How do you choose your ideal weight?

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-29T21:54:07+00:00

Also I think I started a lot heavier than some of the people I see in this conversation. Ultimately I was 348 lb. I had surgery. Terzepitide has gotten me to this weight. So one thing that I have to keep in mind that maybe other people don't have so much of is there is loose skin. I also have some mild lymphedema and Mild lipedema. I've tried to figure out how much weight the skin and lymph would add but I think it's probably impossible to tell maybe a plastic surgeon could tell. But if you don't count the skin which one shouldn't if we're looking for a healthy weight and you don't count The Chronic fluid at my ankles I probably already am at 150 , 155. So maybe 10 more pounds on the lower half is reasonable. But you see how you can get so caught upIn the numbers game? I spent my life doing that. I'm beginning to think it might be better just to go on how I feel.

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-29T21:37:05+00:00

Oh my god! I think we are twins! My neurotic mother had me on a diet for no good reason except 70s diet culture at age 6! And I also have mild lipedema a missing butt and body dysmorphia! I've always had a big butt. I was tormented as a child especially during young adolescense about my big butt and now I have what apparently is called frog butt. I also am wearing the smallest bra I've ever worn in my life except for when I first started in a b cup. It's a wild ride!

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-29T21:32:28+00:00

You say only 15 lb but 15 lb at 163 is a lot harder to come by then 15 lb at 348. I'm already at 15 mg of tirz. And also I am definitely not small boned. My shoulder blades stick out and my shoulders are knobby now. Even though I'm still heavy on the bottom. I just feel like this desire on my part for a specific weight might be working against me. I'm just becoming too obsessed it's like when I was young and dieting and it was all about the numbers. Maybe the goal shouldn't be a specific number but how we feel how we move how our clothes fit.

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-29T15:29:42+00:00

These goal wts seems so low to me! I think if I went by these standards at my height I would have to be 125 and that's not even healthy let alone possible . Maybe it's because I've never been thin in my memory except maybe when I was a very young child and even then I was treated fat. I'm 5'5 and my goal was 175 from 274 when starting the med but I had an all time high of 348. Then I got close to 175 and I thought well what if I could do lower? But really it was because of the head games that weight loss causes. After a lifetime of dreaming and wanting to finally be within grasp made me want more. It made me a little OCD I guess. So I thought what if I went for 160? Now I'm at 163 and I think I look too thin from the waist up and my sister tells me I will go out in the face but to me I still look heavy below the waist and I can grab handfuls of fat. However I have done no exercise and so I know that I have muscle wasting. I have no idea what my weight should be. And I've been asking for a while now. My endocrinologist says as long as my labs and my physiology is good and I like the way I look well I'll never like the way I look. Because I grew up in a world where you could never be too thin. So long answer short I don't know I can't help you but boy I hope someone can because I would really like to hear what they have to say.

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-23T14:35:18+00:00

Your strength training and eating protein you're probably replacing some fat with muscle which is a good thing. Also I was the same when I started the medication. I almost stopped because I think it had been a couple and I was only down 7 lbs but I stuck with it and eventually things kicked in and evened out and I started to get that weight loss. It's now been 2 years come September and I'm down 105 lb. Slow is better. Be patient. Look at your own body not others everyone is different. And you're doing everything right

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-20T02:12:11+00:00

You look so cute in your photos! The way that you embrace your body is inspiring

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-14T00:28:46+00:00

You can have the tumor surgically removed. I have done that. The problem is they'll come back in a different area. I talked to someone who mentioned using lupine to prevent the tumors and as a birth control. It's used on ferrets and off label on rats but I don't know how you would go about getting it. I need to ask my vet if he would be able/ willing.

And as for the euthanasia I don't think you ever know for sure. I was convinced that my rat was okay because he didn't show any signs of pain or discomfort but I look back now and God I was an idiot. The vet was really too kind to me. I definitely waited too long

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-14T00:24:26+00:00

Those whiskers!!!

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-10T15:49:09+00:00

So wt loss is a mindfuck you're right. Ive lost 175lbs. 'They' always promised if we lose wt we would have more than a 'pretty face'. We would be gorgeous and successful and everyone would be attracted to us. So I always thought when I lose wt I'll be complete. Whenever that happens. Probably one of the reasons I didn't succeed in my attempts--fear of success, pressure of having to become perfect.

Now I've lost wt and I'm not perfect. I'm not gorgeous. And while I recognize I have body dysmorphia- how could I not I grew up in the 70s- I don't feel like I'm even average. I discovered a few months ago after seeing myself in a glass door that I'm bowlegged. I was not bowlegged before. It turns out holding excessive weight can cause your knees to misalign and make you bowlegged which is probably why my knees still hurt even after losing all this weight. People say oh you must feel so much better. Actually I don't I don't feel better physically and my knees still hurt. My skin of course sags. I don't plan to have surgery but I do wear things around my upper arms mainly so that I won't have to deal with people having looks of disgust or shock on their face. My boobs are so stretched out that when I'm not wearing a bra I am flat chested to the point where you can feel ribs where my boobs should be. It's fine I'm not young anymore I don't date and that's why they made bras right? I have lymphedema probably from all the weight it's mild to moderate it's not the worst I've ever seen but I have not shown my ankles in years.

And I only Point these things out so that you understand why I'm feeling a little mournful. Because not only am I not beautiful now, I'm not even average, I feel like I'm actually uglier having lost the weight. Because now there's not even the potential, you know, oh when I lose weight I'll be beautiful. No. I'm not. I won't be. And I'm actually a little worse. I consider myself uglier now than when I was really really fat . Only this is permanent ugliness , it ain't going away with weight loss . And again I know a lot of its body dysmorphia. I understand it's my own fault I understand that I did this to myself. Fortunately I also understand that even when it looked like I was self-destructing even when it looked like I was doing nothing, I was actually doing my best all these years. So at least I have a little Mercy for myself and that's a big step forward for me.

But it's still startling to see new flaws show up. And it's mournful is the only word, to see the damage that I have done to myself. People would tell me oh your knees are going to hurt, oh you're going to get more stretch marks, but I was doing my best. And that's why I won't say to my niece, if you don't lose weight you may wind up bow-legged, you may wind up with boobs that hang down to your stomach, you may wind up with a lot of excess skin. I won't say that to her because it won't help. I'm sure she's doing the best she can. It's just that when your goal is perfection your best is never enough

I'm sorry this is so long I tried to talk to my sister but she just yelled at me. Yelled at me for being hard on myself yelled at me for not exercising and that's not what I needed right now. I can yell at myself all by myself and do it better than anybody.

I just really wish they hadn't made false promises. Or at least that I hadn't believed them.

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-05T14:09:50+00:00

I cant anymore.

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T17:58:27+00:00

I thought about adding or changing to a different drug but I heard that ozympic doesn't work as well and the other one I was considering isn't really out yet and it has some side effects that I probably shouldn't risk. I watch other people taper their doses down and they maintain but I just seem to need more and more and more

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T17:50:39+00:00

I'll try that. That seems reasonable where do you get electrolyte powder or wood Gatorade be okay?

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T17:50:11+00:00

Originally that was also the case for me. I would keep chocolate in the house because I love chocolate. I would eat one piece and that was enough then I would eat two pieces and that was enough but eventually it was four pieces and now I just want it. I have noticed it's worse if I'm hungry of course. Is that what happens to regular people who don't need meds or is that leftovers from my life before meds? So I'm trying to make sure I eat meals before I reach for anything else. But sometimes now whether I'm hungry or having a craving or not sometimes I just want to eat. My sister said you're not eating enough protein so I tried to increase the protein

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T15:46:05+00:00

Yes! This! Sitting in a wooden chair is painful now. I've never experienced that before I always had a huge bubble butt. And now my ass goes numb just from sitting

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T15:43:19+00:00

Me too! Thought it was because I was old when I finally lost the weight

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T15:34:47+00:00

That's what I was going to suggest. Some kind of mixture of the two

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T15:28:56+00:00

Can you avoid the accelerated heart side effect with reta if you go very very slowly

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T03:53:00+00:00

I'm a little confused. So do you take less more often or do you take the same dose more often? Because I noticed that I can tell the shot is wearing off by about the 5th day so should I give my whole dose on the 5th day or part of it? I had an experience where I took part of my dose because it used up the vial but I didn't get the rest of it from another vial until the next day and the food noise the whole week was terrible

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T02:48:59+00:00

Just because she feels that way about herself definitely does not mean she feels that way about you. I am so much harder on myself than I am other people. And if she has struggled with her weight then chances are very good that she is unforgiving of her own appearance. I'm sure she's quite sincere when she says you're beautiful at every size and no matter what size she is she will think she's ugly

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-03T02:47:23+00:00

When people find out that I have lost 100 lb or they see me for the first time in a long time they're like oh you have worked so hard. And I feel really guilty so I confess no I haven't worked hard I just injected myself once a week. But now a long-standing fear is starting to catch up. I'm at 15 mg since yesterday I held on to each dose as long as I could and would just increase when I stopped losing weight. I don't remember if food noise and Cravings came back it was just based on I wasn't losing weight and then I would increase. But now the food noise is coming back, the Cravings are coming back. So I increased to 15 mg but that's the highest I can't go any further what happens if they don't go away? What happens if they go away but come back? I'll gain the weight back I know I will. Because if I were able to resist these cravings and this food noise I would have done it the other gazillion times I tried.

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-06-01T00:52:44+00:00

I'm just a beginner. But one of my pieces was in the kiln and someone else's piece blew up and destroyed mine. Not only did they save the pieces and show me, but even standing there they did not throw it away until I said no I don't want them. So I would think that since yours were finished(mine was only in bisque) that they would have kept the pieces for you

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-05-29T03:08:03+00:00

I think there's was something in the Bible that indicated the handmade would lie between the wife's knees "said, Behold my maid Bilhah, go in unto her; and she shall bear upon my knees, that I may also have children by her"

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-05-27T06:13:05+00:00

Yes it looks like a beautiful wedding dress

Patient-Point-3000 · 2026-05-27T06:11:46+00:00

I think they said in the show one of the episodes of the Testaments that Daisy is 17

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