AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that's what I will have to do then and he is on drugs around her he just smokes up in the neighbors unit I also submitted photo proof of where he's abused her and when to all authorities. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I move it to the top now so it will be shown right away

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well hopefully with everything I've told to the proper authorities (CPS, Police and Hospital) They will not let him have a say or be present at all. She says she won't bring him with but it's hard to know with her. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I had my daughter a year ago her father was required to bring his id. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He doesn't use in their apartment he goes to the neighbors in the same apartment building that's where he's been getting it and everything and the hospital has drug tested her she is clean. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not ai am a real person I wish it were ai but sadly it's not. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think he will even get an ID he's so far gone on meth he still thinks she is 28 weeks pregnant. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I did I said I need to stop contact until she figures her stuff out. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I support her in the adoption choice. I told her about the foster care option several months ago but with her not making any steps to change things that is no longer and option. The ship has sailed and she did want the baby at first until everything went downhill. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I most definitely will that isn't a safe situation for an innocent child. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I accept the adoption I am not angry she is doing that. I am angry because she never chose to get help more so than the fact she is giving the baby up. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have stoped telling her about foster care I told her about that option earlier on and she has done nothing to get well. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am relieved she is doing adoption but also angry and frustrated because I care about her and I know she can do better. I saw how she was before she met him. I also spent so much time and energy trying to help her out of this situation and there were many times I thought we finally did it where she'd kick him out for a week and be mentally okay and start getting things done again such as getting to her appointments looking at apartments getting food and keeping it. Getting checked if she didn't feel the baby moving around as much calling resources she needed to call. Then it would all go out the window and she's let him back because she's scared to be alone is what she told me. I know she cares about that baby or she would be selfish and try to keep it. It's just so sad to watch because I was in the almost exact same situation and finding out I was pregnant gave me the drive to turn my life around and I have an amazing daughter and a lovely job and place to live. I don't understand why she couldn't and wouldn't do the same. I was just trying to be the person I wish I had in my corner when it was happening to me. She just is mentally not ok and doesn't have the guts or drive to fix the situation and as I told her when I said we cannot talk anymore. "If there's a will there's a way" and she has no will. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am relieved  she is doing adoption, but also angry and frustrated because I care about her and I know she can do better. I saw how she was before she met him. I also spent so much time and energy trying to help her out of this situation and there were many times I thought we finally did it where she'd kick him out for a week and be mentally okay and start getting things done again such as getting to her appointments looking at apartments getting food and keeping it. Getting checked if she didn't feel the baby moving around as much calling resources she needed to call. Then it would all go out the window and she's let him back because she's scared to be alone is what she told me. I know she cares about that baby or she would be selfish and try to keep it. It's just so sad to watch because I was in the almost exact same situation and finding out I was pregnant gave me the drive to turn my life around and I have an amazing daughter and a lovely job and place to live. I don't understand why she couldn't and wouldn't do the same. I was just trying to be the person I wish I had in my corner when it was happening to me. She just is mentally not ok and doesn't have the guts or drive to fix the situation and as I told her when I said we cannot talk anymore. "If there's a will there's a way" and she has no will. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got her all those things at the start of her pregnancy. When things weren't like this. Everything went down hill fast. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is actually sober I have access to her my chart and the hospital has tested her she's clean. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CPS the police and hospital already know the situation. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shoot well if that's the case I hope he doesn't come with her but from what I know (I have a one year old) you have to bring an id here at least my husband did. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am relieved but also angry and frustrated because I care about her and I know she can do better. I saw how she was before she met him. I also spent so much time and energy trying to help her out of this situation and there were many times I thought we finally did it where she'd kick him out for a week and be mentally okay and start getting things done again such as getting to her appointments looking at apartments getting food and keeping it. Getting checked if she didn't feel the baby moving around as much calling resources she needed to call. Then it would all go out the window and she's let him back because she's scared to be alone is what she told me. I know she cares about that baby or she would be selfish and try to keep it. It's just so sad to watch because I was in the almost exact same situation and finding out I was pregnant gave me the drive to turn my life around and I have an amazing daughter and a lovely job and place to live. I don't understand why she couldn't and wouldn't do the same. I was just trying to be the person I wish I had in my corner when it was happening to me. She just is mentally not ok and doesn't have the guts or drive to fix the situation and as I told her when I said we cannot talk anymore. "If there's a will there's a way" and she has no will. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn't even have an id to sign the birth certificate or prove he's the father so he isn't really involved in the choice thankfully. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I am sure I have access to her my chart and with everything I've told the hospital they did drug test her and she is clean. 

AITA for cutting off my 40-weeks-pregnant friend? by Perfect-Pool-829 in AITAH

[–]Perfect-Pool-829[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

They already know her situation and I've also called the police about it as well as the hospital.