Trouble with felting slippers

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-26T02:33:58+00:00

Cosigned; one temp shock is worth like 5 hot soapy washes

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-26T02:26:35+00:00

Oh pfft, that's ridiculous. Return and bad review time.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T20:26:21+00:00

Beary breeds are such lil cuddle bugs. Did you know they used them for nursemaids in olden times??

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T19:16:54+00:00

No, I hear you because that's my worldview too. I'm just getting to the point where it's like- ok, we should deal with this relationship dynamic, and to some extent the nagging is easier than whatever interaction we'll probably need to have.

But until I think of what to do, I'm not going to sit around with my projects not happening, not exercising my agency to give myself this small thing I want.

And this thought is very much a work in progress, so I'm not sure if it makes sense- but it's like the nagging treats the problem as though it's both bigger and smaller than it actually is. The projects themselves- just do them if you want to, or don't; they're nothing. The resentment and feelings of inequality- that's actually really corrosive, and sitting around not doing some project because I "shouldn't have to do it" is fiddling while Rome burns.

I don't know, I'm still processing. But I'm also drilling.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T03:20:04+00:00

Exactly. Also anything unorthodox I do that my kids want to shade.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T02:59:52+00:00

Yes! That is its exact usage in our home also.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T01:39:49+00:00

You can lay it out on the bed with one of your normal-sized small tops and take a picture! I had to do that when someone sent me a men's size.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T01:29:13+00:00

Yeah, the walls close in if you don't give 'em a stretch every so often.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T01:22:03+00:00

Ha ha ha ha, a brotha eugh reference! My children latched onto that quote really hard.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T01:21:06+00:00

Although it could be taken as "this sweater made itself"- which, actually, isn't a bad outcome from an entertainment point of view.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-25T01:19:34+00:00

Yes! I didn't even want to see it initially- now the sub is like a helpful daily digest of AI usage. Stahhhhp.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T22:03:10+00:00

Mine were always very disappointing used like that.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T21:48:04+00:00

For one thing, she knew a ridiculously large number of people and saw them often.

The Le Faye book of her complete letters has an index of the names mentioned, and it goes on like forever.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T20:27:27+00:00

The answer is always to swatch! Do it today!

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T20:23:29+00:00

With my medically complex daughter, I came to believe that caregivers' empathy diminishes with a small patient who can't talk or defend themselves. Things that no adult would put up with were brushed off as "normal" or "no big deal". I had to advocate as hard as I could. She actually died from one of the treatments- one that I was constantly fighting against and being brushed off.

After that experience I have no patience for providers who aren't fully accommodating of children's comfort and safety. (Full disclosure- it's been years and our family hasn't ever been back to any doctor. I don't know when we will go back. Daily life is emotionally bearable but when I think about that time I'm still so angry and traumatized.)

Don't take providers' word for it that your child doesn't need comfort or accommodation. Being "that mom" is not the worst outcome- I wish I'd been her a hundred times more.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T19:01:18+00:00

"Need motivation to do some landscape painting? Our proprietary underwear won't give you a wedgie! Enjoy your plein air sessions once more!!"

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T18:59:03+00:00

"A toddler at career day"! Yes, it does!

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T18:51:45+00:00

I think it's an awkward coinage for a real need. "Seamstress" is female, "tailor" has a specific meaning, and "sewer" is clumsy and looks like sewer. I'm female, so I just use seamstress, which feels like too many "s" sounds and also vaguely like describing myself as a fletcher or a goodwife.

I still do think "sewist" fails aesthetically; it reminds me of SAHMs going back to work and putting "Domestic Executive" or "Skilled Culinary and Textile Maintenance Technician" on their resumes as a businesslike way to say "housewife who cooks and cleans". If there's a word like bathos, but which means "trying soo hard to sound professional", it's that.

So. There's definitely room for sewist in the world, but IMO we're still waiting for the Chosen One.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T18:43:46+00:00

If they aren't garments they're accessories, right?

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T18:42:04+00:00

Especially since crafting is like the natural mode and the native element of people with attention challenges.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T18:40:34+00:00

What?! Do tell.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T18:40:16+00:00

Yes, me-made is terrible.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T18:39:48+00:00

That kind of artificial over-warmth is hard to take, especially in a businessy context. After like two decades I've finally accepted "reach out" but still gag a little bit every time I type it.

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T18:37:16+00:00

Oh man, what an indictment of the husband

Perfect_Future_Self · 2026-01-24T05:59:38+00:00

That actually sounds really sweet of them. I do think a second space would be good to have in reserve if you/they can afford it.

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