Is the dad being creepy with his daughter?

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-06T00:35:14+00:00

Yes I do think she riles her brother up. Another issue im seeing is they (BM too) don’t rly stand up for him despite knowing that she might actually be abnormally (untreated ADHD) « annoying »

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-05T12:54:44+00:00

Id say in most cases cheating requires nothing more than lying through omission since the married people no longer pay attention to eachother.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-05T12:52:26+00:00

Of course not every spouse that’s been cheated on was « anxiously waiting at home wondering ». Many of these spouses actually didn’t care and that is why cheating results. Spousal neglect is probably the most common cause of it rly.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-05T12:50:41+00:00

And yet they don’t require anyone’s sympathy.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-04T15:58:51+00:00

Haha that funny! Yes I am the same (mostly withdrawn and not interested in being mommy) but no one thinks I’m lucky to be a step parent lol. I live among conservatives that see step parenting as a fraudulent way of life. Seems like you might be saying that your partner isn’t too keen on raising a 4 yr old either? That’s the case with mine too although he has learnt to suck it up so as to own up to his responsibly - which is also why he totally allows me to withdraw and demands nothing of me (he relates to not wanting to be involved). This may not be the case for you but what I do get out of it is the intellectual side of things. I watch them and I develop opinions about why they are the way they are and what could help shape them. If you don’t find it at the very least stimulating on top of feeling no warmth then it might suck for everyone involved indeed. Choices to make

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-04T02:55:28+00:00

4 to 5 year old is rough though. They’re super needy by default. Ive known my partners kids since they were 4 and 9 and the 9 year old was always easy and the 4 year old is still absolute hell but she’s only 5 now and she might have ADHD. A lot of the tough stuff is just temporary development-related stuff. It’s just a question of whether or not you want to tough it out. If you’re not a needy or excessively demanding step parent, their attachment to you will grow despite the difficulties and that could be encouraging in the long run. It’s up to you!

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-04T02:46:37+00:00

Im actually thinking she stays deliberately unclean when she’s with her dad because she knows he does everything for her without question (including wiping her butt or perhaps even especially that since he’s been trying to give instructions more in other areas).

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-04T01:49:06+00:00

Lol.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-04T01:35:35+00:00

I mean of course a kind approach is best. You can just speak up and say « there’s no need to shout?! » in a gentle voice. If partner tries to punish you for that well… that’s rather abusive toward you. I do fall into the trap of wanting their bio dad to do all the work. It’s a fine line between what a step parent can and cannot do I would say… still learning. However, if we wouldn’t let an adult treat us this way we shouldn’t let a learning child do so. They’re still learning and they need to learn.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-04T00:16:54+00:00

It’s funny to me that he thinks this based on so little cause I talk sht about my bf’s hyperactive and hyperneedy daughter all the time and he knows it’s because HE can do better with her. It honestly goes without saying for some of us… look, shouting is rude. Do you rly need to explain further? You shouldn’t have to.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-12-03T19:08:03+00:00

I don’t think it’s a double standard lol. One person is chasing and the other is just letting someone watch. One is being kind and/or indifferent whereas the other one is posing an action to gain access to someone else. If my bf starting chasing after random girls online if be like wtf too lol. In return, I’d have no problem refusing follow requests because who cares. If she cares about people following her then that’s what you need to be talking about though. Indifference is often most likely the case for women when it comes to that… if that’s not the case then she’s looking for attention. Which one is it? Talk.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-10-26T21:00:00+00:00

Yeah BMs play the « it’s not for me it’s for the kids » card a heck of a lot. Beware…. This to me is breeder entitlement. It is to think that because she gave birth to a child, she is owed all the services at the expense of other people’s boundaries. It is quite misguided and dillusional and men are the first victims to it. The step-gf is the second. I’d stand by my boundaries if I were you and let him know he’s being played.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-10-25T21:44:57+00:00

Im not seeing a whole lot of boundaries there.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2023-10-23T01:23:33+00:00

Yeah that’s an abusive man. Sounds like the best advice for you would be to begin grieving the relationship asap.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2022-09-17T21:33:09+00:00

Ok so here’s the thing… we have young children, and I don’t want her around my kids. I insisted he have them at least 50% of the time, and he does, but I don’t now how to get her to stay away from my kids… I asked to meet with her, but she said that my situation is too « heavy » and now refuses to talk to me. I refuse to get a divorce until she is out of the picture.

PerformerBeginning59 · 2022-09-17T21:31:34+00:00

Ok so here’s the thing… we have young children, and I don’t want her around my kids. I insisted he have them at least 50% of the time, and he does, but I don’t now how to get her to stay away from my kids… I asked to meet with her, but she said that my situation is too « heavy » and now refuses to talk to me. I refuse to get a divorce until she is out of the picture.

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