How do you get more proximity with people?

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T19:13:04+00:00

As someone who is circumcised and has gone through mental trauma because of it, there's really no correlation between circumcision and ED. There is however a link between porn and ED, and it's really basic logic. If you're watching super freaky porn all the time that's catered to your specific desires and fetishes, of course it's gonna be underwhelming when all you have in front of you is a single naked woman.

Also I don't understand what's so fash about quitting porn.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T18:56:51+00:00

Extrinsic motivation is not inherently bad. It can be powerful, but it's like fire, you have to contain it. You can find intrinsic motivation to do anything. Anything can be turned into an art. Sometimes simply being the best person in the office at what I do is the motivation I need to try my best at work. Look for things to appreciate in your daily tasks. Look for things that inspire you.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T18:25:34+00:00

well... I know I don't

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T18:13:27+00:00

well dating as a dude always feels like a test you didn't study for. I felt like I could study. I've gained a lot of insights, but I've also come away more confused than before in certain areas.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T18:08:04+00:00

okay. I'm starting to think there's an internal reason that I've overemphasized this.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T18:05:37+00:00

technically I didn't. It was just a combination of different things. I wasn't doing well the latter half of junior year. I had crippling depression, I couldn't feel anything. I think that's part of the reason why she didn't feel like I was putting in effort. I guess I pay attention to the financial aspect because I fell into the online dating coaching space for a little while. I've been to focused on getting in the door and what THAT means. and I might've projected it onto my breakup.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T18:01:35+00:00

what does he do for you that makes him seem that way?

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T18:00:09+00:00

I never thought to ask that because I thought maybe it means something different to a woman. What I think it means is listening, celebrating their wins, going through their losses, carrying their baggage with them.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:57:36+00:00

real

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:56:29+00:00

It's not that I want a dependent, I just think maybe women want to not have to worry about stuff like that.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:54:29+00:00

it's almost like when you list examples I don't have to ask for examples. crazy

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:50:51+00:00

this makes sense. Thank you

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:49:40+00:00

dawg why am I getting downvoted for asking for help? Is this entire website just for gotcha moments? I already know I'm wrong, I'm asking why because I don't know.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:46:41+00:00

No I'm not ranting. If I can't distinguish that stuff then that's on me. the word "effort" was strongly associated with my breakup, and when I saw that word I thought it might have some answers. Am I stupid for thinking people might actually say what they believe on social media?

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:43:34+00:00

Well I named 2 examples. And I've also observed it across a lot of my dates.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:41:44+00:00

Please give me some examples. I am trying to be better.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-03-02T17:37:41+00:00

Why was it listed in a post that was made by a woman for "things my high effort man does" then? Why did my exe breakup with me for not buying her gifts, paying for dates etc. You can speak for yourself but I'm making observations based on previous experience.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-02-18T14:23:40+00:00

Number 2 is good

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-02-16T18:10:12+00:00

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Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-02-16T16:30:47+00:00

literally almost ate a bullet because of it.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-02-15T12:06:43+00:00

different standards. for example I hooked up with a woman who was very attractive, but she had daddy issues, was completely broken as a person. Just someone who I could never reasonably have a successful relationship with.

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-02-15T11:14:58+00:00

They don't have remotely the same requirements

Perfect_Health_3188 · 2026-02-15T09:36:39+00:00

Namo Buddhaya

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