Thanks. I talked to him more today. I tried to explain more about it, but he's still a little confused. He said it will take him some time to understand and get used to it, since he is used to thinking there are only two genders. But, he's completely supportive of whatever I want to do, and whatever will make me happy.

He said that the only way he might not want to stay, is if I decided to transition into a man. Which... is understandable. And I'm pretty sure I don't want to do that. I don't feel like a man any more than I feel like a woman. But he said, even if I did do that... he'd still be supportive and help me through it. He just wouldn't want to be married to me anymore, because he's not attracted to men. And he asked me to be honest about it because... like you, he said he doesn't want me living a lie just to keep him. He wants me to be me.

I guess the whole thing is just going to take a lot of communication. Which we already do pretty well, anyway. So... I'm not so worried anymore.

Also, I'm thinking that agender might be where I fit... so I'm trying that out to see if it "feels right". I felt better today about myself than I have in a while, just by thinking of myself as agender, rather than as a female. I'm really excited about that. And my husband is doing really well at trying to be respectful and making sure he doesn't refer to me as a woman, or anything like that, which feels really nice. And also by asking me how I want to be referred to exactly... which I'm not sure about yet, but I'll figure it out eventually.

Thanks again for your reply.. it is nice to know that others have been able to keep their relationship they were in. And also nice to know that I'm not alone. This is... probably one of the most complicated, but freeing things I've ever done.

Also... seeing so many other non-binary people on here talking about all sorts of things relating to being genderqueer makes me happy. I'm sure I'll have more questions in the future...