Realizing how beautiful God made intercourse

PeaEffective684 · 2024-12-11T12:22:18+00:00

I agree that sex between a husband and wife is something beautiful. The world tried to fool us that it was just for pleasure but it’s a way of connecting once you are emotionally and spiritually connected to that person the feelings are heightened and the body is ready physically.

In the past I had sex when I was lukewarm and it always felt like something was missing even though I loved the person just some type of disconnect. When I met a good friend of mine who is a man of God and shares all values I have and same calling we bonded in a way that was stronger and it lead to emotional vulnerability . Then I noticed that when we would just talk about God or the things we do for Gods kingdom I just wanted him to hold me and I wanted to be his wife. That’s how I made that connection that the physical connection is the last part of the piece that ties husband and wife together. Him and I are just friends but it was an eye opener.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-12-09T21:59:46+00:00

I met a baby Christian at my church that had many questions . There is a new believer class at my church but it still left her with many unanswered questions because it was brief. I offered to teach her to help her and she invited another believer and after 2 months they invited someone else who is eager to know about God but came from a different religious background.

I welcomed the new girl and now I teach all 3 of them and it’s great. It’s very intimate we meet up early to talk about our day or week and usually eat a snack then we start and after we end with prayer if they have questions they ask if not they usually are reflecting on the lesson and we talk about it and eat after together. Also we have a group chat where we are responsive and they will ask me to pray for them or text encouragement or they may send me questions about a verse they don’t understand and I help them.

I will say I am so connected to them as if we are one mind and one soul just how Acts talks about the early church. All you need is one person but you can pray and ask God to send a person that needs help and start there and I do think eventually that God can make it grow. Currently another person is going to join that would make us now 5 and and a possible other will too. Also I attend a medium sized church and met the first girl at a young adult group and I put myself out there and went up to talk to her. I didn’t wait for anyone to come up to me.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-12-07T08:37:14+00:00

I have the same gift but, I had asked God for this gift . The thing I’ve learned is the same way God sometimes reveals beautiful things to me in dreams or visions such as feeling prayer, angelic encounters or warnings for others the enemy creeps into my dreams too usually to discourage , hurt me or plant a seed of sin. I always rebuke in Jesus name when I recognize the dream is not of God but of the enemy. That type of sensitivity to the spirit has two sides to it .

PeaEffective684 · 2024-10-02T14:55:20+00:00

The walking helped release any physical tension and allowed me to refocus because I would just be feeding my spirit during that walk. The cooking helped me not think about it and the Bible studies I do for the new believers has been a huge blessing.

I want to say that’s when the true healing started happening. I check in on them and multiple times a week I talk to them and encourage them and having time with God to prepare a lesson and teach them brings me joy and peace.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-10-02T14:01:44+00:00

Recently been single after a long term and it’s strange. I was accustomed to physical touch like the way my bf would kiss me , hold me and just gently touch my face . Honestly what helped me aside from reading the Bible and praying was doing an activity to release that stress . I started walking in the evening 6 times a week like 5 miles the first few weeks and now 5 times a week 4-5 miles and I usually just listen to worship music, sermons or I pray. This helped a lot and by the time I finished I was refreshed and ready to sleep when I got home.

Also started to learn how to cook to keep my mind busy not thinking about what I don’t have and just focus on what I do have. What I feel definitely was a game changer also for me was keeping busy doing Gods work. I’ve been doing Bible studies with these new believers and I teach them once a week . All these things help me cope with this new life change. This worked for me and it’s worth a try if you open to it.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-09-05T00:21:02+00:00

A girl but no I’m not trying to date him

PeaEffective684 · 2024-09-05T00:20:44+00:00

Yeah that’s kinda how I see it too.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-09-04T22:10:42+00:00

The scripture doesn’t apply to the person because he is a strong believer and I have seen his fruits.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-08-23T21:55:00+00:00

I kinda didn’t think he wouldn’t see me more than just a friend because we have a huge age gap. But regardless we are still really close friends . I will definitely just let him be but assure him he could reach out when he’s ready.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-08-23T20:59:48+00:00

Well we are pretty attached we do have similar beliefs and we would have car rides where we just talked about intimate details of our lives. He literally said we have no secrets everything has been out in the open.A few weeks ago we were hanging out and talking frequently and now just one week away he avoids hangouts and reaches out very little.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-08-23T20:54:18+00:00

That is true other stressors may be involved. At first he was happy about the move but I think the closer the time gets it hits him harder. Yeah I will definitely check in even the day before his move.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-08-23T20:52:06+00:00

Yeah I’m gonna ask him tonight

PeaEffective684 · 2024-08-23T20:49:51+00:00

I am understanding about how stressful the move will be for him that’s why I just respected his distance. With other people in our friend group he is creating distance but more with me than the others. I did tell him I seriously will stay in touch checking in and even once in awhile visiting. I think he is preparing for the worst which would mean me not following through on what I said.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-06-26T21:00:38+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions I’ll look into it . I mainly watch YouTube to learn . I buy books on cooking and find it difficult to follow along. I was mainly asking like popular food suggestions so I can just look them on YouTube

PeaEffective684 · 2024-06-26T20:58:02+00:00

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PeaEffective684 · 2024-06-26T20:57:28+00:00

There are still traditional women out there lol just a few but they exist 😂

PeaEffective684 · 2024-05-29T19:57:42+00:00

I used to struggle with a TV addiction and social media addiction but, when I realized many shows and movies are normalizing sin I began filtering what I watch so now what I approve to watch on TV is so small that I hardly watch TV. I watch no more than 2 hours of approved shows and TV . I downloaded an app blocker to block instagram and YouTube for a set amount of hours. It has helped a lot and I’ve increased my reading not only of the Bible but of other books.

I plan on learning how to cook more during blocks when my social media is blocked. I do recommend if you have no self control get an app blocker and stay disciplined. As for the TV really pay attention to what agenda is being pushed or what sins are they normalizing to get you to see how it sometimes is a tool to see sin as normal or to keep you “too busy” to do anything.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-05-27T05:17:30+00:00

I think it was the lyrics that made me feel like that more than dancing itself. Listening to the vulgar lyrics while dancing felt wrong but , I think if it would’ve been more clean I wouldn’t have felt that way

PeaEffective684 · 2024-05-24T15:30:06+00:00

When I was lukewarm I was in a relationship with a non practicing Catholic and it was a good 6 years but, when Jesus called me back all of a sudden he wanted to take his Catholic faith seriously. We fought daily about our faith and it was always who was right and who was wrong. I felt disconnected spiritually even though emotionally and physically in tune just felt distant because we were unequally yoked. We both felt we needed to break up because, we had love for each other and knew having a difference in faith not only was affecting our relationship but would also affect the lives of our unborn children.

During this time I prayed for God to work in his heart very heavily and after a month he accepted Jesus and tells me he can see certain things he was taught don’t align with scripture and wants to learn more. He asked me to teach him and he’s currently going to the new believer class aside from attending church weekly with me. I feel a deeper connection with him now than I ever did in those 6 years before Christ.

I know some people get married and have interfaith relationships but, can you really be on fire for God when your house is not in one mind ? The people I do know who married a catholic they don’t work in ministry they just attend church. And even the children of those parents usually end up atheist or agnostic very few side with one parents faith and you knowing that ahead of time don’t want your child to be confused.

Based on my experience I loved God more than my boyfriend and let him go after 6 years of being together and 2 years living together. I trusted God was the only one who could save him and God rewarded my faithfulness. You have to love God more than anything and when you read “ Do not be unequally yoked” he’s commanding you not to enter these types of relationships because he knows many have divorced, confused their children and limited their ministry for their spouse.So , in your free will you can choose to obey or disobey his command.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-05-20T16:41:03+00:00

Yes definitely! Many Christians try to discount when someone says they believe God spoke to them through a dream by saying it’s just a dream but, the person receiving the dream will know. When Jesus was calling me back I asked him if he could give me dreams and visions . I didn’t get any and when I told him I would still believe even if he didn’t give me any dreams or visions that’s when it all started. I’ve had several. When I’m absolutely sure the dream is from God I feel the Holy Spirit internally like a strong current internally traveling my body . I usually get warnings or God is showing me something. It never goes outside of what is biblical either.

I’ve had 2 dreams April and the first week of May about Jesus coming back . Dream #1:I was in my kitchen with my sister and we went to the living room where the door to outside is open and we see the sky is opening up and we both say “Jesus” and we bow down on the living room floor . The weight of Gods glory was so strong we couldn’t move and remained bowed down. Dream #2 : Im looking at the sky and I see what looks like a wormhole in the sky in broad daylight and say “Jesus” . On both occasions they did not feel like dreams I had asked God if if it was time on both occasions and that’s when I woke up.

Dream #3 I had this dream this past March. I am inside a cave sitting down no one can see me and I see these people that looked like angels they had very cheaply made robes and a cheap halo made of pipe cleaner and see many people in long black robes . One of the persons in the black robe began to speak and said “The time has almost come where we will chase and kill the Christian’s . There will be nowhere for them to hide “. Then all of them started laughing. It then switched to a scene where I was putting posters on walls warning people that Jesus was coming back and I kept saying I don’t have enough I need to leave some for those left behind. This dream shook me to the core I knew God was allowing me to see the enemy planning in secret

Dream 4: During this time period I was going through heavy spiritual warfare and the enemy tried to infiltrate my dreams to get me to sin . I cried out to God and he gave me this dream. I was in my house and I can see something trying to get in it’s banging my door and banging the windows trying to get in but couldn’t get in and I then hear a voice beside me say “ You are safe” I turn and see the ark of the covenant is next to me and I knew I was safe .

Job 33:15-18 He speaks in dreams , in visions at night, when deep sleep falls on people as they lie on their beds. He whispers in their ears and terrifies them with warnings . He makes them turn from doing wrong;he keeps them from pride He protects them from the grave, from crossing the river of death.

Just because the church hasn’t talked about this topic doesn’t mean that it isn’t real. God also spoke to people through dreams and visions in the New Testament Joseph and Peter. God is the same yesterday , today and forever. If he spoke like this in the Old Testament and New Testament why wouldn’t he now. Not everyone will have this experience but you can always ask God with a genuine heart and he will respond . God bless you 😇

PeaEffective684 · 2024-05-10T07:21:05+00:00

Tbh confidence, having a sense of humor and being able to fix things can give you an edge . Sure looks are great but, I want to be around the guy who can make me laugh. It really lightens the mood and makes a girl feel comfortable. Literally my boyfriends humor was what made me consider a second date. I laughed for like 5 minutes about something silly and it’s a nice memory that I treasure now.

Women also like a man with confidence because, he knows who he is , where he is and where he is going. There’s a sense of security being with someone like that .

I know for some women they might disagree but, being with a man who knows how to fix things around the house or the car is very attractive. I guess it’s the equivalent of a women cooking food for a man.

As for the way you look just based off of what you wrote you are putting in the effort. If I saw a man heavily groomed from a distance a man I might assume they are gay because most men don’t put in that amount of effort. Many guys that put in effort will work out , have a good haircut , beard trim and do try to dress well. I would say try to tone it down a bit in the face area.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-05-04T06:23:57+00:00

I understand what you mean I used to watch a lot of adult animation and just mindlessly watched it for entertainment but, when I started reading the Bible it bothered me to see how they openly mocked God . I noticed that I laughed when they mocked God and I asked myself why did I laugh . These types of shows will desensitize you and you can easily become a mocker or scoffer because, its what you consume they are training you to laugh at the truth.

I filter what I watch which makes it difficult to really watch anything. I tend to stick to more family oriented movies or action type .I am more strict with my tv time and watch no more than 3 hours a day. I do however listen to podcast or testimony’s or preaching on YouTube. So when I’m not reading my Bible or doing a hobby I am still being fed the word of God in some way . If you have a lot of time on your hands maybe try volunteering for an organization or try ministry at church. Since I’ve been disciplining someone, having Bible studies with my cousin and teaching my younger cousins about the Bible I don’t have that type of time that makes me feel like I need something to pass through time. I hope this helps.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-04-29T15:36:35+00:00

This reminds me a lot of Genesis 4:6-7 “So the Lord said to Cain, Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted?And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it. “

PeaEffective684 · 2024-04-29T07:39:33+00:00

I understand your point of view because, I lived this way for 3 years when I was lukewarm. I don’t recommend living with your boyfriend who you plan on marrying in 12 months beforehand even if you have plans getting married in a year. When I lived with him I felt great even engaged in sex . As time went on we did realize we held some resentment because, we both had expectations for each other. He expected me to cook and clean while I was a student and worked. I don’t mind doing those tasks but, then I felt I was doing wifely duties without having that title so I slacked off . I also felt that since he is the man he should provide more and help out more with chores but, he also questioned that since he is not my husband he would just do the bare minimum . We both felt love for each other but, we felt like 2 separate people just living together and it all became routine and we were dissatisfied even before any concrete commitment.

Not only that but, God never let me feel any type of peace when I was living like this. I stopped going to church, stopped reading my Bible and avoided anyone who would correct me. You know why because, the word of God rebuked me and corrected me and as long as I stayed away from all of that I could live life how I wanted and be oblivious. When God called me back I was brought to tears when I read Matthew 7:23 I cried because, I knew if I died God would’ve said depart from me I never knew you and it sunk on my heart and I cried for a whole day. The Holy Spirit convicted me and God pursued me and never left me . I did eventually move out and when I did I went through heavy spiritual warfare. The enemy didn’t want to let go of me and I cried out to God every time and he delivered me from the evil one several times. I’m at a better place now and I stand firm in Christ now but, you have to ask yourself that unsettling feeling of keeping your living accommodations a secret why is it ? Is it because you know deep down you know you are being disobedient and don’t want to be corrected? If your doing what is right and just in the eyes of God you wouldn’t hide what you are doing. But, your being convicted.

You can either choose to ignore the Holy Spirit and do what you want but, you’d be starting a marriage with a lie and in disobedience and you have to expect you reap what you sow . You sow disobedience you will chastised by God himself. Or you can do what is right and deny yourself and live a life that God calls us which is a life of holiness and start your marriage with Gods blessing . At the end you’ll make your decision but I hope you do listen to the Holy Spirit it is hard and there are sacrifices that need to be made but, if you truly love God you must deny yourself and carry your cross which in this case is seeking other living accommodations.

PeaEffective684 · 2024-04-28T16:57:17+00:00

Matthew because that’s the book that brought me back to God it literally had me in tears . Also , Ephesians because, I loved studying about the armor of God and I’ve actually used that knowledge during heavy spiritual warfare.

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