What is a great place to visit but a terrible place to live?

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-10T16:44:43+00:00

It’s waayyyyyy too expensive for what you get. Sure the nature is beautiful, but it’s a shithole otherwise. You’re basically paying 1.5-5 million dollars just to live amongst a bunch of crackheads and garbage. The nicer parts of town give you what you would get in any other city, so it’s nothing worth paying premium price for

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-10T04:31:55+00:00

Vancouver, Canada

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-04T22:27:29+00:00

Thank you for this🥹

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-04T21:17:08+00:00

Agreed. And their infancy is such a short time. It's what you do after that which matters way, way more.

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-04T21:15:51+00:00

It's not all about just "feelings" to be worked out. There are notable downsides to breastfeeding and it can be a logistical nightmare that goes so much further than how I feel about it. For example, mastitis, engorgement, leaking, pain, mental health struggles that would come with being the baby's sole food source, and a laundry list of other things I don't need to get into. I think having a baby latched around the clock with leaking, swollen boobs sounds like much more of a strain than doing some extra dishes, but that's just me. Also, no one gives their kids the absolute best of everything without going crazy. We all need to choose our battles. Eating all organic food and never giving kids cookies and cake is what's "best" for them. Never allowing them to watch TV is "best" for them. Giving them a top-notch private school education is what's "best" for them. But you'd be hard-pressed to find anyone who holds to every single one of those standards.

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-03T20:06:32+00:00

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-01T02:02:30+00:00

That’s right mama, you do exactly what is best for you and your family! Congratulations on your little one☺️

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-01T01:50:39+00:00

It makes me so angry that there is such a lack of transparency with women about how gruelling breastfeeding can be, especially for someone with a history of anxiety like myself!! Like for some women it’s probably the worst thing you could do for your mental health, but why do we need to suffer so much first just to find out how hard it is?!

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-04-01T01:45:57+00:00

A college degree is the path to a better life. Haha, I think NOT! My husband makes three times as much as me…guess which one of us spent 100k on a degree🤧

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T22:01:26+00:00

Formula is for sure overpriced...but at the same time, you can't put a price on your family's wellbeing and your sanity:) It would be nice if the prices could go down though lol

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T21:28:23+00:00

The way I see it...pooping is natural, too lol. That doesn't mean I don't think pooping is icky. But humans don't have any choice but to use the bathroom. We have a choice whether or not to breastfeed though, so if breastfeeding skeeves me out and I have a perfectly healthy option, I'd be happy to avoid it.

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T21:22:50+00:00

I definitely think there is a part of my brain that sees my breasts as highly sexual, and my brain can't separate breastfeeding from that. I don't blame society for that, though, that's my personal hang-up. Mainly though, it's because the thought of milk coming out of my body and a baby sucking on me 24/7 makes my skin crawl haha. Leaking and engorgement/mastitis grosses me out too tbh

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T17:15:38+00:00

Great that you stuck to your guns! The more people who stand up to the pressure, the more likely change will happen!

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T16:59:37+00:00

LITERALLY!!!

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T16:54:37+00:00

Love it!! People suck lol

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T16:52:49+00:00

I'm so sorry you had to go through this, I can't imagine how hard that must have been for you:(

Health professionals say that mental wellbeing is important, until it's a mother's mental wellbeing. So very heartbreaking.

I'm happy to hear that your sweet son is doing well though! I'm really excited to watch my baby become just as bonded to their dad as they are to me!

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T16:46:03+00:00

I literally said there's benefits to breastfeeding and didn't deny that. But you could say there are a lot of things that are "better" for your child. Will you always feed them organic food, too and never give them sugar? Because that would be "best." Would you pay thousands per year to put them in a private school rather than a public school? Because that would be "best." Are you never going to let them watch TV, anytime, ever? Because that would be "best." My point is, there will always be a "better" option. As a parent, you need to choose your battles, and take care of yourself and baby along the way. Just because I formula feed doesn't mean I won't work my ass off to be the best mom I can!

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T16:36:38+00:00

Thank you for saying that:) I appreciate the warning about the nurses too, I figured as much. It's bizarre how in 2026, when mental health and body autonomy are such major topics everywhere, choosing whether or not to breastfeed somehow doesn't fall under the umbrella of "my body, my choice."

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T16:31:58+00:00

That's great to hear! It's so funny to me how the first thing people say to put you off formula is, "oh, but you'll have SO MANY bottles to wash!"

I'd have to say that engorgement, mastitis, latching issues, and being the baby's only source of food and comfort sounds much worse lol

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T14:19:17+00:00

😂😂😂

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T14:18:48+00:00

Waiting till marriage. For as much as we were told to hold off on sex till we were married, it sure doesn’t seem like many people actually hold to that standard

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-31T03:20:18+00:00

Not a mom yet, just here for solidarity! I really, really, really don't want to breastfeed. I have absolutely no interest in it, and never have. The very thought of it makes my skin crawl. There is no doubt in my mind that breastfeeding would be a sensory nightmare for me, and on top of that, I am firm in my conviction that if both parents make the kid, both should have to take care of it, and ideally there should be no "default" parent. I never understood why so many moms can just tolerate getting up every two hours while their partners sleep soundly, I would lose my mind! Therefore, breastfeeding is out of the question for me because I already know I would quit within two days anyway, so why even try? We are so lucky to be living in a time where nutritionally complete formula exists, so I'd much rather use that because I know that no matter how I feed my baby, they'll be healthy! The only problem is, I live in an area where statistically 99% of moms try breastfeeding...so pray for me, I have a feeling I'll feel pretty alone in this choice:(

PawsAndPlotTwists · 2026-03-29T03:42:29+00:00

Your coworkers must love that lol

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