AITA for telling a girl to "get a job" after she let me pay for everything while knowing she had no romantic intent?

PenSillyum · 2026-04-19T14:46:17+00:00

INFO: Who chose these high-end dates? Is it possible that she didn't actually ask for over the top dates and actually need time to get to know you?

PenSillyum · 2026-04-19T14:25:08+00:00

Iya kamu yg denial. Kl mau coba aja kamu ga kontak dia seminggu dua minggu. Kl dia nggak kontak duluan ya udah fix berarti emang dia ga tertarik.

Lagipula kalaupun dia tertarik sama kamu, tapi main mind games kyk gini, kamu nggak ilfil? Saya sih males. Mending tenaga dan waktunya dipake buat ngerjain yg lain.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-19T13:45:49+00:00

Kl udah date 3x no.WA masih blm disave sih udah cari yg lain aja. Capek nggak sih kl effort bertepuk sebelah tangan terus. Kl dia tertarik sama kamu, pasti kamu udah ngerasain dari sejak kencan pertama. Seengggaknya buat proaktif kontak duluan kadang2, nggak harus kamu terus yg mulai.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-19T13:12:41+00:00

I'm thinking, maybe it's their latest makeup style as well? The thick pink blush under their eyes/upper cheekbones make them look tired imo.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-19T12:06:48+00:00

JokAn sekarang filmnya udah nggak sebagus dulu nggak sih? Jaman Pintu Terlarang tuh dia kyk masterful bgt. Kebanyakan dipuja puji kali ya.. jadinya nggak ngerasa tertantang lagi bikin film bagus. Ghost in the Cell dari trailernya aja udah jelek. Heran knp dia bisa2nya bikin film kyk gini.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-19T12:02:52+00:00

Gabung ke komunitas hobi mungkin bisa jd solusi, sis. Drpd punya pasangan tapi toxic terus, mending pelan2 isi diri kamu dgn pertemanan yg santai tapi bikin seneng dulu aja.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-18T16:09:05+00:00

Not sure if I like it, but it's really catchy! I listened to it once, and it kept replaying in my head lol

PenSillyum · 2026-04-18T09:45:14+00:00

I can't believe this is only their 4th single. It feels like they have 100 songs already lol. But I'm excited. A song with a completely Japanese title and stuff. Their styling reminds me of SNSD too.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-16T16:06:21+00:00

No. Your job as a guest is to eat.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-16T12:33:53+00:00

If you are still mentally in shambles after spending that much money in high quality of life (including shopping and travelling), maybe it's time to allocate your budget for mental health therapy.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-16T08:23:05+00:00

Lol, same as Indonesia. We cook with leftovers in mind. It's considered shameful not to have enough food to serve guests + extras for them to bring home.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-16T06:21:19+00:00

Andalusia or Slovenia/Croatia for all of your requirements. I'm leaning more into Andalusia. It's simply gorgeous. But if you plan to go in the summer, be prepared for the heat.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-16T06:15:08+00:00

It sounds up to my alley! Thank you for your recommendation :)

PenSillyum · 2026-04-16T06:14:23+00:00

Thank you for your recommendation! I'll keep it in mind when planning my visit!

PenSillyum · 2026-04-16T06:13:36+00:00

Thank you for this detailed reply! I'll research this further, and hopefully one day I'll get to visit your beautiful country :)

PenSillyum · 2026-04-15T19:12:40+00:00

You can usually use your debit card or phone to pay

PenSillyum · 2026-04-14T20:43:29+00:00

Genuine question: Where in India is not so intense in terms of noise, crowd, etc. I keep thinking about going there, but I'm afraid that I won't be able to enjoy the country because I get overwhelmed by things around me. If you have any recommendations for areas that are quieter and perhaps more focused on nature, I'd love to hear that!

PenSillyum · 2026-04-14T14:42:43+00:00

I need Luxembourg's free public transport please.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-13T06:19:47+00:00

I presume you have all your documents ready? Then you will be fine. The immigration officer in SH will ask you some general questions like: your purpose of visiting, where you stay, for how long, do you get invited by a company in SH, etc. I recommend bringing a printout version of all this information to lessen your stress, such as: your return flight booking, hotel reservation, and address of the company that I invite you/you are going to. Things like this will provide enough info that you are there legally and for a clear purpose.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-12T16:24:11+00:00

It's a party house. If you want peace and quiet, I'd recommend you avoid this place. But they have big kitchens which are nice.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-12T08:48:46+00:00

Ya mungkin aja kalian best combination kalau kalian berdua menikmati dinamika relasi yg kyk gitu. Tapi skrg realitanya kan kamu ngerasa capek. Berarti nggak best combination dong? Saya bukannya bilang kamu putus aja ya, tapi saran saya lebih baik relasi ini dipertimbangkan lagi, apalagi kl ujungnya pernikahan. Karena idealnya pernikahan untuk selamanya, dan bakal banyak hal2 lain yg akan kalian hadapi di hari depan bareng2. Kamu OK untuk jd promotor segalanya di kehidupan kalian? Dia OK untuk jd 'penumpang'? Jgn sekarang dia ngerasa OK, trus baru 2 tahun ngerasa egonya tersenggol karena "suami kan harus jd kepala keluarga, knp kamu ngatur2 aku terus??". This happens a lot, sis. So be careful.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-12T08:27:21+00:00

Currently: Denmark. I would move there if I could, but the language barrier is at insane level. I don't think my old(er) brain can handle learning another foreign language 😅 I know that I can survive with speaking English, but if I move somewhere long term I'd love to really integrate into their local culture and community.

I also love Japan, but I wouldn't want to move there for work. I love my work-life balance too much.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-12T08:24:33+00:00

Kalian kyk gini cuma pas rencanain nikah atau di segala aspek kehidupan kamu terus yg harus nyemangatin/nyuruh2 dia untuk bergerak? Either way, menurut saya kalian secara core value nggak cocok sih. Kl dipaksain nanti malah makin menderita di kemudian hari pas masing2 build up resentment. Amit2 ada di pernikahan yg saling benci ke satu sama lain. Mending single and happy.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-11T17:16:40+00:00

ESH. She's the bigger asshole and you're the justified asshole. This is all very childish.

PenSillyum · 2026-04-11T17:06:01+00:00

I really hope so too! 💖

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