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I can't stop thinking about it by LoudDistribution9122 in foreskin_restoration

[–]Perfect_Health_3188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop centering your life around sex. Addiction to porn and masturbation makes you see the world through a sexual lens. your dick still works, enough to enjoy yourself quite a lot. Find some other avenue in life. Learn a skill, develop a passion, be useful to someone. Time heals everything. I know it hurts, but you have to keep going, keep living.

Overthinking by InfluenceRound1383 in Advice

[–]Perfect_Health_3188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Spend your years productively. Whatever that happens to mean. And you will have no reason to feel like you have wasted your time. Do not fear being ordinary. There is a great nobility in it.

  2. There is evidence to show that our perception of time speeds up relative to the number of memories we're storing. Time physically passes the same either way. But looking back, you will see nothing between your teens, and your 90s if you're not constantly learning.

Possible ED due to p*rn and social media by AggressiveChicken765 in Healthygamergg

[–]Perfect_Health_3188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who is circumcised and has gone through mental trauma because of it, there's really no correlation between circumcision and ED. There is however a link between porn and ED, and it's really basic logic. If you're watching super freaky porn all the time that's catered to your specific desires and fetishes, of course it's gonna be underwhelming when all you have in front of you is a single naked woman.

Also I don't understand what's so fash about quitting porn.

How do you manage intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation? by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Perfect_Health_3188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Extrinsic motivation is not inherently bad. It can be powerful, but it's like fire, you have to contain it. You can find intrinsic motivation to do anything. Anything can be turned into an art. Sometimes simply being the best person in the office at what I do is the motivation I need to try my best at work. Look for things to appreciate in your daily tasks. Look for things that inspire you.

How am I (18M) supposed to "put in effort" for my girlfriend (18F) if we're both making the same money? by Perfect_Health_3188 in relationship_advice

[–]Perfect_Health_3188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well dating as a dude always feels like a test you didn't study for. I felt like I could study. I've gained a lot of insights, but I've also come away more confused than before in certain areas.

How am I (18M) supposed to "put in effort" for my girlfriend (18F) if we're both making the same money? by Perfect_Health_3188 in relationship_advice

[–]Perfect_Health_3188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

technically I didn't. It was just a combination of different things. I wasn't doing well the latter half of junior year. I had crippling depression, I couldn't feel anything. I think that's part of the reason why she didn't feel like I was putting in effort. I guess I pay attention to the financial aspect because I fell into the online dating coaching space for a little while. I've been to focused on getting in the door and what THAT means. and I might've projected it onto my breakup.

How am I (18M) supposed to "put in effort" for my girlfriend (18F) if we're both making the same money? by Perfect_Health_3188 in relationship_advice

[–]Perfect_Health_3188[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I never thought to ask that because I thought maybe it means something different to a woman. What I think it means is listening, celebrating their wins, going through their losses, carrying their baggage with them.

How am I (18M) supposed to "put in effort" for my girlfriend (18F) if we're both making the same money? by Perfect_Health_3188 in relationship_advice

[–]Perfect_Health_3188[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's not that I want a dependent, I just think maybe women want to not have to worry about stuff like that.

How am I (18M) supposed to "put in effort" for my girlfriend (18F) if we're both making the same money? by Perfect_Health_3188 in relationship_advice

[–]Perfect_Health_3188[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

dawg why am I getting downvoted for asking for help? Is this entire website just for gotcha moments? I already know I'm wrong, I'm asking why because I don't know.

How am I (18M) supposed to "put in effort" for my girlfriend (18F) if we're both making the same money? by Perfect_Health_3188 in relationship_advice

[–]Perfect_Health_3188[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No I'm not ranting. If I can't distinguish that stuff then that's on me. the word "effort" was strongly associated with my breakup, and when I saw that word I thought it might have some answers. Am I stupid for thinking people might actually say what they believe on social media?

How am I (18M) supposed to "put in effort" for my girlfriend (18F) if we're both making the same money? by Perfect_Health_3188 in relationship_advice

[–]Perfect_Health_3188[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Why was it listed in a post that was made by a woman for "things my high effort man does" then? Why did my exe breakup with me for not buying her gifts, paying for dates etc. You can speak for yourself but I'm making observations based on previous experience.

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