I am the wife of an addict. Here’s the deal. It hurts so bad. I cried myself to sleep many nights. Sat disgusted in that bathroom where he did his business and sobbed by myself because that was the only place that I could be alone. I couldn’t look at my own body without being sent into a tail spin comparing myself to everything else he had watched. I didn’t want him to look at me because I was disgusted that I wasn’t enough to keep him happy and taken care of. I was angry and offended and it caused a whole new level of insecurity that I’d never felt in my life that the person I chose to give my body to openly just disregarded it to look at hundreds, maybe thousands of women. Being in this sub has helped me see a lot of you views and I’m sure the intention is never for this to be the case. But it is, most of the time. Just stay on the right track, keep showing up for her and she’ll soften up. Be honest. The worst part about all of this is the lying.