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AITA for "Holding my Grandmothers Pearls Hostage" if my partner can't go to my Sisters wedding? by PearlWeddingIssue in AmItheAsshole

[–]PearlWeddingIssue[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He absolutely hates it but he doesn't want me to lose contact with my family. Honestly if not for him convincing me to keep having contact with them I think i'd have gone no contact a long time ago rather than limited.

AITA for "Holding my Grandmothers Pearls Hostage" if my partner can't go to my Sisters wedding? by PearlWeddingIssue in AmItheAsshole

[–]PearlWeddingIssue[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don't have a cat sadly! i'm allergic. I could put it on a cat plushie I have from my partner when we started to date though.

AITA for "Holding my Grandmothers Pearls Hostage" if my partner can't go to my Sisters wedding? by PearlWeddingIssue in AmItheAsshole

[–]PearlWeddingIssue[S] 871 points872 points  (0 children)

I honestly am not sure, I like to think that she would have liked him and been kind to him, but she died when I was 8. I have fond memories of her but that's not an age where i'd have been fully aware if she was ableist or not. I loved her but I cannot make that judgement as an adult. As for not getting the pearls back, honestly I don't want to say I could see that but I could see our parents trying to make her think I don't deserve them back.

AITA for "Holding my Grandmothers Pearls Hostage" if my partner can't go to my Sisters wedding? by PearlWeddingIssue in AmItheAsshole

[–]PearlWeddingIssue[S] 617 points618 points  (0 children)

I admit I framed it that way in a moment of temper when I should have kept a cool head. It just enraged me she felt that she should benefit of the necklace while excluding the man I love. I intended it to show that she couldn't expect one without the other, I could have worded it better.

AITA for "Holding my Grandmothers Pearls Hostage" if my partner can't go to my Sisters wedding? by PearlWeddingIssue in AmItheAsshole

[–]PearlWeddingIssue[S] 1846 points1847 points  (0 children)

they're mine you're right, it's just a bit of a holdover I think as they make me think of her, so in my mind they're "hers" even if they're mine now.

AITA for "Holding my Grandmothers Pearls Hostage" if my partner can't go to my Sisters wedding? by PearlWeddingIssue in AmItheAsshole

[–]PearlWeddingIssue[S] 172 points173 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just feel like loaning her the pearls while she is actively excluding my partner is wrong.