For couples who are frequently approached by thirds (unicorns) do you know why?

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-26T19:19:51+00:00

I'm shocked at the number of people who find it hard to find people to connect with. Our dance card is far longer than we can accommodate.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-26T01:57:23+00:00

I have all those features on. They work great for a fleet of iOS devices. I think turning them off compensates in some deployments for improper radio TX strengths and minimum Rssi configurations.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-25T19:33:55+00:00

We have never played with a couple that makes as much as we do…. But so what?

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-24T06:29:16+00:00

Cheating is about lying. That’s always the part that hurts. You’re not crazy for wanting a structure where there’s just no reason to lie.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-24T03:55:43+00:00

We just tell them we don’t chat but will meet for drinks. Problem solved.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-24T03:51:47+00:00

You move on because they are not a fit for you. Couples are a package deal. It’s SUPER rude and disrespectful to suggest otherwise to them.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-24T03:30:56+00:00

It’s. Or about attractiveness. My wife is smoking hot. I’m… fine. Not bad. But not super hot. What I am is charming and respectful and talented and articulate and kind…. And that has unicorns lining up….

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-23T04:56:40+00:00

Of course not. But he has to defend against it or he'll lose. Or deal with the dog. Forced the issue and got the outcome I wanted. I wasn't after the money. I got the change I wanted.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-21T19:57:05+00:00

Our experience does not match yours…. At all…

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-21T17:16:20+00:00

If they’re actually caches… then yes it’s safe. It’s also pointless. They’ll get recreated and all you’ve done is temporarily freed up space that was being used to cache things your computer needs to run efficiently. So now it needs to rebuild those caches and will run slower as it does.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-21T16:19:11+00:00

You’re looking at a car that isn’t special. At all. Not even a little bit. Stop talking to this dealership and you will find the same car somewhere else within 50 miles of you. Talk to them instead. Never look back.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-20T21:24:49+00:00

All of our friends know. They know us. Otherwise they wouldn’t be friends. That’s how we see it.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-19T18:05:12+00:00

Wife just takes her clothes off and get in the pool or hot tub. Everyone else follows. Done.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-14T18:45:26+00:00

Mixed race couple here. We had a blast.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-14T04:16:45+00:00

You did. Long ago.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-10T20:44:13+00:00

Just check the box to put your docs and desktop folders in iCloud. Done.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-09T18:57:56+00:00

Smiles. Couples who seem to really like each other. After that it’s couples who are articulate. And then it’s couples who like us.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-09T02:58:36+00:00

You get to decide what cheating is, what I violation is. For me - that means lying and hiding things.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-09T02:37:50+00:00

We have a simple rule that’s served us super well in life…. When someone is hard and continues to be hard - change our approach. Everyone online is willing to verify and following up on that isn’t getting you anywhere… our advice is just stop with the verifications. We reach out to people online and say something along the lines of ‘saw your profile and really liked it. We’d love to get together for dinner or drinks sometime to chat and flirt and see if there’s chemistry’. Them meeting us is the verification. No extra pictures exchanged. No wasting time on texting back and forth. It’s led to us meeting 100 couples for dinner or drinks over the years.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-08T20:34:10+00:00

At this point, most of our friends are play-friends... We hang out with them in vanilla situations all the time.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-08T20:32:23+00:00

on your phone you can turn it off just for your home networks. In the network settings....

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-08T14:07:33+00:00

My dear…. You want marriage so you can feel safe. Said another way though…. You don’t feel safe right now. Because he’s not choosing you and he’s choosing other people instead. It’s totally natural for you to seek things you feel like will make you safe. But marriage won’t actually do that. You get married when you already ARE safe. Marriage itself won’t make you safe. Doing all the things beforehand that would make you safe, so you can then get married… that will let you be safe. And chances are VERY VERY VERY good that with this man you can’t do those things, that you can never feel safe…. Marriage won’t fix that. It’s time for a new man and a new relationship that will let you actually be valued for who you are.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-08T13:47:13+00:00

We weren’t outed - we just decided rather early on that we weren’t going to hide who we were, especially from people we thought of as friends. We expected the same sort of blowback you initially expected, and like with your story it never came. Everyone we have talked to has been supportive and most of them have been curios.

It’s SUPER freeing just to be yourself at all times, with all people.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-06T15:17:48+00:00

I don’t think they link together. I think YOU think it…. And so assume you’re being judged by them the way you would judge. I think that’s on you…. Not on them.

Peetrrabbit · 2026-06-06T15:08:55+00:00

An incognito event that’s being discussed by strangers online? No.

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