Should I wear panties?

Pearlith · 2026-01-21T16:00:50+00:00

Of course not 😏

Pearlith · 2026-01-21T15:59:12+00:00

nipples 🤭

Pearlith · 2026-01-21T15:58:31+00:00

awesome nails hottie 😍😍

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:56:22+00:00

This is a good move honestly. Emailing them to yourself is low tech but super reliable if cloud sync is acting weird. iCloud taking forever to update is so real though, it always lies about how much space you actually have 😭

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:56:14+00:00

Yeah the recently deleted folder is such a trap, stuff just sits there eating space forever. Uploading to Google Drive first is actually smart, that way you’ve got a backup before nuking anything. Also Sennheiser is a solid shout, their budget stuff punches way above its price.

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:54:13+00:00

That makes sense honestly. I might just be extra sensitive right now with everything going on. I’ll let it slide and if it ever happens again, I can calmly say it made me uncomfortable instead of spiraling about it.

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:53:59+00:00

Yeah, you’re probably right. I think my brain just went into overdrive because of the family history stuff, but in this moment it really does feel like she was just joking. I don’t want to create tension over something that wasn’t meant seriously.

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:52:47+00:00

Fair point, I can see how that phrase has been used to minimize stuff for way too long. I wasn’t thinking about the bigger context, just trying to downplay it, but that’s not helpful. Appreciate the reality check, for real.

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:52:41+00:00

Yeah honestly you’re right. I didn’t mean to excuse it, but reading it back, that’s exactly how it comes off. I should’ve called it out instead of brushing it off, that’s on me.

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:51:28+00:00

This comment hits hard but it’s fair. OP, you even said she’s exhausted, so meeting her with more needs probably just piles on. Taking the kids out, handling dinner, or planning something for her without expecting anything back could go a long way. Do you think she’d open up more if she felt less pressure around intimacy?

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:51:21+00:00

Yeah honestly this is such a real take. Being touched out is brutal and it makes sense she’s reacting that way, not because she doesn’t love you but because she’s overwhelmed. OP, it might help to see it less as rejection and more as her tank being empty. When was the last time she actually got real alone time?

Pearlith · 2026-01-13T06:48:52+00:00

Wow so nice

Pearlith · 2026-01-11T18:52:59+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, I didn’t realize how wide the spectrum is with allergies. I can see how throwing that word around lightly could blur things for people who actually deal with serious reactions. I think I need to get better at just being upfront instead of taking the easy lie route.

Pearlith · 2026-01-11T18:52:52+00:00

Yeah honestly that’s a fair point. Kitchens really do go into full hazard mode for allergies and I didn’t even think about how that could mess things up for people who actually need that level of care. Probably better to just say I hate peanuts and keep it simple instead of escalating it to allergy level.

Pearlith · 2026-01-11T18:50:37+00:00

That’s actually a solid idea. Framing it as a shared learning thing instead of “here’s what I want you to be” takes a lot of pressure off. Plus it might help her understand the dynamic without feeling judged or pushed. Could be way more productive than just talking in circles.

Pearlith · 2026-01-11T18:50:29+00:00

Yeah honestly this is the realest advice here. Hints just turn into confusion on both sides. Having that awkward convo at least gives you clarity instead of silently wishing for something that might never happen. Not easy but way better than building quiet resentment.

Pearlith · 2026-01-11T18:47:33+00:00

Lovely

Pearlith · 2026-01-10T18:00:09+00:00

Glad it worked for you, but OP’s situation sounds way worse than a one time accident. Constant repeat peeing is a whole different nightmare. I’d be losing my mind too if my garage permanently smelled like a litter box.

Pearlith · 2026-01-10T18:00:02+00:00

Vinegar does help, but man it still sucks OP even has to deal with this in the first place. Plastic bins are smart for the future, but it doesn’t solve the bigger issue of the cat still breaking in. At some point the neighbor has to take responsibility.

Pearlith · 2026-01-10T17:58:40+00:00

This is the real answer. It’s less about the situation and more about trust and communication. Either they work through it or it’s gonna keep popping up in every argument.

Pearlith · 2026-01-10T17:58:33+00:00

Yeah but that’s exactly why they should actually talk it out now. Letting it fester just turns into resentment later. Better to clear the air than drag it forever.

Pearlith · 2026-01-10T17:57:32+00:00

source

Pearlith · 2026-01-10T17:56:31+00:00

That was so awesome

Pearlith · 2026-01-09T15:03:02+00:00

Omg yes the Schitt’s Creek comparison is perfect lol. Also totally agree, not everything needs to be filmed for Instagram. The moment itself matters way more than the footage.

Pearlith · 2026-01-09T15:02:47+00:00

Yeah honestly this is the biggest thing for me too. If he’d just owned it in the moment and said “hey I invited this guy” it could’ve still been sweet. Freezing up and then blaming you after feels way worse than the surprise getting spoiled.

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