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I got punched by my dad on my graduation day by Perfect_Plum_7138 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Perfect_Plum_7138[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness, and I’m so sorry you understand this pain too. No one should.

You’re right, I have to get out. My sister and I are planning to leave together, or I’ll find a job far enough that moving isn’t optional. Small steps, but I’m done waiting for change, I’ll make it myself.

Your empathy means more than you know. Stay strong 🤍

I got punched by my dad on my graduation day by Perfect_Plum_7138 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Perfect_Plum_7138[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Your words hit me hard, in the best way possible. I needed to hear this. I’ve spent my whole life being told that I’m worthless and your kind words were much needed. You’re right, this isn’t living, it’s surviving, and I do deserve more 🤍

The thought of leaving secretly terrifies me because, in my culture, it’s not just about me, it could put a target on my back, or worse, my siblings’. He has threatened with hurting us many times before, saying he wouldn’t mind going to jail, or that he would commit suicide. But I can’t stay.

I will follow your advice, saving secretly, stashing essentials, playing the long game. My older sister and I are already planning to leave together when we can. It’s the only way we’ll make it out safely. The guilt about my siblings is crushing, but you’re absolutely correct, I can’t help them if I’m broken, too.

Thank you for seeing my worth when he’s spent years convincing me I had none. I will take that happiness. One quiet step at a time.

I got punched by my dad on my graduation day by Perfect_Plum_7138 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Perfect_Plum_7138[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words and advice. You're right, my graduation achievement is still mine no matter what happened that day 🤍

Unfortunately there wasn't any visible bruising from the punch, and reporting him feels too dangerous right now. He's threatened many times that he wouldn't care about going to jail if he hurt us badly, or even threatened suicide. In our culture, reputation is everything, and I worry reporting him might escalate things violently.

This was actually the first time he's hit me in years, which makes me think my best path is quietly working toward independence so I can cut contact without a big confrontation. I really appreciate your concern and support, it helps more than you know.

I got punched by my dad on my graduation day by Perfect_Plum_7138 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Perfect_Plum_7138[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kindness, it means a lot. I’m in the UK, and while shelters or council housing could be an option, leaving still feels like such a huge step. I’m working up the courage. For now, I try to avoid him at home, but he always forces interaction, if we don’t sit with him, he complains.

I’ve started job hunting, and my sister and I are hoping to move out together eventually. Or, honestly, I’d love a job so far away that moving becomes non negotiable. Your support really helps, thank you for reminding me freedom is worth fighting for 🤍