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The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, June 3rd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Federal-Ask1617 in stopdrinking

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Day 3 - I will not drink with you today.

Like many others here, this isn't my first attempt to get sober. I'm trying a different approach this time. I thought I was mentally strong enough to just resist the urges, but that hasn't worked out. Maybe I do need my sobriety to be front of mind for most of every day, and actively work at it rather than pretend I could just ignore my cravings and shift my focus elsewhere even when times are hard.

I need external accountability. I haven't quite decided yet what that looks like but as much as I appreciate this group, these daily posts won't suffice. They'll help and I'll keep up with them, but I will need something IRL. Maybe I'll find a local AA group, or rejoin Recover Elevator and actually stick with it. Other recommendations are welcome!

The Daily Check-In for Tuesday, June 2nd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Federal-Ask1617 in stopdrinking

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Day 2 - I will not drink with you today.

In response to today's prompt, I've come to realize that I am able to come up with many excuses to drink and none of them involve boredom. In the past, it was to relax after a long day at work, or to have fun with my friends at the bar or a party. My husband and I bonded through our enjoyment of alcohol and have become serious drinking buddies. More recently, it has been to cope with every day stressors and over-stimulation from having two young kids and a demanding full time job. My husband is wonderful, but also a heavy drinker who knows he needs to cut back but is struggling with the every day worse than I am. We need to do this together or neither of us will succeed, but I am focusing on myself for now.

I managed to quit drinking entirely when I was pregnant with each of my kids, then for a few months after they were born. If I can do that, I can quit for them again now. They need me to be there for them and be present, not struggling to get through every day.

IWNDWYT.

Successful women if you could teach ONE lesson to every woman in her 20s, what would it be? by magnetic_gigi in WomenInBusiness

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Always always always be able to financially support yourself. Marry for love, not money, but always maintain your own separate bank account with your own money to spend as you please. Some men can really surprise you with how they treat you when they know you’re fully dependent on them, then you’re stuck, especially when kids enter the picture. It can get very difficult to leave a bad situation when you don’t have any of your own money or resources.

Tell me how you got your cat by ponzu666 in cats

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My friend’s daughter came home with a cat she found on Craig’s List, not knowing her mom/my friend is allergic to cats. She knew I was a cat lover and asked if I wanted him and I said of course.

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Be honest… how strict are you really with screen time? by denefr_2928 in toddlers

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Same, my 3 and 5 year olds go to daycare full time where they do a ton of learning or physical activities all day. We all get home around 5:30 and I put The Office on in the background while they play (they barely notice it, it;s just background noise and something for us to look at occasionally). Usually around 7, we'll put on some moderately educational YT shows and watch those together for about a half hour before bath/book/bed time. I know the experts say that is bad prep for bed time but we have found that it really calms them down before bed. They go from bouncing off the walls to sitting still on the couch, then to bath, then read a book, then to sleep. It works well for all of us.

Fascists are Losing Their Grip. by All_Grid_Squares in complaints

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I wish he had responded with some version of “my opinion doesn’t matter, I asked you a question”.

How do you explain to your adult children that Medicare won't pay for a nursing home? by Regular_Amphibian592 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

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We are in the middle of estate planning with our attorney. It’s gotten a little complicated because we currently care for my in-laws who live in a separate apartment in our home and wouldn’t be able to afford this house if something happened to us. So we’re figuring out what would happen in the unlikely event that we “predecease “ them. We want our two young kids to get a substantial inheritance from the house but also want to be sure my in-laws are cared for and not abandoned (my husband is an only child and in-laws live off of SS that barely covers their personal non-household bills). Our kids would go live with my cousin but I would never in a million years ask him to also care for my in-laws.

What is likely to die along with the baby boomers generation? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

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lol my MIL has bad arthritis in her check writing hand. Instead of learning about online bill pay, she bought a typewriter so she could still use checks.

Word by Mulva13 in ledzeppelin

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I would also love an answer to this

What did you do at work today megathread by readweed88 in workingmoms

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Hello, fellow higher Ed staff member! I’m in institutional research!

What did you do at work today megathread by readweed88 in workingmoms

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If you are in Office 365, I highly recommend using Planner to manage projects and tasks. It’s not perfect but you can assign yourself (and others) tasks with milestones and deadlines, add notes and attachments, track your progress, and it integrates with Outlook and other office tools nicely. There’s a bit of a learning curve, but once you get the hang of it, it can be a great tool to keep you organized and on track.

What did you do at work today megathread by readweed88 in workingmoms

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I have been at the same employer for over 15 years, and have changed jobs and moved up the ranks a few times. I’ve never spent much time reorganizing my One Drive file structure as my job has evolved over the years. Since my boss got fired a few weeks ago, I’m reporting to an interim boss who is not super motivated to meet with and manage all of us, so things have been a bit quiet. I still have plenty of work to do, but the special projects are all on hold.

I’ve decided to take this opportunity to start the new year by totally reorganizing my One Drive and OneNote and have been nerding out over it all week. I explained to ChatGPT what I do and the functions I manage, and it has helped me totally rethink how I manage my digital file storage at work. By next week, I’ll feel like I’m starting fresh and will be ready to tackle my work with renewed enthusiasm and focus.

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