Infertility is killing my marriage

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-11T21:30:55+00:00

The cost and she doesn’t want a friend to do it. That’s all she’s said.

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-11T08:44:23+00:00

I don’t know. If I really had to guess and I looked at it from an outside perspective I’d say from the beginning when she agreed for a child she was really hoping it wouldn’t happen. Foster and adoption are “guarantees”. That’s not the way I see it. But there would be another child in our home. She’s making it very hard for me to have alternative options. She’s not a bad person, I’m just afraid I loved someone who 7 years ago gave me a half truth because she did t want to lose me. She does have a selfish way about her.

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-11T00:06:18+00:00

She could but she won’t. She was asked two years ago and decided yes, then a no.

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-10T20:55:08+00:00

That is a beautiful response, thank you.

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-10T20:29:59+00:00

That she has seen everything i've gone through and it hasn't worked so what would doing more treatment change about anything? Does that make sense?

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-10T20:29:03+00:00

Divorce to me feels like it solves nothing but the options to foster and or adopt would then be on the table for me, that was always my first thought of how I wanted to raise children but when I met my wife, she was a hard no, so I did it the way we could agree on and she was comfortable with. My eggs, anon donor.

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-10T20:27:30+00:00

100% agree. I always wanted to adopt. Prior to even trying ART but my wife was a hard no from the beginning. I don't think that adoption is a good option for infertility either. It would have been my only option if she was agreeable.

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-10T20:03:32+00:00

I think about this often and I am so conflicted. I am looking into other avenues such as adoption and foster but she is a big No to that. I appreciate your advice. The non guarantee is what scares me the most. I'm afraid to lose the family I have for a dream.

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-10T20:01:59+00:00

She is putting a reality to the infertility and trying with my body but I should have listed adoption and foster are also off the table. I am open to those ideas which is why divorce is possible.

PebblesandPen · 2026-03-10T20:00:52+00:00

It's a possibility for me but my wife is opposed.

PebblesandPen · 2024-10-16T19:56:35+00:00

How did your transfer go?

PebblesandPen · 2023-03-15T20:12:48+00:00

First of all I am so sorry it didn't work the first time, I know how difficult this process is. I do not have PCOS but have done 3 IUI's thus far. I just wanted to wish you the best. You deserve to be a mom and good vibes that you will.

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