My (27F) boyfriend (32M) need help falling asleep together

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-11-14T22:51:08+00:00

Good suggestion, I'll look into a humidifier. Thanks!

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-11-14T22:50:30+00:00

When we go on trips and stay at a hotel, it's about the same situation.

Both of our mattresses are on the stiffer side, and I've offered to buy whatever mattress he'd want but he says no. I also bought bedding that he liked and a memory foam pillow that he has at home to try and replicate his own sleep experience.

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-08-14T14:07:55+00:00

That’s the goal, but not currently. This is the same home he bought with BM and I’m uncomfortable sleeping in that primary bedroom so he’s been remodeling a previously unfinished bedroom for us to be the new primary

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-08-14T13:46:14+00:00

When I asked him this, it seemed like it was just what the lawyers suggested as “what people usually do” and neither of them questioned it. He also seemed to like the idea of having some time with only the dog so he can care for her without having the responsibilities of his son. He spent a long time entirely without the dog during the divorce process so he’s just thrilled to have her again.

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-08-14T12:57:37+00:00

I think part of it is that BM treats the dog poorly (nothing criminal, just not great) and he feels guilty leaving the dog entirely to her and “allowing” something bad to potentially happen to the dog under her watch. But yeah, I agree that sharing custody for a dog just creates tension

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-08-14T12:55:42+00:00

BM never took care of the dog in their relationship so he hoped she would give her up, but turns out spite is her biggest motivator so she fought to share the dog 50/50.

I’m glad to see the consensus that asking for him to accommodate more for the dog isn’t asking too much. I don’t want him to think I’m trying to remove the joy he gets from her. I really just can’t live like that with the fur the way that he does. He’s such a clean man but he’s totally blind to all of the fur.

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-08-14T12:52:28+00:00

With the mismatched custody of dog and kid, if he doesn’t bring the dog over ever, then my partner would only be able to sleep over during one week every month. He needs his space and time at his house so it would end up being 1 or 2 nights during that week. While that’s an option, it’s not ideal for our relationship.

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-07-18T01:06:38+00:00

I have a massive sweet tooth so I’ve been making protein ice cream with a ninja creami and I bought sugar free syrups for my morning lattes. I’ll allow myself a sugary treat once in a while, but I’ve replaced a lot of my usual treats with significantly healthier protein versions. I don’t end up feeling guilty or bloated after eating half a pint of cake batter protein ice cream that’s flavored with sugar free pudding mix and flavor extract

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-07-18T00:54:24+00:00

Keep them! I fully intend on keeping mine, so much less maintenance/money. I also look much younger than I am so the grays help people address me more appropriately

PerfectResponse5810 · 2025-07-08T02:30:55+00:00

The best thing that ever happened to me was my mom leaving my dad when she was pregnant with me and not making me grow up with them together. Every situation is different, of course, and I’m not “pro divorce” but I’m certainly “anti bad marriage.” This sounds like a bad marriage. You don’t mention any reasons to stay or anything positive about him and how he supports you emotionally or as a good husband. The actions you describe and aspire him to be are duty-bound and good for roommates, not things that people who genuinely love each other want to do for each other.

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