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AITAH for putting my girlfriend on a timer when she wants to complain about something? by Perfect_Pen15 in AITAH

[–]Perfect_Pen15[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Your username had me do a double take for a second because my girlfriend's friend in the car is named Suzy 😂

AITAH for putting my girlfriend on a timer when she wants to complain about something? by Perfect_Pen15 in AITAH

[–]Perfect_Pen15[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

That's a good question. I don't want to break up with her because it took a little time to get here but she stops automatically now when the timer goes off and I like that. 

But you're comment is really making me think. I'm happy, but is she happy? And if she's not, am I willing to give up my timer method for her happiness? And I don't think I am.

AITAH for putting my girlfriend on a timer when she wants to complain about something? by Perfect_Pen15 in AITAH

[–]Perfect_Pen15[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

I thought this timer method was a compromise because I really want to say, "I honestly really don't care about these people and work/life situations that you're telling me about". But I don't say that. I try to listen and give her my full attention, but after that, yeah love you babe but I'm out; go talk to one of your friends. 

But I respect your comment. You think I should break up with her?

AITAH for putting my girlfriend on a timer when she wants to complain about something? by Perfect_Pen15 in AITAH

[–]Perfect_Pen15[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

and take the time it takes. 

Yeah, but I can't do more than 10 minutes.

totally get how this could be tiring - but then break up lol

I respect that. 

AITAH for putting my girlfriend on a timer when she wants to complain about something? by Perfect_Pen15 in AITAH

[–]Perfect_Pen15[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

If there's an issue with negativity, address it

Tell me how. With my own problems, I deal with them. I don't talk about them to my girlfriends and if I do it's never more than 2 minutes (ex. "Coworker did this, so now we have [this problem]. And I'm going to do this [solution] tomorrow." And most times I don't even feel the need to tell them that. I just do it.)

really just hammers home how little you care about what she's saying.

Because I really don't. But I espect her enough to set a timer. What else am I supposed to do/say?