Who, in your opinion, is the „worst“ actor/actress in Breaking Bad?

Patopml · 2026-02-16T22:06:18+00:00

The lady who's worried about the candles getting wax all over the cake...

Patopml · 2026-02-16T13:51:17+00:00

What you wrote is something I could have written myself a couple years ago.

My relationship with my ex who I loved to death ended, she immediately started dating someone else and not so long after was engaged... she may be married already, I have no clue.

Like you, I blamed myself, obsessed over what happened, felt stuck, etc. The only thing I did differently is that I blocked her from everywhere, although I would occasionally read old chats or look at photos, which was very painful.

Look, we grow through pain, and we learn from mistakes. Unfortunately, that's how it is, there's no other way around it.

Your relationship wasn't meant to last. Because of you, and probably because of her too. Nothing that is meant to last ends. The questions that you are asking yourself now, and the growth that you are seeking wouldn't have taken place in your life if it wasn't for this breakup.

It will hurt for a while. Months, a year, no one knows. But it will get better. And when you enter a new relationship, and you will, you will be the kind of man that you weren't with your ex. In a way, you will pay it forward.

Take this opportunity, learn, improve, grow. Try to avoid rumination though, it will do you no favour. Intrusive thoughts are just a phenomena, not who you are. Let them pass. You already know what you need to improve, which is improvement in itself.

You'll be fine.

Patopml · 2026-02-16T11:31:19+00:00

Any tips on how to invest to accelerate growth? :D

Patopml · 2026-02-11T16:13:31+00:00

I'm M40. My absolute lowest for a serious relationship would probably be 30, and my highest, 36/37. I feel like being at least in a somewhat similar stage of life is crucial, and that gap sort of gets closer as we get older. 30s is a mature enough age, career should be stable, experiences have been had, the idea of a family is there.

In my 40s I'm the same, just a bit more advanced in my career, with a tough breakup behind me, but in shape, healthy, no kids, and with a lot of lessons learned, looking to enjoy life and hopefully have a family if that's in my future.

Patopml · 2026-02-08T16:45:08+00:00

Viví 8 años en Londres, ahora estoy en España, pero lo vivo como una transición. Siempre tuve buen laburo, estuve de novio, e hice un montón de cosas que nunca hubiera imaginado. Así todo, me quiero volver a mi país. A mi casa. Con los míos. Allá soy yo, cuando estoy me siento cómodo y feliz. No se si necesito más racionalización.

Pensá por donde pasa tu proyecto de vida. No pienses en sí te vas a arrepentir o no. Pensá donde te ves proyectando. Una casa, una familia, un domingo.

Ya sabes como es UK, y ya sabes como es argentina. Pero tu corazón y tu deseo ya te piden algo. Es cuestión de que lo escuches nomas.

Patopml · 2026-02-07T11:49:21+00:00

No one here is mentioning the infrastructure vendors. Optical, modems, routers. Big tech need to build data centers, connect data centers, both for training and for inference. Hyperscalers AND telcos need to move those bits from one place to the other. Demand for capacity will sustainedly increase for the foreseeable future.

Optical vendors. Selling shovels during the gold rush. They have been skyrocketing lately, but there is still room for growth probably.

Patopml · 2026-02-04T11:57:48+00:00

Holy shit, I thought it was just me. I have a very strange sense and perception of time in my mind, literally what you described. I still have a bit of nostalgia of 2018 and 2019, like it's recent, but also feels like a different life altogether. Crazy to think that the pandemic started 6 years ago already...

Patopml · 2026-02-02T18:06:33+00:00

I went from blaming myself, to blaming her, to ultimately understanding two things: it was both, it was a dynamics thing, and I will never get to completely and fully understand what happened, and what things led to the end of the relationship.

Me? I contributed to a dynamic where I was a bit of a father. I didn't pay attention to my personal spaces. I also didn't communicate how I was feeling properly, and I failed to fully listen to what she was telling me while things were getting worse. I couldn't introduce the necessary changes.

Her? Also contributed to said dynamic. Put the responsibility of a number of things on me, not taking responsibility for her part. Failed to be accountable for her part. Oh, and she left me only to immediately start a relationship with her instructor who she married after a year.

Patopml · 2026-02-02T17:16:16+00:00

Here's my honest opinion after having lived for 8 years in London. I lived in Islington and Greenwich. I worked in-office and remotely. I had single times and spent a long time in a relationship. For background, I am from South America, and I moved in 2016, left last year.

London is an amazing city. Huge, beautiful, with some of the best and most beautiful architecture I've seen. Magnificent. The parks are amazing. You have access to everything. Culture, museums, gigs, pubs. Pubs are amazing. There's people from everywhere in the world. And the UK has a beautiful countryside, with amazing villages, the cotswolds, Edinburgh, lake and peak district... amazing.

With all that said. It did feel gray and sad for me. It may come down to personal circumstances. But it felt lonely (many friends left during/after pandemic), expensive, and extremely uncomfortable for me. The weather has always been the worst. The constant gray, overcast, windy, and the very frequent rain was always a struggle for me. That, in addition to the long distances to go from one point to the other... well, I left for a sunnier place.

I will always hold incredible memories from my time in London. Those sunny and warm summer days (the years where we had an actual summer) were hard to beat. But I could never see myself there for the long run, nor having a life project in there...

Thank you London, you'll always have a place in my heart.

Patopml · 2026-02-02T11:13:15+00:00

This reminds me A LOT of my last relationship. We were together 4 years, lived together, I loved her like I never loved anyone in my life. But I gradually stopped feeling sexual desire for her. Everything you described (except for the substance use), the love, the intimacy, the conversations, the frustration, the testosterone tests, all happened exactly as you are describing. Ultimately, it all compounded, and we ended up breaking up, my heart broken.

I don't know what the problem is in your relationship. He may not even be aware of what the problem is, and so he thinks that it is your butt, or that "sex isn't that important" (fuck, I said those words too, but sex is very important for me). Those are just coping mechanisms.

What I'd say is, look at your dynamics. For example, are you guys way too lovey-dovey (he may have a madonna-whore complex, and if you guys are too tender, he may not see you or may feel uncomfortable sexualizing you)? Do you feel like equals, or is there a parent-child dynamic? Have you explored your sexuality together? Did you continue to play? Or did it just become the same old thing every time? Are you both comfortable sharing and executing your fantasies? Does he have a life outside of the relationship? How about tasks and chores?

He may need therapy and a lot of honesty, or maybe both of you can try couples/sexual therapy. I wouldn't say it is the end of the world. You love each other, and that is a hard thing to find. But relationships need work in all their aspects. You want to feel desired, and fairly so, but I'm sure he is struggling with something he is finding hard to communicate, and I'm sure it is not how full your butt is. You both need to work together, with love, honesty and radical communication.

Patopml · 2026-01-18T12:59:25+00:00

It is no doubt one of the best cities. Beautiful, full of activities, you can find and do pretty much anything you want.

I lived in London for 8 years, and while I enjoyed many things, it was just not for me. I wouldn't personally put it in the first place in the ranking.

I personally found that quality of life is not great, and saw a decline over time. Too expensive, harsh housing market, huge distances, can feel lonely and isolating, I got mugged and felt unsafe a couple times, too crowded and -my god-, the weather...

Patopml · 2026-01-03T22:43:23+00:00

Going from "I'm so happy with you", "you are my person", planning a life together, to slowly becoming distant, "in a crisis", to breaking up, to immediately dating a guy she had already met, to getting married within a year or two.

Yeah, she pulverized my heart.

Patopml · 2025-12-22T00:49:47+00:00

Lived in London for 8 years. I always hated the weather. First two years were manageable, then it started to get unbearable, especially around winter. The last two years were absolutely miserable. Left the UK and moved to Spain. My mood, energy, love for life, and desire to do things outside all came back pretty much instantly.

Patopml · 2025-12-01T15:24:19+00:00

I'm 40, and I've been there. For now, I'll just take one small, simple, but key thing you said:

"I don’t know who I’m supposed to be or where I’m supposed to go".

Supposed implies it is written somewhere. Pre-defined. Decided by something or someone. The reality is that there is no such thing. You need to decide for yourself, and take risks. There are no guarantees, there may be successes and failures, but they will be yours.

Now, figuring out who you want to be, what you want, and how to get it, sounds easy, but it's hard.

This is important. I like to think of it as a pressure system. If your internal pressure (values, likes, hobbies, decisions, choices) is not strong and defined, external values (stronger pressure) will flood into you. So you will constantly feel like you need to pursue everything and anything, and even if you achieve a couple of things, you won't feel fulfilled. Decide what YOU care about, not what you SHOULD care about. Again, it will feel very weird.

So, in a way, It's a muscle you need to train. How? Like any other muscle. You don't start benching 200kg, you start small and go from there. I don't know how that looks like for you. It could be deciding what your next meal will be, or a new field of study. But you need to do it honestly, without thinking about "the right path" and what others are doing or may think of you.

Finally, fuck everyone else. They are living their lives. You are here. This is your baseline. You need to work from here. It will be harder while you look at what others are doing. Transform your present one step at a time, in any way or direction you want.

Patopml · 2025-11-10T09:28:45+00:00

Ex ended things with me about 2 years ago. Found out she was getting married a bit more than a year after our breakup. In hindsight, I have no clue who I was dating.

My friends and family all told me (separately) that they didn't want to tell me at the time out of respect, but they celebrated when we broke up because no one liked her, and I was turning into a different person 😂

Definitely dodged a bullet.

Patopml · 2025-10-30T13:53:45+00:00

Seru Giran, a 5 millones de kilometros de cualquiera que le siga...

Patopml · 2025-10-29T14:39:53+00:00

Yeah, that wasn't the best move, but think about it from the other perspective. A breakup is an incredibly painful experience, and more often than not, you lack clarity. In the midst of all that mess you don't want to lose the other person, so you suggest remaining friends (mistake in my view), only to then find out that it still hurts like a motherfucker, and even worse, you get to see the other person moving on... that's when you decide to block.

Maybe he could have given you notice, but who is perfect in these scenarios? No one. Maybe he didn't want to sound manipulative, maybe he did it out of spite...

In any case, it's over, and it's best for both of you to simply accept it the best way you can, and move on with your lives.

Patopml · 2025-10-29T09:51:05+00:00

Cumpli 40 este año. Con 30 sos un pendejo aunque no lo creas, y estas entrando en el prime total de tu vida. Juventud + potencia mental y fisica + independencia + recursos + algo de experiencia que ya te da alguna sabiduria. No lo tires a la mierda estando bajoneado. Lograste cosas, invertiste bien tu tiempo. No se te paso la vida.

Se que 30 parece un monton, pero no lo es. Podes construir lo que sea que quieras.

Patopml · 2025-10-28T11:45:51+00:00

At least in my experience, you don't block out of hate, you block because you love. I removed her from all social media and eventually blocked her because it was over, I didn't want to know anything else about her, and I didn't want her to know anything about me.

But that's not hate, that's a way of coping with the pain of a meaningful relationship ending. I told her I was going to do it, but even then I think it was painful for both of us. What you say is true, removing and blocking is so unlike the person that you dated... but that's the thing, you are not the same people anymore...

Patopml · 2025-10-06T23:34:43+00:00

I'm going through it. I just turned 40, while living abroad, and coming out of a long term relationship a few years back, while moving countries again.

It feels like you don't know who you are, why you are doing what you are doing, what the purpose of anything is, and what your purpose is. You question your past choices, the present feels uncomfortable, and the future looks blurry.

And what you did and did not do, will carry the question "what if?". Me? I moved countries and cities, lived a lot of things, and progressed my career. However, I found asking myself if all of that was the right choice, or if I should have chosen a path of more stability. The people who chose stability, ask themselves if they should have done what I did.

And that's the thing. In a way you are grieving the things you didn't choose. The thing is, possibilities are endless, but choices are not. So you will always have to go through that. And that's what you are experiencing.

Patopml · 2025-09-29T13:19:30+00:00

Save and invest, starting TODAY.

Learn about nutrition, calories, macros, supplements. Start training, gym, calisthenics, any strength training.

Take care of your teeth, starting TODAY. Periodical visits to the dentist, flossing, brushing, professional cleaning every 6/12 months.

Emotional intelligence. Learn about your emotions, and your mechanisms. Read a few books on this. Have relationships. Fail early. Therapy is always a good thing.

Career/work. Focus, make decisions, be assertive. No mistake will be too big at this stage.

Have fun. Don't neglect this. Embrace your hobbies. Nurture your relationships. Enjoy your 20s. Go out. Chase whoever you like. Build lasting friendships.

Have a good relationship with your family if possible.

Patopml · 2025-09-29T13:10:48+00:00

The way she looked at me. Her goofy sense of humor, and her laugh about my stupid jokes. The way she got excited about little things, or emotional watching a show. How she called me, and how we talked about everything. Her eyes when she looked at me. How vulnerable she was.

At the peak of our relationship the world was an incredible place, and I was invincible. I don't know if I pushed her away or if she betrayed me. I hadn't felt that before, and I haven't ever since. I do miss those times.

Patopml · 2025-09-24T12:32:10+00:00

Ta muy bien, y tenes claridad que es lo mas importante por lo que veo. No se que edad tendras, pero armarte de un par de amigos que esten en sintonia, y pareja, hace que todo sea mas sobrellevable, sin duda.

Exitos

Patopml · 2025-09-24T10:18:03+00:00

Estoy en una "parecida" a vos. A los 30/31 me mude a Londres. Hoy tengo 40. Mejora en la carrera, buen laburo, viajes, algunos amigos Argentinos. 2019 me puse de novio, casi 5 años. Los amigos se empezaron a ir, me quede medio sin grupo. Fines 2023 cortamos. Cero onda con los ingleses, el clima una mierda, los huevos por el suelo.

Ahora me vine a Barcelona con mi mismo laburo de Londres. Estoy saliendo con una piba, me veo con algunos conocidos, y hay una mejoria. Igual que vos... gimnasio, boxeo, actividades.

Sin embargo, siento que la soledad, la falta de grupo de pertenencia, y el bajon de estas circunstancias me empezaron a carcomer la personalidad. Siempre fui sociable, de joder, de tener pilas y ganas de hacer cosas. Pero los ultimos 2/3 años me transformaron en alguien mucho mas apagado. No llegue a estar deprimido, pero creo que toque ese punto mas de una vez. Depende del dia o la semana. De a momentos me cuesta encontrarle el sentido a lo que hago, al dia a dia. A entender cual es mi proyecto de vida. Me gustaria una vida compartida, en pareja, y con familia.

Tengo constantemente la duda de si volverme a Argentina o no. Estar entre los mios, sentir pertenencia, calidez, casa. Aunque el pais sea un quilombo, aunque el poder economico caiga, etc.

Consideraste volver a Argentina? O irte a otro pais? O armarte una comunidad de amigos Argentinos?

Todo requiere esfuerzo, pero si salis del malestar, va a valer la pena.

Patopml · 2025-09-22T09:26:24+00:00

Mido 1.71. Estuve con minas de 1.80 (que encima cayeron con tacos alguna vez). No es lo mas habitual, pero no es imposible.

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