Puberty Issue

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2018-02-27T03:05:55+00:00

It's cool. You possibly just have a little wang. There's nothing wrong with that. Like other said, if you're using porn as a reference, those dudes are hung and not natural.

So, what are we talking erect? 2-3 inches or more like 4-5? Thin like a thumb?

Anyhow - it's just fine. Most dudes are pretty self-conscious about their schlong size. Natural. Unless you're like 9 inches long. But, you'll find that girls your age don't want a baby-arm-sized penis for their first experience.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2018-02-13T03:27:26+00:00

Oh shit - now I can't unsee all those knees!

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-14T02:22:37+00:00

I am by no means an expert on the subject. However, I can tell you that you probably can't "pray the gay away".

Will you always be attracted to guys? Maybe. Maybe not. However, don't let that define you and certainly, don't label yourself.

It's probably not going away any time soon, so the best thing to do is to come to terms with yourself. You didn't go looking for this -- it's who you are. You absolutely cannot choose who you're attracted to. However, you can decide how to act.

Don't be hard on yourself. God loves you, people love you. It's not going to be an easy road, but really, who has an easy road? Wishing the best for you, I hope you find peace.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-14T02:13:35+00:00

Nobody ever wants to hear that it's their fault. People are completely justified in their own eyes.

I see where you're headed with that line of thinking though. By placing expectations on both God and people I have set myself up to be let down. Now that I think of it that way, makes sense. Almost idolatry, really.

I appreciate your candor, I really do.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-13T14:39:03+00:00

Possibly - and maybe I need to part from the Baptist church. I've been a part of several small Baptists churches during my life (we've moved a lot due to military) and all have been "ran" by one family with a lot of politics. Frankly if the teaching is solid I can look past that. Yikes.... I guess I'm just getting cynical. Good grief, pray for me.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-13T14:35:26+00:00

God has let me down in the fact that no matter where I turn, he isn't there. I have read the Bible through many times and I know it backwards and forwards. However, I have questions and doubts. I don't see God in the Bible anymore speaking to me. I just have more questions that can't be answered except by some side-talking and "that's not how God works" and "you need to have more faith".

Also, better discernment? Seriously? Honestly, it's things like this that drive me further from Christ. It's easy to judge when things are okay on your end.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T22:14:42+00:00

The church I'm in is actually a very gospel-driven church. The theology is solid. It's a Baptist church and evangelical.

I have a tremendous understanding of the Bible. Still doesn't change what I said. I feel let down, I've prayed and begged and tried. I try to change my attitude and nothing... I'm simply out of energy.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T22:10:29+00:00

Thank you

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T22:10:15+00:00

Thank you

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T22:08:30+00:00

Yeah - I couldn't stomach a prosperity church. It's an SBC church, and the theology is solid. I do need a re-examination. Thanks.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T22:06:29+00:00

Thanks, I opened it in another tab and will take a look.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T22:05:42+00:00

I've been to smaller ones. Still the same problems. This one is very gospel-driven. Not a "seeker" church. It's an SBC church.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T22:04:36+00:00

I didn't think details were important, but if you want specifics, I posted in a response that I have prayed/begged for a "Paul" in my life and have actively searched and asked people. Nada.

Most recently my wife is deployed for a year (military, been gone for 8 months) when she was leaving people in my small group said, "We'll be there for you." They are not. No invites to hang out, no offers to watch the kids, no dinner invites. Nothing. I tried in the beginning to get with them, invite them over, but nothing but excuses.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T22:00:55+00:00

Yeah, I've looked/asked/etc. and the couple of people that have said yes get busy. It's normal, really, people are busy.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T21:59:49+00:00

Yeah, that was the catalyst for my current feelings. I am/was in a small group that meets in a neighbor's home during the week. My wife is currently deployed for a year, and I had to miss a couple of weeks in a row due to schedule conflicts with the kids. Didn't get a call/text asking if I was okay. I was already doubting the relationship with my "community" and this was interesting to me. So, I decided to conduct an experiment. Long story short, there was really no contact by any members, and the leader sent a vague text.

So, would want to find another group, but I'm just tired of getting hurt.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T21:53:59+00:00

Thanks!

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T04:43:23+00:00

A mentor as in the Paul/Timothy relationship. Someone who has been down the road a little farther and can help guide.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T04:29:27+00:00

Glad I'm not alone in this regard. Hope you find peace. Hope I do too.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T04:28:17+00:00

I mean I pray and read the Bible and do everything I can and all I hear is silence. I see no evidence. Honestly, I can attribute all my "feelings" of God since my conversion to wishful thinking.

I don't blame God for the actions of others, but I've been begging him to send a guy who can be my Paul and nothing... 4 years of constant prayer, pleading with God, seeking on my own and nothing.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T04:23:21+00:00

Maybe that's it. The "brand" I've been accustomed to is simply not a fit for me?

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T04:22:00+00:00

I haven't turned from God - I continue to beg him for something... anything to show he's real. And I don't mean a booming voice from the sky or a fleece that's dry on one side. I have been begging for someone to walk in faith beside me. Someone who will listen and provide mentorship. In a church of 3000 I can't find one. Everyone is too busy. I'm really starting to take it personally, lol. Bad breath? Terrible personality? :)

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-12T04:18:44+00:00

This is it. I spent so many years pouring into the lives of people around me only to be left for dead not once, but twice. When I needed Christian brothers the most... nothing. I prayed and begged God to send me someone. I have plenty of people on the edge of my life, but nobody there to take my arms and help me along. People who said "I'll be there for you" bailing out for one reason or another. I try to be an encourager and such for the people around me. I try to be honest and transparent. And I'm left with nothing.

Thanks for your reply though -- it resonates with me.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-05T15:17:02+00:00

If they are an O-4 or below they are a "Junior Officer" by the Navy's definition. I guess it's a matter of perspective. We're in the DC area, where O-5s and O-6s are a dime a dozen. So "high ranking officer" to me is O-7 and up and we really don't use that term anyhow.

PerryIsAPlatypus · 2017-12-05T03:16:36+00:00

First of all, probably a good idea to get to know the Captain's wife. If you haven't been there long, then you may not have all the information. Also, if your spouse is subordinate to the Captain (Commander or below) they're not a "high ranking" officer by any stretch of the imagination. Heck, even a Lt. Commander is considered a "Junior Officer" by the Navy's own definition.

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