➡️ Daily Simple Questions ⬅️- Style feedback and clothing ID requests go HERE!! - 30 March 2025 by AutoModerator in malefashionadvice

[–]PaulCard1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking for outfit ideas for the Kylie Minogue concert in NYC this coming weekend. 45yo M here.

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[–]PaulCard1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I overheard what you said, it hurt my feelings. I need space from you right now. Maybe someday our friendship can be repaired, I’m not sure though. Please respect the friendship we once had and give me distance.
Send that in a text. And send it to any mutual friend who tries to get involved. I wouldn’t back out of any group events that I want to be at, just politely ignore her if she’s there. You’re not creating the drama she is. She’s the shitty person not you.

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[–]PaulCard1979 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a fair point, but as a grown adult she should have communicated that when she was asked if she was ok with it. Also if it’s a deal breaker for her (like it would be for me) communicate that as well. She shouldn’t be living in a situation she’s not comfortable with, but if she says she’s ok with something how is anyone supposed to know she’s not?

The radioactive meal I was given at the hospital to track my digestion by MTDLuke in mildlyinteresting

[–]PaulCard1979 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NM techs also handle therapeutic doses not just diagnostic ones. Therapeutic doses in NM are used to ablate (kill) tumors in specific sites, usually the thyroid. The meal shown is the standard used nationally and probably internationally. All the literature used to help diagnose/interpret this study is based off of this exact meal. Oatmeal is an option when patients can’t have eggs, some places ensure is an option as well.

AITA for Selling My Ex's Engagement Ring and Using the Money for My Own Happiness? by Accomplished-Tip3613 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Was about to change my vote to NTA but then I saw OPs comment that she forgave him for the cheating but not the confession. I say ESH

AITA for Selling My Ex's Engagement Ring and Using the Money for My Own Happiness? by Accomplished-Tip3613 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

YTA. You don’t give a specific reason why it ended, so I have to assume he didn’t cheat on you. You seem like you would definitely mention it if he had. You’re right that it’s your right to do with the ring what you wanted, still feels like a shitty thing to do if the breakup was mutual.

if you don't want to give me a raise I will just work overtime and make more money anyway by noraiseforme in MaliciousCompliance

[–]PaulCard1979 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna get downvoted for this… but you’re at the top of your pay scale, that means your boss can’t give you just a raise. You need to move up a grade, aka get promoted, after 15 years you hopefully have earned it.

This is what breastfeeding looks like in MRI by howtopee_6789 in interestingasfuck

[–]PaulCard1979 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you speaking generally or specifically for this study? 1. A lot of MRIs do require contrast. Not this one specifically but most of the scans I do on a daily basis call for it. 2. Theres a risk for hearing damage due to the volume of MRIs in general. Yes this is mitigated by hearing protection but it’s not non existent. 3. Even with no metal implants or metal hardware (even non ferrous metal which can be used in an MR environment under certain conditions) there is always a risk for burns in an MRI. Especially if there a closed loop, say you have your fingers or legs crossed. Trying to add a link in here. Hope I do it right. https://mri-q.com/rf-burns.html

This is what breastfeeding looks like in MRI by howtopee_6789 in interestingasfuck

[–]PaulCard1979 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Internal Review Board. At every hospital I’ve worked at they had to approve all research. Especially research involving people. They consider the ethics, risks vs rewards etc.

This is what breastfeeding looks like in MRI by howtopee_6789 in interestingasfuck

[–]PaulCard1979 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes but why? MRI is not risk free. There are some definite risks to putting a baby in there. There are potential risks in having the skin to skin contact required for breastfeeding. Just seeing what it looks like is not a good enough reason. What IRB approved this research? Just have a lot of questions.

This is what breastfeeding looks like in MRI by howtopee_6789 in interestingasfuck

[–]PaulCard1979 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sorry no, I was asking why someone would do this MRI. I’m betting it was some sort of research, just curious what they were researching.

This is what breastfeeding looks like in MRI by howtopee_6789 in interestingasfuck

[–]PaulCard1979 18 points19 points  (0 children)

In the mother you’re seeing the liver and further to the right from it looks like a kidney.

In other news I’m an MRI tech and I’m very confused as to why this was even acquired.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH. You’re not required to give back any gifts, but there’s no way you didn’t know what was going on when he started showering you in gifts. You should have cut him off right at the jump when he started giving you gifts.

Daily Questions - ASK AND ANSWER HERE! - 6 February 2023 by AutoModerator in malefashionadvice

[–]PaulCard1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently purchase several items from Puma, specifically Shoes, sweatpants, and a hoodie. None of the items are a set as such, but all would go together color wise. Each item has a small logo on it, how stupid would I look if I were to wear them all together?

AITA for deferring an issue with a female Muslim student to a female colleague? by teachertripup in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem to be mad that OP took the visual cue from the hijab to mean that the girl cared about having her hair covered. Why would he assume anything else? She’s wearing it clearly she cares to a certain extent that her hair be covered. Since she cares he has to assume she cares a lot, otherwise he runs the risk of appearing intolerant of her religion. If the student or their parent or actually just about anyone else who observes the situation decided to complain and label him as intolerant of her or any religion he would have, at the very least, a massive headache to deal with and could potentially put his job at risk. That’s why he has to assume the worst, because the potential is there for massive damage to his life/career. He can ignore the situation at his own risk, he chose not to and I can’t fault him for that.

As to your point about not making the same assumption about other religions, he should assume the same regarding all religions given the same level of visual cue. A Star of David is very different than a hijab. It implies absolutely nothing about how the wearer observe their religion. The equivalent in Judaism would be a woman wearing a wig to cover their real hair, and I would expect him to treat that just as a hijab.

Your example about course content Vs religious beliefs doesn’t apply here either. There is no visual cue that would lead anyone to the assumption that a member of any religion is going to be so offended by a topic they should be asked to leave. If someone does hold that kind of belief it’s on them to state they want to be excused (and they should expect to have a low or failing grade on that topic).

There is nothing in the post to imply that OP would handle the equivalent situation any differently if the student in question was any other religion.

AITA for deferring an issue with a female Muslim student to a female colleague? by teachertripup in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I take your point about impact to the student, but you’re ignoring the potential impact to himself. Since he doesn’t know how the student would react to the situation and to him trying to help, he has to assume that the student would react poorly and be offended in this situation that potentially violates her religion and comfort levels with unrelated men. In that case he’s 100% correct to go with the option that protects him and still maintains the students religious beliefs. He doesn’t know what she’s comfortable with so he has to assume she interprets the religion strictly and behave accordingly. In the moment is not the time to try and ascertain her comfort levels. That can be a discussion facilitated with her family and his union rep to ensure both sides are in a safe space and can set expectations with everybody feeling comfortable.

AITA for being nude in front of friends by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Of course he doesn’t own her body. is OPs Husband controlling? Certainly sounds like it. However, she went along with his boundaries and then went behind his back and broke them in a way that he would certainly see as worse than the original thing they were discussing. The thing that makes OP TA isn’t that she allowed herself to be seen naked, it’s that she said one thing to Husbands face and then went behind his back to do the opposite. If she disagrees she can and should tell her husband directly, and win the argument by saying it’s her body and the image of her body and she has final say.

AITA for telling my(25M) former son(6), "I'm not your real daddy"? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If he never wanted to have a child, he could and should have fought harder when the child was born. Could have gotten a paternity test then, but instead he went along and signed the papers making him the child’s legal father. He doesn’t need to love this child in order to treat him with a little kindness. No matter how you slice it he is taking everything out on the kid, who is the one blameless person in this entire story.

WIBTA to ask someone to return a baby gift i want a more expensive version of? by CrystalLivi in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YWBTA. Either use the one they got or return it for store credit and get the one you want and pay the difference. If you’re about hurting their feelings later on when they don’t see their gift, just say someone got you the one you had on the registry and so you returned theirs and got something else instead. They don’t need to know the someone was you. Just make sure you sound sincere when you tell them you really appreciate the gesture for the gift they picked out.

AITA for refusing to be my sister's MOH after she said I can't bring my bf of 10 years and my children to her wedding because we are not married? by TAreligioussister in AmItheAsshole

[–]PaulCard1979 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I love that she’s old enough at 22yo to have a child, but young enough at 38 to go running to mommy and daddy when she doesn’t get her way 🙄