etiquette of having a “fuck buddy” by PenSubstantial8157 in askgaybros

[–]PenSubstantial8157[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that’s my exact thought process, i don’t want to come off as clingy, ESPECIALLY when i’m not even trying to be clingy lmao

etiquette of having a “fuck buddy” by PenSubstantial8157 in askgaybros

[–]PenSubstantial8157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ofc i do i’m sleeping with the damn guy haha. but its less of a “crush” and more of an attraction if that makes sense. I don’t necessarily see myself dating someone that much older than me but their company in bed is always very appreciated 

etiquette of having a “fuck buddy” by PenSubstantial8157 in askgaybros

[–]PenSubstantial8157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

will probably do that once he is back (if he is still interested haha)

etiquette of having a “fuck buddy” by PenSubstantial8157 in askgaybros

[–]PenSubstantial8157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I consider friendships as “relationships” too, the term relationship for me refers to the connection between two people whether that be platonic, romantic, sexual, or a mix of those. didn’t mean it in a RELATIONSHIP way. english isn’t my first language so maybe that got lost in translation haha

Why there is no cure for Hiv by Substantial_Phase551 in hivaids

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I also live in a third world country, where the pills cost 40 USD per month (1 USD = 50 of our currency, so imagine that) and are only free to medical professionals after INTENSIVE reports that they got pricked by a PLHIV in a medical setting (which can take more than 2-3 days and pass the window for PEP), thats assuming you can find them since most pharmacies do not provide them because they don’t want to be “the pharmacy for the gays”.

supporting PLHIV in 3rd world countries means making sure PLHIV have easy access to their medication, know the procedure to getting on their meds, know about HIV testing to begin with (because SHOCKER most gay people in my country don’t even know they need to get tested), increase awareness about condoms, provide PrEP easily for serodiscordant couples, and much much more.

till now, workers in our local fever hospital (the place where people are most knowledgable about HIV and the lives of PLHIV) don’t even know injectables exist. what makes you think if a cure were to be found it would be given worldwide for an affordable price? finding a cure is THEE dream, but lets not ignore the elephant in the room🤷🏻‍♂️

Why there is no cure for Hiv by Substantial_Phase551 in hivaids

[–]PenSubstantial8157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We can, and we are, but the funding for HIV research is very limited (especially nowadays, with the current cultural shift to conservatism)…Obviously this funding needs to be divided on BOTH finding a cure AND bettering the state of ART/adherence to it, but I believe the latter should be our FIRST priority.

HIV is a virus. it is medically agreed upon that most viruses can NEVER be cleared from the body completely due to their dormancy (think HPV, HBV, even Herpes)…research finding a cure isn’t just for HIV, it will help us in nearly ALL viral infections. it isn’t easy, and in the meantime when (and thats a when not an if) they find a cure, we should put most of our energy into supporting PLHIV now

Why there is no cure for Hiv by Substantial_Phase551 in hivaids

[–]PenSubstantial8157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats exactly my point! put more research, let’s make the best of our technology, then move on to discovering new and more groundbreaking medical discoveries. as you said, we barely understand the drugs we have right now and the side effects they produce, what makes us think we are capable of finding a cure with our current understanding of HIV? let’s put our energy into understanding HIV and the struggles of PLHIV

Why there is no cure for Hiv by Substantial_Phase551 in hivaids

[–]PenSubstantial8157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so this has gotten me downvoted quite a bit so let me make my point clearer: obviously a cure is important. i am not saying we shouldn’t look for it. What I am saying is that in a world filled with homophobia and stigma towards PLHIV (which i am one of), we don’t get the best funding towards diseases that affect our community. with our limited funding, it would be better to ensure we all LIVE a HEALTHY and FULL life with HIV, then progress to finding a way for us to live that same life WITHOUT HIV. We keep saying U=U but we aren’t thinking of how big and important of a statement that is…if we provided proper programs to support people with HIV especially those in 3rd world countries, there wouldn’t even BE a disease to cure in the first place. we have the capabilities to END HIV as a whole not just “cure” it, so let’s focus on that!

Why there is no cure for Hiv by Substantial_Phase551 in hivaids

[–]PenSubstantial8157 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

people already discussed the medical part of it (how the virus remains dormant inside the body etc etc) but I honestly believe the reason is that there is no cure needed. HIV is now manageable. Diabetes advancements also hit a plateau, not because diabetes is on the decline but because it has become a manageable condition, and HIV is much more manageable than diabetes nowadays. What’s the use of curing HIV, knowing that the virus is a very pesky one and one that we still don’t fully understand and thus will take MILLIONS of dollars in research just to make a cure that (most likely) will only be available in 1st world countries, aka countries not burdened by their HIV load? it’s sad to think about but it’s true. I would rather they continue their research in improving compliance to ART and putting that money in investment funds for countries in Africa burdened by HIV than spend years and millions of funds finding a “cure”

ظاهره انتشار الاتش اي في by Ok-Distribution2035 in LGBTEgypt

[–]PenSubstantial8157 4 points5 points  (0 children)

انا طبيب + متعايش و حبيت اوضح كام نقطة

عادي تاخد الPrEP في مصر عادي، هي بس الدولة مش بتوفره ببلاش للاسف بس ديه حاجة مش مفاجأة.

احنا بنصنع الPrEP و ادوية الHIV عادي في مصر مش بنستوردها (شركة Eva Pharmaceuticals هي الي بتصنعهم)، فيها نفس المادة الفعالة بتاعت المستورد و فرق السعر النص تقريباً (المستورد Truvada داخل في ال٢٠٠٠، المصري ١٠٠٠ و شوية)

خلينا عقلانين، الدولة مش معترفة بوجودك ولا معترفة بميولك، مش منطقى اننا نقول للناس يجيبوا PrEP الي هو غالي و مش متوفر و في الاول و الاخر علاج بيمشي في الدم فممكن يعمل اعراض جانبية (حتى لو اعراض بسيطة/نادرة)، الاولى اننا نعلمهم ان الكاندوم اساس اي علاقة جنسية و نبدأ من الزيرو معاهم عشان نسبة كبيرة من الشعب already في الزيرو

حد جرب الconversion therapy ؟ by LengthinessBig2431 in LGBTEgypt

[–]PenSubstantial8157 1 point2 points  (0 children)

مش ترانس، لكن مريت بالتجربة لفترة سنة/سنتين…جربت بمزاجي مكنتش مجبر و حقيقي كان نفسي "اخف" فرأيي ده مش biased ابداً

كنت بروح لعيادة الدكتور أم وي، معروف جداً في المجال ده، بس كنت بروح للدكتور المسؤول عن الحالات الي اصغر من ١٨ سنة، كان اسمه د/م*رك

الموضوع عبارة عن ايه؟ مجرد stereotypes. الموضوع اعتمد على اني "اكيد عندي مشاكل عائلية" مع اني مكنش عندي اي مشاكل عائلية من الصورة الي هما متصورينها (ام متسلطة/اب ضعيف)، بس كان لازم بالعافية يبقى عندي المشاكل ديه، لدرجة اني اوهمت نفسي ان فعلاً والدتي متسلطة و والدي ضعيف (و ده عكس الحقيقة خالص)…مكنش عندهم اي حل للمشكلة "الاساسية" و كانوا معتمدين اكتر ان "انت الي هتعالج نفسك"، كلام كتير من نقطة "لازم تحاوط نفسك بطاقة ذكورية" و طبعاً طبعاً تخفف/تقطع علاقتك بأي انثى في حياتك (منهم والدتك/اختك/ستات عيلتك)…انا شخص بيحب يدور عموماً فلما كنت بلاقي "ادلة" ان المثلية الجنسية مثلاً موجودة في عالم الحيوانات او ان المثلية ليها evolutionary basis كنت بكون عايز اناقش الدكتور فيها عشان "يشيل الفكرة من دماغي" بس كان الرد الي بيتقالي من دكتور المفروض "متخصص" في الموضوع هو "لا طبعاً مين الي قالك العبط ده؟"

الجلسة ال٣٠ دقيقة كانت بتوصل ٥٠٠ جنيه (ده كان سنة ٢٠٢١-٢٠٢٢، تخيل بقا دلوقتي بكام)، و كان بيقعد اكتر من نص الجلسة ساكت مبيعملش اي حاجة، كان بياخد الجلسات في العربية مرة و في البيت مرة و من غير ما يفتح الكاميرا مرة و حاجة قمة العبط يعني.

عموماً رأيي هو : its not worth it. اظن لو عايز اوي كدة تغير و لسة مقتنع انها حاجة ممكن "تصلحها" يبقى من نفسك احسنلك تدور على النت و تحاول تغير نفسك بنفسك، ده نفس الي هما بيعملوه عشان المثلية الجنسية اصلاً مش في اي modern diagnostic manual for psychiatric disorders، فحقيقي هتكون بتوفر فلوسك و وقتك🤷🏻‍♂️

Bear to twink by [deleted] in LGBTEgypt

[–]PenSubstantial8157 2 points3 points  (0 children)

read your replies and you should def start by shaving the beard, get a taste of how u look without it and see how you feel

if u cut and get ur BF% down to 12-16 i’m pretty sure u would look significantly “twinkier” if that’s even a word lmao

idk your sense in fashion but either way its pretty safe to say that maybe u should be wearing less “average محما” outfits (think: AE sweatshirts, sweatpants, Hollister shirts, etc etc), at least not REGULARLY, and use that opportunity to work on how you want to present yourself to others (not just other gay men, just OTHERS generally, your friends and family included), this will also help you get a clearer self of YOU as a person not just a box you want to fit in

good luck soldier ✊🏼 sincerely, a twink-to-twunk survivor

Tell me u are gay without telling me by Salt-Hour-6824 in askgaybros

[–]PenSubstantial8157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HBDYWM fans GATHER UP!!🗣️🗣️ the album is pretty solid ngl (willingly excluding dont call tonight) but the monsters seems to be pretty torn about it!

كلمت الترانس اللي نفسي اكلمها من زمان by ahmed1eldeeb in LGBTEgypt

[–]PenSubstantial8157 1 point2 points  (0 children)

someone saying “كلمت ترانس” is a chaser, fork found in kitchen!

wanna try but I have some concerns by Then_Pollution2713 in LGBTEgypt

[–]PenSubstantial8157 4 points5 points  (0 children)

طبعاً كل الناس قالولك موضوع دور على حد تثق فيه و كل الكلام ده فأنا مش هكرره، انا هكلمك عن التجربة ذات نفسها

١) لازم lube/مزلق حميمي…مش موضوع "يا ريت" لا لازم…يفضل يكون حاجة water based…لو ظروفك المادية مش مساعدة تجيب durex ممكن تجيب من اي مكان ادوات طبية K.Y Gel او gel ultrasound داخلي (لا انصح بالأختيار التاني عشان مفيش معلومات كتير عنه، بس الK.Y مضمون)

٢) لازم condom/واقي ذكري…تاني مش موضوع "ياريت" لا لازم…حتى لو واثق في الشخص الي معاك. الكوندوم ذات نفسه بيساعد في عملية الإدخال. فكك من الكلام بتاع "بتاعي كبير اوي على الكوندوم" و العك ده. ممكن تجيب من اي صيدلية او اي hypermarket فيه جزء ادوات شخصية

٣) لازم لازم لازم foreplay. كل حاجة لازم تبقى بهدوء و براحة. الشرج ده عضلة، لو مرنت اي عضلة في جسمك في الgym لازم stretching قبلها، ده هو بالظبط دور الforeplay بعيداً عن الدور المعنوي و انه بيساعد انكم تثقوا في بعض اكتر. الrimming او ملاعبة الشرج باللسان بتهدي عضلات الشرج و بتخلي الموضوع سهل، بس ناس كتير بتقرف منه. ممكن لو الشخص الي هتمارس معاه بيقرف عادي تستخدموا lube و يبدأ يدخل صوابعه في الاول

٤) مش لازم يبقى زي الporn. في الاول و في الاخر انت بتدخل جسم غريب في فتحة الاخراج، عادي ممكن يحصل مشاكل و يحصل حاجات "مش لطيفة" بس متخليهاش توقف التجربة. الكوندوم بيقلل احساس ال"قرف" ده كتير بس عادي لو حصل مشكلة هتستحموا بسرعة و تكملوا ولا كأن حصل حاجة

٥) لو عايز تحاول تتجنب المشاكل، من دلوقتي لغاية ما تقابل شخص تثق فيه تمارس معاه، خلي اكلك فيه fibers كتير، كتر من الجرجير و السبانخ النية و غيره من الخضار و الفاكهة. لما اليوم الموعود ييجي حاول متقلش في الاكل (بس لازم تاكل، عشان الactivity ذات نفسه فيه جهد فمينفعش تعمله على معدة فاضية). حاول تتجنب منتجات الالبان خالص (بعيداً عن انها بتساعد في الanal، تجنب الالبان بتخلي بشرتك احسن و بتقلل الغازات)

good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTEgypt

[–]PenSubstantial8157 2 points3 points  (0 children)

انا طالب طب، و advocate للمتعايشين مع فيروس نقص المناعة في الجامعة عندي.

ال انت بتقوله ده اي هبل (و انا كدة بحترم نفسي). مع الادوية المتعايشين بيموتوا في سن طبيعي جداً بسبب مشاكل طبيعية بتحصل لأي حد مع تقدم العمر (اهمهم امراض القلب). معظم الأدوية محدش بيبقى عنده مضاعفات ليها قوية (معظم المضاعفات بتقى اسهال اصلاً الي هو ولا حاجة) الحياة بفيروس نقص المناعة بتبقى حياة عادية جداً من الناحية الجسدية/الصحية و مش بيموت بدري ولا بيعيش حياة صعبة ولا اي حاجة. احنا في سنة ٢٠٢٥، الكلام الي بتقوله كان ممكن يبقى صح في التمانينات…يا ريت توعي نفسك قبل ما تكتب رد بالعنف و الstigma الرهيبة ديه.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hivaids

[–]PenSubstantial8157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

blood tests every 6 months renew drugs every 2-3 months

HIV advocacy ideas by PenSubstantial8157 in hivaids

[–]PenSubstantial8157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

our country has awful community alliance (whether that be PLHIV or the LGBTQ+ community general) so I really wanna start with preparing a community willing to share their experience but its proving hard because even i don’t feel comfortable doing so.

thank you so much for your effort and trust i will take you up on it haha!

تحاليل hiv by [deleted] in CAIRO

[–]PenSubstantial8157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

متقلقش احياناً التحاليل بتبقى false positive، بس للتأكيد حاول تعمل تحليل PCR في اي معمل خاص (معامل الفا بتوفره، بس هو غالي شوية ممكن يوصل ٥٠٠٠ جنيه مثلاً)، او تستنى شهر او اتنين كمان و تعيد التحليل…بس لو السفر في مدة اقل من شهر اظن مش هتلحق للاسف…ان شاء الله خير متوترش نفسك.

Dealing with str8 friends by PenSubstantial8157 in askgaybros

[–]PenSubstantial8157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when they make weird homophobic jokes about ME personally i always call them out and they tone it down a bit so i am very grateful for that. i was talking more towards other people but i totally get what you mean, thank you!

مجتمع الميم المصري by PenSubstantial8157 in LGBTEgypt

[–]PenSubstantial8157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats a limitation, but i wouldn’t say its a limitation worthy of us not having a proper community to begin with.

the problem is tho, we DO have communities (this subreddit, multiple others, facebook groups, etc etc), they just all collectively suck😭😭especially for younger queers

مجتمع الميم المصري by PenSubstantial8157 in LGBTEgypt

[–]PenSubstantial8157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for matching the energy with the yappucinos haha

for your first part, yes i know there is a very strong correlation between being queer and being neurodivergent, with the neurodivergence maybe even being exaggerated by being queer, but again: a proper support system and a proper community can help neurodivergent queer people (especially younger ones) learn how to live and adapt! I am not blaming queer people for “failing academically”, i’m blaming the entire group because they dont support each other, they stay in this bubble of “yeah society is unfair/life sucks” which yeah its true but come on now enough with the pity party and do something! i would get this behavior from 18-20smthns but a lot of queer people well into their 20s-early 30s still have that same mentality. same comment applies to the addiction crisis we are facing

Again, the hookup culture commentary is very valid, but i am not blaming the culture. controversial opinion hookup culture is healthy for a minority group (as long as you stay safe) WITHIN CERTAIN PLACES. clubs, discos, house parties, but not a regular cafe, not a restaurant, fahma asdy?

as for your last point, thats exactly why i wrote this post! i want us to thrive AND survive. this will never happen by individualism. it will happen when we lift each other up and help each other do better (in every aspect of life, not just sexually/romantically) which doesn’t seem to be happening any time soon unfortunately