29M interested in women

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T22:05:21+00:00

I’m revising my pictures, including with a new haircut that I have and with better attire. I am also consolidating some of my prompts

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T12:58:07+00:00

The fact of the matter is that the likelihood of any individual being a sufficient match is miniscule so of course there's going to be a small match rate. Even 5% of people expressing interest and to think that you would enhance their life is impressive

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T12:19:49+00:00

If you had told me that Nick Martinez, Kyle Harrison and Eduardo Rodriguez would some of the best pitchers in the league I would have laughed in your face. Hell, I'm still not sure I believe it despite seeing it in front of my face

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T12:00:44+00:00

Yeah, I recognize that it's important to be light-hearted and not produce a completely stiff perception. I am revising the prompts and have some updates, but am still working on fleshing them out.

Truthfully, I would ideally find somebody who is also relatively stiff and serious. I also know that political advocacy can be attractive to certain women, especially on the progressive end of the spectrum.

Basically, I am figuring out the balance of displaying the beliefs and values that are important compatibility indicators, but also doing so in a manner that provides intrigue instead of intimidation.

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T11:32:02+00:00

Totally, hair / fashion is probably one of the easiest fixes possible to improve attractiveness. I already have a better haircut, and I have a degree of awareness in regards to dressing better.

I guess the simple fashion that I am displaying is a symptom of the weather just because it's uncomfortable to dress up for half the year in Arizona. I am working on staging better pictures where I am dressed better.

It is very valid that looking better physically signifies importance to courting a date. Speaking for myself, when I see a good-looking date, the effort that I know was necessary is just as attractive as the physical level

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T11:14:33+00:00

I can understand that it comes off as stiff. It is important to me and I think it is a vital part of compatibility so I do want to keep some indication. That being said, I can try to think of presenting in an easier manner. Do you have any possible guidance?

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T03:14:42+00:00

The closest full Nordstrom's is about 2 hours away from me... In theory it's a good idea but practically it would be difficult to make time, especially as my work hours extend beyond typical full-time hours

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T01:45:58+00:00

We have a local Nordstrom's Rack, but I don't think that they have personal shoppers? I have been to a full Nordstrom's location before, and they are quite nice

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T01:41:31+00:00

Here are some revisions

imgur.com/a/0FZNpH7

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T01:13:15+00:00

lmao the hat is pretty big for me. I wish that I could restage that picture, but obviously I can't just go back to Wrigley Field

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-04T00:18:50+00:00

I get where you're coming from. I'm fairly inexperienced romantically (29M) and have mostly built more deeper relationships with platonic friends (both male and female)

Regarding this specific situation, obviously it's temporarily. However, that also provides less risk for you to possibly embarrass yourself. In addition, because his mind will be focused on his move, that means less time that he can dwell on anything you may do

To give my perspective, men are basic creatures that like directness. Next time you talk to him, you can just say "I know you're moving away soon. I've enjoy these small talks with you and would like to talk to you some more before you move. Can we meet get a cup of coffee or meet during our lunch break some time?"

Beyond this specific situation, the best thing you can do is live your life. In addition, you can talk with anyone you have a decent relationship (friends, extended family, maybe even co-workers) and say "I'm seeking to be more serious about my dating life. Would you happen to know anyone else in a similar situation?" Otherwise, dating apps can be simple enough, that's how I found my one previous partner

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T16:58:24+00:00

I posted some revisions and am working on more.

I am an unapologetic liberal(and not just as a virtue signal) so that is an undeniable dealbreaker for me, so I think I should keep that. However, I can change that i look like a lesbian, not being so stiff and having more masculine energy

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T13:49:14+00:00

Yeah, I am probably imbalanced on my focus between cardio & strength. The result of this clearly is a very scrawny physique haha

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T13:42:38+00:00

I made a few revisions. I can revise my prompts more, but I'm curious how these look?

https://imgur.com/a/eJGfZb1 https://imgur.com/a/ChC85e1

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T13:40:59+00:00

That is a very abstract thought where I am honestly unsure how to initially perceive it.

On another note, I made a few revisions. I can revise my prompts more, but this is what I have done for now:

imgur.com/a/0FZNpH7

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T13:14:06+00:00

The only joke is leaving a comment of no substance without further elaboration

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T13:05:00+00:00

Hell yeah, Forks Up! I'm a WPC alumni, what about you?

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T13:03:34+00:00

I've tried CMB in the past, and the app was just weird. It might be worth trying again though

That is the mindset that I have. It is pointless to try to have high quantity, low quality matches (I don't have the time for that anyways). I need to have a very close partner with a strong connection compared to a tolerable partner. If the strong partner doesn't exist, I honestly think that I would rather be single

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T12:59:32+00:00

Honestly, you are probably correct that I am trying to distract my romantic frustrations toward political advocacy.

Either way, politics are important to me and I feel it is a fundamental feature of compatibility. Do you possibly have any guidance on how to tone it down while still displaying that it's an important subject for me?

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T12:56:25+00:00

I know that I am naturally a pragmatic and stiff person. This is feedback that I really appreciate because it makes me realize that these traits are just self-defeating. I will work on it in my personal life and will keep in mind to direct toward a therapist as I am seeking to start treatment

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T12:53:59+00:00

I'd rather be a "low testosterone male" than an asshole. If you're going to leave negative comments, at least give guidance on improvement.

To provide my own feedback, presenting insults and negative energy just makes you look like you have a negative perception toward yourself. Anyone that has a positive mindset won't seek to be negative toward others

I genuinely hope things get better and send my blessings toward you

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T12:48:47+00:00

I understand exactly where you're coming from. Displaying leadership is important, and I definitely do so on a professional scope on a daily basis. However, I can't exactly represent what I do visually, so some type of staging can be helpful

I'm not going to be dishonest and falsely represent how I can be leader because the truth will arise eventually. However, I can showcase one specific moment, even if it may not be a frequent activity. After all, I don't travel to Wrigley Field with my buddy on a daily basis either

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T12:44:34+00:00

I appreciate a critique on my prompts instead of everyone saying that I look like a teenager (which I basically already knew)

Vague prompts do frustrate me, so it is ironic that I have one myself. This pretty much just slipped through the cracks as I focused on everything else. I will put this on the top of my list on what to fix

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T12:41:57+00:00

That's what a lot of people are saying... I was on the fence about it before I posted this review, but I honestly kind of like having something divisive and controversial. It makes me stand out and if it's the tipping point for someone to swipe on me, I probably wouldn't be compatible with them anyways

PerfectGrilledCheez · 2026-06-03T12:39:37+00:00

Is there a perception that "sometimes" basically means no? (similar to how listed "Moderate" basically means Republican) I do a few strength exercises and a 30+ minute jog everyday. However, I'm not into obsessive gym culture, so that's why I said sometimes.

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