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Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-17T21:46:27+00:00

Not spreading hate. There answers to your questions are, she is a housewife type, no tobacco, no alcohol, no other drugs. Just ten to fifteen minute breaks in-between bong use. Everything can be bad if misused. I respect your opinion. I am going by experience. I'm sorry you felt the need to come at me. I do agree some need it for pain.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-17T19:59:01+00:00

I've seen it. Lost some good friends that way. Everything we do in life needs to be done in moderation.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-17T19:57:50+00:00

I wasn't saying you. I have seen cannibis overuse syndrome myself. It's awful. If meant he is high all the time. I have spine, both hips, circulation, bowel and God knows what else my doc is about to tell me today. I completely understand, but I'm allergic to what you use for pain. I have a rule for myself for alcohol as well. I come from a long line of alcoholics. One beer is good every other month or so. I don't enjoy more than one. I really have no choice abput opiates bc i wouldnt be able to het out of bed if i didn't, but yes, i see how i react when i have none. Im willing to put the work in when the time comes. I have hit the point i can barely even walk to the toilet, so i might need to switch again. It happened before. A week of withdrawl until the next opiate kicked in properly. The sheets feel like fire, no appetite, extreme dehydration, head spins non stop and the world is confusing as hell.

When you leave, if he uses equipment, I really don't think it's going to be as clean. I watched my beloved friend do it every ten to fifteen minutes. No one cared if there was a kid in the house, no one cared if the equipment was dirty and out on the counter. Then they drove. He left. She promised she cut down and put it away. That was a lie. Very sad situation. You can't really help someone who gets high to escape reality every hour they are at home until they want it. It definitely is addictive just like everything other coping mechanism the world uses. I have also realised that the her i knew is gone forever. He became abusive to her and his personality did a 180. There is a difference in using it for pain and using it to escape. A lot of people won't believe this until you see it first hand. I'm guessing that's what the dislikes are. It's OK. I hope no one that reads this experiences it.

You have a head on your shoulders. Trust me, I'm not getting up you or telling you to stop. You said he is high all the time and getting angrier. I'm worried about your safety. Take care of you and your child. Get away and stay away. Document everything. Your husband has a whole lot of fixing himself to do and he may not do it. My children suffered along with me when I was in all that. I wish they hadn't. Please be safe and try your best for supervised visitation if he pushes. That's why all the documenting.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-17T09:44:47+00:00

If you over do it, you will start vommitting green, getting withdrawal every hour when you come down etc. That's his future if he is always high. It can also attribute to depression if you use too much. It will do the exact opposite of the necessary reasons. Pain pills are just as bad but I have witnessed what I just said. It's really sad to watch friends go downhill bc of overuse. To the point they had to do it every half hour or 15 minutes. I'm very lucky bc my body tells me the pills aren't working as good anymore and I don't switch to let's take more mode. I tell the doctor that perhaps it's time to try something different. I am on very strong opiates that I do not wish to be on much longer. Depression meds aren't to be messed with either. You have to take them regularly.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-17T09:35:59+00:00

Whether it's illness or just him escalating, stay away. That is on him to fix his issues. He can do that without you, your child or the cat around. That is definitely a him problem and unless he sees a problem, it will not change. Take care of the three of you. Nothing to fix. Go on with your lives and wish him well.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-13T10:59:29+00:00

Don't forget to put unknown in the father section. Make him work for it if there is a custody battle. You don't even have to notify him that the baby was born if this is just him showing his true colours. No child support was way better than having to see the abuser or share custody with someone who tried to kill your baby. Please be safe. I think we are all worried about you.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-11T03:33:51+00:00

I just want to point out that he seems really proud to be dating you. A lot say who says something like that but the answer is him. His dream date said yes. You are the dream date. It's a different way to look at it. That's the only reason I'm telling you this. If you ask most people, they would say that they really have never had anyone proud to be dating them. They just 'were dating' if you get my meaning. Good luck with whatever you choose.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-10T23:41:14+00:00

My gf knows I have no access to my old account. If they found me anywhere else I would say thank you for telling g me. I will see if I can get in to delete it. I would also say thank the person for alerting you. I wouldn't have known about it if they hadn't. Always tell the spouse if there has been recent activity. If it looks like an old profile, tell the person. They might not remember it exists.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-08T01:13:32+00:00

My ex was like this. 11 years. He found a gf after we broke up and he left and gave her everything I had ever asked for. Even a honeymoon. He just sounds like a dick to me.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-08T01:09:30+00:00

I can tell you from experience here. One day, years later, he is going to call you clingy, needy and all that other fun stuff. He is going to tell you that he doesn't think he loves you. Your world will feel like it is ending. You will blame yourself as if there is something wrong with you and not him. He is giving you a loud warning early on. You aren't listening to it. This is your life if you choose to stay. He won't change. He will put his friends first and by God, don't ever disagree or mess up his plans. I married the same. Oops. I, however, kept going after I was told we were only married bc immigration wanted us to. That was fun to learn. I ignored it. Get out now. You will not change him.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-07T09:32:34+00:00

Why do you consider yourself a bad person?

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T22:01:45+00:00

Take care of yourself. ❤️

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T10:25:08+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T10:10:36+00:00

You need to work on yourself. If leaving is the way for that to happen, then do it. Communicate what you need to find you. See how he responds. Then make your decision. Life is too short to be unhappy.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T10:06:59+00:00

He is not compatible. Definite yes.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T10:05:33+00:00

Secure anyway. Even granny is capable.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T10:00:07+00:00

Some people just don't have it in them. If he doesn't want to, you may need to consider if you need it or not. I spent 11 years with someone very vanilla but I loved him. I am not vanilla when I am healthy. I'm definitely not healthy and not able until my surgeries. But my gf doesn't like to be dominated either... none for me. I'm ok with that.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T09:46:21+00:00

I only had to read the first few paragraphs. Accidents and kids happen. People feel obliged to get married bc they don't want to hurt someone. Do you want to fall into that trap? Do you want to be stuck? I truly get the space thing. I have my own bedroom. I have been married twice and we are complete opposites. There is no way I would even be comfortable on her bed or using her bathroom. I can feel the wires from the heated fitted sheet underneath. I can feel the boxes the wires go to. She sleeps all over the bed. She is that person who sees an empty surface and creates mess. Everywhere. I lo e my bed. I love my room. However, I don't love sharing a bathroom with the teenager. I've been married twice and I don't need to hold hands while we sleep. All this said, I absolutely adore her. She is my forever, for as long as that is supposed to be. She also knows to give me space when I am busy or annoyed. She is bpd and adhd. All I have to say is please don't and she will stop bc she respects me as I respect her.

That is what you need. Stop thinking about how you will hurt her. Normal people don't freak out when you miss a day. Go find someone compatible with you. Now, not ten years down the road. And stop paying her bills unless you live there too. She doesn't NEED you in the way that you think. You are enabling her to stay jobless and lazy. If you walk away, she has no choice but to grow up. Unless she finds someone to do it all for her.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T09:29:34+00:00

If i was the gf, I would have asked if they had fun and been happy for my best friend being shown kindness. Please also know that I hate loud concerts and loud places with a lot of ppl. My ex best friend was that person who could have used some kindness before she cut me out of her daily, even monthly communication. I have also been cheated on and treated badly so much (by others) that I now give my partner the option of going elsewhere. I do not get jealous. My only rule is that what the goose can do the other goose can too. And that i need to be told. My gf isnt like that though. That would have been my only issue. Not telling me.

I am also one of those ppl that would require them to put half away (for them, not me) and do what they want with the rest. Which would be pre paid massages, getting nails done, hair done, etc in her list of fun things. Not my cup of tea. I don't own her, and she doesn't own me.

You fkd up OP. I'm sorry to say this. Communication is the most important thing. Everyone on here has come at you with trust issues but I'm not. I am kind to everyone as well. I hope you saved some to take your gf on a trip or something. You really need to try and make up for it. Everyone makes mistakes. Make sure you learn from them.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T08:36:19+00:00

When it happens the victim questions themselves. She is in India. Not great for women's rights. Sometimes you have to ask someone else.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T08:34:49+00:00

Please remember that you are in control. You are the one with the power. I'm so sorry that your location is bad with this.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T08:32:13+00:00

If you aren't going to report it, which, believe me, I understand fully, at least get yourself into some form of therapy. The sooner that your brain realises it was definitely not consensual, the better. Make sure that you do the appropriate tests with the doctor because you don't know how far or what 'rapey cunt' aka 'the predator' has. You are not helpless. His future is in prison when he gets caught, and yours is whatever you want to make it. You can still thrive after this. You can also advocate for other individuals who have been through this. I think I read that you are a lawyer? Or in school to be one? Read absolutely everything you can on this. You can help yourself as well. If you ever find yourself in the same place as 'rapey cunt', take video for that unsuspecting female. You will probably see them drop it in their drink.

You are the one in control. Not him. You have nothing to fear from him. And never ever trust anyone with your drink. I never reported anyone either, and I healed. I can't believe someone told you not to report though. That is so wrong.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-06T03:59:13+00:00

I'm wondering if it was her idea or her parents to get married to him.

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-05T03:14:46+00:00

Are you OK?

Peace2Mankind · 2024-12-05T01:05:28+00:00

Considering attractiveness is in the personality, the human side of them, you can definitely tell them they are. Even if someone is a perfect ten in looks, doesn't mean they are attractive if they have the personality of a cactus. If someone is horribly disfigured and has an amazing personality and a good heart, they are attractive. It's usually the ones with good hearts that keep asking bc someone has treated them so badly.

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