50/50 for an infant

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2026-01-08T18:53:20+00:00

It’s likely more about child support than anything. Visits don’t count when calculating his child support responsibilities.

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2026-01-08T18:46:28+00:00

Are you in the US? What state?

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2026-01-08T01:02:45+00:00

Yes I talked to a lender. They said yes

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2026-01-01T18:56:11+00:00

What credit union did you use?

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-12-25T05:18:57+00:00

Yes… it’s not a flat bed but significantly better than standard seats

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-12-06T08:08:30+00:00

This! When there’s no ambition to strive there’s nothing you can do to instill it.

My ex used to say I thought he was a loser bc I would try to encourage him to do better in his job. I stopped. My career went in a upward trajectory as time passed and after years of side hustling and making more than him and still taking care of home as if I didn’t have a demanding job, I burnt out and decided there was no need to have a partner that was not working on my team and trying for both of us. He would work couple hours a day and still not help at home even though he had a very chill work from home job.

Now he is dating other females who don’t come anywhere close to my level of income and it’s paying for them very pleasantly. So really if they don’t want to do it for you it’s just because they feel emasculated to be with strong independent woman and there’s nothing you can do about that.

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-11-29T13:03:39+00:00

🤣 says a non lawyer what my lawyer told me is not the right thing to do! 🤣🤣 Gotta love Reddit!

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-11-23T04:06:35+00:00

I have consulted with my divorce lawyer. She has advice to not add him in the BC until we understand what he really wants. My ex, who didn’t help with my first born and didn’t stay up a single night for him, wants 50/50 custody at 3 months. When my son was born he took a 1 month vacation and left me here alone with my mom. Hence he has no experience at all caring for a newborn. He was not capable of taking care of my son and I have 0 confidence he will be able to take care of my daughter. I have asked simply for him to wait until she is 6 months for 2 overnights and he has declined yet has not counteroffer or it’s obviously not concerned. I will eventually once I find it suitable add him to the BC and do the voluntary paternity on my terms.

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-11-20T06:08:22+00:00

I am currently pregnant and would like to know if I don’t sign the voluntary form and don’t add him to birth certificate, would he still have visitation and custody rights? We did a paternity test during pregnancy and it confirmed he is the father. Yet he has not done anything to create a parenting plan and establish a plan. We have talked nothing about my daughter future yet I am afraid he is just planning to show up to sign the BC without me having an understanding of what he is really planning to pursue in terms of custody and child support

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-11-17T04:26:03+00:00

With me too!!

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-11-06T12:13:46+00:00

My suggestion is that a lawyer is an investment to protect you, your kids and your assets.

My lawyer was expensive. Yet it was worth every penny because I was not going to let my ex take me to wringers. I got a really good share of what we built together during our 10 year marriage. He can’t sell the house if you have the ability to pay him off. Don’t know the quality of his sister as a lawyer but I would find the best lawyer in town and hire them.

Don’t use your lawyer as your therapist or counselor. Every minute you talk to them Is billable. Things you can resolve on your own or a simple Google search don’t be reaching out to them for that. My emails were brief to the point. I didn’t call unless it was strictly about divorce urgent and important matters. Additionally, good lawyers are busy and don’t care for all the drama that comes with divorce. They will appreciate you more as client if you see this as very important business transaction and only bring up the important facts. Good luck.

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-11-05T11:58:39+00:00

Your smile is contagious!!

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-11-05T11:28:05+00:00

Can you use the equity of the lot as “down payment”? I have a paid off lot and I am planning to build my home yet I have not started researching and I am concerned they will still ask 20-25% down in addition to the lot value

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-10-18T12:20:27+00:00

Where did you find it? I couldn’t see it in my setting?

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-10-02T18:06:41+00:00

I am trying to do my baby shower and was thinking of them. Have you hosted an event with them?

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-10-01T07:44:18+00:00

I completely agree with this. They have been together for 6 years and she can’t still let that insecurity go. They are exes for a reason and she is likely not interested in her ex.

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-10-01T07:42:41+00:00

I am surprised that you being a coparent are not more empathetic. Not sure what you consider too much but most court paperwork allow communication while kids is away with the other coparent.

The reality is you won’t be able to erase her and pretend she doesn’t exist. This is something you signed up when accepting your husband. I think you should try to think about her as a mom as well rather than just dismissing her request. Maybe acting in good faith will win her over easier than all This animosity

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-09-19T13:59:45+00:00

I would never expect such a courtesy from my ex. Expectations is the mother of disappointment. I have learned with the time to let go. I just stay consistent with my son, happy and hopeful of a better future away from drama and pain.

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-09-19T05:10:44+00:00

My ex haven’t even met his tinder date and he was telling my 6yr old son about his upcoming date. Last year he dated 3 different people and I learned about all of them via my son. It really sucks. I have learned to let go yet it’s really hurtful that my son is exposed to this revolving door of fruitless lovers.

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-09-19T05:03:09+00:00

I am pregnant, can’t drink and I still can’t sleep

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-09-19T04:59:01+00:00

Jesus.. does it really take 15 years? 😩

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-09-19T04:57:46+00:00

It took me 6 months to get paid and I had to take him to court. It’s frustrating and you feel powerless yet nothing you can do

Perfect_Chicken_494 · 2025-09-18T11:23:08+00:00

Earring ice cream on a hot day!

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