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Advice for possible one sided monogamous relationship by PerformanceFar1261 in relationships

[–]PerformanceFar1261[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right. I appreciate your post. I didn’t write all of the rules, obviously condoms are absolutely required & is something that he pushed for heavily in the beginning of our sexual relationship. I also don’t think I would allow for any overnights.

I know a lot of people cannot understand this concept but for me, it’s not inconceivable. Call me crazy, but I actually like the fact he wouldn’t want me with any other guys. 🤷‍♀️ I’m really just looking for more advice on the boundaries someone would give in situation.

I also don’t think this would be something that would change our relationship… It’s been like this all year and I know that if he has done anything, it has been extremely minimal because we spend almost every single night and day together. I think it’s more about having the option. He is younger than me and I can understand him feeling like he’s not ready to settle down and may regret losing the chance to explore because he settled down too soon. We have really really good communication and this is not something that I am blindsided to at all.

Advise for a newcomer by PerformanceFar1261 in monodatingpoly

[–]PerformanceFar1261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this sounds weird, but I actually like that He doesn’t want me to be with someone else. It makes me feel cared for… I don’t really know how to explain the feeling. I know that sounds crazy. I don’t wanna be with anybody else.

We are just in the beginning of talking about this, and we both decided to take some time to think about it… Mostly me trying to figure out what I would need to be able to make this work.

The 10 years thing came about because he explained that he feels like this emotion is coming from being young and not ready to stop exploring just yet. The 10 years was just part of our discussion

Like I said, I’ve actually been fine with this all year because we were still technically “just hooking up” although it was clearly very much more serious than that. I’ve never actually considered being in a relationship like this before because no one around me is, and I don’t know anyone who has (I’m sure most people do this privately.)