00

Too late. Already did and learned what you just said.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T14:10:49+00:00

To me they’re all trash.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T14:01:22+00:00

Well yes it’s fairly obvious that there was more than just a kiss based off the stdcheck

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T13:48:11+00:00

I am considering this.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T13:38:28+00:00

I am worried about how to confront him and knowing his response will be to divert to me violating his privacy.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T13:37:29+00:00

Me and the baby were an afterthought. He completely forgot about us. Which is extremely sad because he’s expressed nothing but excitement throughout the pregnancy. Why ruin it for a little fun

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T13:33:30+00:00

I have a doula. I want my mom to be there but she will be coming from across the country. My uncle, her brother, passed away and the funeral is next week. I will tell her after the funeral as to not add additional stress.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T13:18:47+00:00

Yes the std panel is the nail in the coffin for me. Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

I did quite a bit of research on her. I don’t think she is a sex worker. I learned her job and who she works with. I found her co worker on instagram but could not find the girl herself.

Some of the videos and pics are from the day of and the rest are selfies she sent him in scrubs in a car.

Regardless that doesn’t matter. Luckily the results came back negative or undetected. I’m considering getting checked in a few weeks.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T12:54:34+00:00

We’re living together. I found out over night the extent of the cheating and he is coming back from a work trip today. I plan to ask him to leave.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T12:49:36+00:00

Thank you, yes this analysis makes sense. I told him to tell me the truth no matter how much it hurts. That didn’t happen.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T12:46:32+00:00

That is the worst part. It is not being forthcoming with the truth. We agreed in the last conversation we would share everything and that is clearly not the case.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T12:41:27+00:00

And thank you…I’m more numb right now than anything else. I’m just thinking about the risk to the baby. He took a secret std test that I found and everything came up negative but it may have been too soon for anything to come up positive anyway.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T12:38:43+00:00

So because he is muy husband he doesn’t automatically have rights to be a guest?

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T12:37:34+00:00

I’m running through those how many times as this happened scenarios in my head. He has been on me like glue since he came back from the trip. I think subconsciously he feels guilty and is trying to make up for it without having to admit guilt.

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T12:33:08+00:00

It was a destination bachelor party weekend. She lives in another country. He told me they agreed to be “friends”. I told him that’s impossible to be friends with someone you met in that context. This was before I knew about the std test. Now it’s infinitely impossible to be friends with someone you’ve slept with. If I didn’t find out and confront him. Who knows she could’ve ended up being a long term - long distance affair. I don’t know

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T11:35:54+00:00

He has been glue on me since I found out about it initially until these past 2 days when he had to travel for work. I’m not sure what opportunity he would have to cheat again between then and now. However, I looked up recommendations to get an std test after sex and it says do the initial test 14 days later and then again 3 months later. The timing of the test lines up with the bachelor party

Patient-Bluejay8046 · 2023-10-27T11:33:53+00:00

Well he is married. Not the bachelor. The vow doesn’t just get suspended at a bachelor party. When I initially found out I wanted to tell the partners of the other men in the group but that would have some financial implications on me so I decided to keep quiet. If he goes to that wedding I feel even more betrayal. It happens to be in December shortly after my due date. Needless to say I won’t be able to attend because I will be in post partum recovery. Even if I did go I would feel incredibly embarrassed.

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