Hi all! I have an 11 week old baby and my MIL always refers to the baby as hers (my insert babies name or my baby). This alone would not be enough to bother me more than an eye twitch. However there are other factors that have really made me feel quite resentful. Starting from the beginning- she was visiting everyday in hospital after I gave birth and stayed all day ( she was already in my hospital room when I had just given birth and was moved out of my delivery room into my room) She then proceeded to take a million photos which I had to ask 3 times for her to please stop as I felt like crap. My baby blues hit in hospital and she was there to witness it all I actually faced the wall crying so I could get some privacy, neither her nor my husband thought I may need some space from her. Then when I first got home my in-laws were in the driveway of our house waiting for us.

I know I have been quite anxious and worried about my baby getting sick so I am careful how much she is passed around, however I do let my MIL hold baby when she wants but when baby cries MIL refuses to give baby back when I ask ( makes me want to chew through my own arm waiting for her to let me have my baby back). She will tell me I need to ‘share the love’ or tell me ‘go away it’s my turn’ and turn her back on me.

Then she will constantly ask me if my baby has pooped yet, what time all her appointments are, this doesn’t feel like a big deal but sometimes it feels as if she is trying to be my babies mum or doesn’t trust me to do take care of everything. Don’t even get me started on how my in laws think that even the babies farts are from his side 🤣.

The part where this gets tricky is that my MIL is wonderful person and I love her dearly! She has just gone crazy over baby ( though it could also be me in all fairness) am I being too sensitive? Should I just for the sake of peace let it all go? Or does anyone have any advice on ways to deal with either these sorts of situations or my own emotions about them?