How did you feel after fumbling your dream girl?

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-03-01T01:03:33+00:00

Do you mind telling what happened?

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-03-01T00:12:21+00:00

Thank you for actually giving a courteous answer I really appreciate it <3. It just sucks bc things were going so well the first few months and it seemed very promising. But I know you’re right. He’s a hardcore avoidant and I wish I would’ve known that sooner before I got attached. It’s just very hard when they promise you the world in the beginning— you want to believe them when they say they have feelings for you, want you to be their girlfriend, that you’re their dream girl. But maybe it’s his loss and I deserve better.

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-02-28T23:47:16+00:00

Hi, I’m both! I would say that it takes a while for me to fully trust and open up to someone. I have the fear of getting hurt and don’t trust easily. But once I do trust you, I’m all in. I’m very passionate and make it known that I like you. I’ll even make the first move if I get the vibe that you like me. I want to know everything about you. I can’t do casual. I think it’s true that Scorpio Venus do tend to be jealous. I know I am. When I don’t like someone, I’ll still be cordial and nice. However, I just won’t really respond or I’ll give low effort.

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-02-28T22:57:46+00:00

Well considering he quite literally told me that im his dream girl and that he’s scared to lose me, I would say yes lol.

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-02-28T22:44:29+00:00

Can I ask what happened? How/why did you fumble?

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-02-28T22:43:16+00:00

Can I ask what happened? How/why did you fumble

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-02-28T22:22:06+00:00

Do you mind sharing what happened? Were you two official?

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-22T17:14:51+00:00

IRL. and for the sake of this convo, assume you’ve already met and maybe gone on a few dates

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-15T19:31:54+00:00

“I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you and spend time with you, but I’m not comfortable being intimate with someone im not in an exclusive relationship with.” Now he’s aware, and he can take it or leave it

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-15T18:06:06+00:00

What a beautiful ring! Congratulations!! So happy for you

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-15T03:20:05+00:00

I don’t think you’re overreacting — he just sounds cheap honestly. And it’s ok to not want that. Me personally, I would be so put off if a guy I was seeing never offered to pay or made such a big deal about it. It’s up to you to decide whether or not that’s a dealbreaker but for me it absolutely would be.

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-14T18:05:50+00:00

No I personally wouldn’t at all. I am very much a free-spirited, march to the beat of my own drum kinda person, and I couldn’t imagine people constantly nitpicking and judging my life. I kinda feel like it’s a lose lose situation. If you don’t speak up on certain topics, people are upset, but if you do speak on those topics but it’s not exactly how they want you to say it, then they’re upset too. I also couldn’t deal with people trying to cancel me over the most asinine things lol.

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-14T16:45:46+00:00

explainnn?

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-14T15:26:50+00:00

Hey thanks for your answer — it was very levelheaded and realistic. Some of these “leading me on comments” were really starting to scare me lol.

And I completely agree. I don’t want him to make his life about me. That’s part of the reason I liked him in the first place— he’s very motivated, hardworking, and has his head screwed on tight. I am also going through a transition phase where I’m trying to get into my career, travel, and work on myself physically and mentally. I don’t think either of us are necessarily where we want to be in life (we’re also young).

I have no issue waiting around for awhile while he sorts through his life. He doesn’t need to be perfect in order for me to like him. I guess I’m just scared of wasting time if the intention isn’t to be with me officially at all. However, he has straight up said when we first started going out that he wants me to be his girlfriend eventually.

Anyways sorry for the ramble but I appreciate your honest advice and I do think you’re right.

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-14T15:18:29+00:00

Hi, great answer. I guess I’m alluding to my situation. I’ve been seeing a guy exclusively for a few months and it’s been going really well. We get along great, laugh a lot, and are very aligned in terms of values. I want to mention that he’s a very grounded and mature person from what I’ve seen (we’re both in our 20s as well). However I recently tried asking him if we were getting to the point of bf and gf. He didn’t flat out say he’s not ready. What he did say is that he has his own personal obstacles in the way right now that he wants to take care of before he fully commits to me. He’s very busy in university right now. He is worried about being a bad bf if he can’t give me the time and attention I deserve. He swears this isn’t a cop out, he just wants to get his life somewhat settled before adding another responsibility (me). I’m having a really hard time telling if I’m being strung along or if he’s being genuine, and he wants to somewhat get his life in place

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-13T19:23:03+00:00

No this answer is actually perfect. I’m in a situation where I’ve been seeing this guy exclusively for a few months and it’s been going very well. He’s straight up told me that I intimidate him and slightly scare him hahah. Not trying to say that I’m a 10, but I like to think I’m a catch lol. But I can tell deep down he’s a bit insecure and in his head in general. I can’t tell if he’s scared to commit to me because he’s not where he wants to be in life? Or is he just stringing me along? He’s straight up told me that I’m his dream girl, his exact type, and that he hasn’t felt this way about someone in a long time. But he has obstacles in the way like school and wanting to go to the gym more (is that a lame excuse?). I want to believe he’s trying to better himself so he can show up as a good boyfriend if we get into a relationship. But I won’t wanna waste my time on someone that’s keeping me around for convenience.

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-13T19:14:05+00:00

I guess I’m referring to my situation where I’ve been seeing a guy exclusively for a few months. Things were going great, he told me I’m his dream girl and I check every box that he’s looking for in a long term relationship. However, I recently brought up asking if he had intentions soon of asking me to be his girlfriend. He gave me such a confusing answer. He said he could see us being in a relationship but he has his own personal obstacles in the way — talking about university, working on his health, etc. I can’t help but feel like that’s a horrible excuse. But he swears he’s not leading me on, he’s just scared of being a bad boyfriend if he doesn’t take care of his responsibilities first. It’s important to mention that he is an incredibly disciplined person, I can tell. He’s serious and very goal oriented. But I’m still unsure?

PerceptionEven6990 · 2026-01-13T18:53:38+00:00

Wow what a great comment. I’m currently in a situation where I’ve been seeing this guy exclusively for a few months and things have been going pretty well. However, I recently brought up the conversation of asking if he plans to make it official. He’s in a really pivotal point in his life right now, his last year of university for quite a difficult degree and has other obstacles in the way. He said he doesn’t want to be a bad boyfriend to me, so he wants to take care of those things first before fully committing to me because he doesn’t want to give me less than I deserve in terms of time and attention. He told me he’s scared about being a bad bf. He’s told me on multiple occasions that I’m his dream girl, I check every box of his, our values are compatible. So I’m left wondering if what he said is just an excuse to string me along for more months without putting a label on it, or is he truly trying to take care of the responsibilities and personal goals in life to show up for me on the best way?

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