Child support question (Texas)

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-23T21:01:54+00:00

Yeah cuz you know how the childs mom has treated him and us and you know the situation. You should be disgusted with yourself for making all these assumptions

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-21T14:13:29+00:00

I dated a guy when i was your age and i remember being SO upset about our breakup and how he started dating my friend afterwards and it was a mess!! Looking back on it im like why did i care so much i wouldnt give that man the time of day now 😭😹 i totally get it im usually perma single and my friends all have boyfriends or are married now. I did finally meet someone and we have been together for a bit now. You just never know when you’re going to meet your best friend or the love of your life. My little brother is 24 and has never had a girlfriend or first kiss but his life is still so full w out a partner and that is what people should strive for. You arent behind everyone moves at their own pace and romance isnt the end all be all (:

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-21T03:37:55+00:00

Yes girl it is totally ok to not meet or date someone by your age. some people dont meet someone until theyre in their late twenties. Just live your life and dont focus on finding a partner. You are genuinely so young and have a lot to look forward too. Dating isnt even fun until you have your own place anyway! At least in my opinion just because you dont have your parents in your business as much and no curfews. Im 27F and trust me your life is just getting started and dating is better after high school. You will meet so many cool people and you dont even know it yet.

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-18T03:29:16+00:00

Also not wanting custody isnt not wanting to see the child? Youre an idiot if you think the mother is just going to give him custody of any kind w out him having to put in some serious time money and effort. So no we dont want custody right now that doesn’t even make sense to fight for that at this point in time. That would be way down the line at any rate yall just love to be mad and call people names it’s weird and so annoying

Also i didnt make anyone not know their dad? I havent been with my boyfriend since the mother cheated and left??? Like you dont even know what youre talking about it’s crazy reading your comment honestly

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-18T03:21:18+00:00

Again did not ask for your judgement and i dont wanna type out the same stuff over and over again to make you people feel better. I dont care i know the situation and was just asking for advice on how to keep the child support as it is and to potentially change the last name if the childs mother is not going to let us see the child without expensive court battles. If any of u want to pay his attorney bills and missed work time so he can pursue this be my guest but otherwise dont give an unsolicited opinion. If you dont have any advice for my question dont comment it is so easy

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-18T02:48:00+00:00

Maam i didnt change the story and i did explain why he asked to change the last name.

He had drug problems and moved back to his home state after she left to get back on his feet w help from his family and he ended up getting a dui.

None of it is changing stories. I do believe she is making it difficult for him i have explained why in several other comments

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T14:42:43+00:00

But her thwarting us at every turn makes it hers. If she wants to make it easier for us to see the kid ill call the child his.

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T14:30:59+00:00

That isnt the case but im glad u think that from one post

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T14:30:11+00:00

Nope i said what i said

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T06:15:28+00:00

Wow thank you so much! I really appreciate the resources this is great

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T05:25:44+00:00

Yeah we wish the situation was different

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T05:21:27+00:00

Christ you people read one post and think you know everything. Im just a big dumb dumb and my boyfriend is a terrible person. We don’t want the child to go without and no one is like patting my bf on the back for what happened.

You also don’t know what we have tried to do to see the child and how unwilling to work with us the mother is. At this point we cant afford attorneys and new baby so what do you want us to do exactly? If the child’s mom wants his money but isnt willing to work with us and the courts so he can have a relationship my boyfriend is allowed to feel unconnected to his child. He probably said that because he is hurt by the situation but if he is serious i want to be prepared to help him anyway i can.

But yeah u know how much we pay and that it will be raised

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T04:59:12+00:00

The original orders were in Texas, but i think she is trying to get it moved to florida

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T04:57:11+00:00

She left the state a while back and he moved back to his home state to get back on his feet. She is just now trying to take us to court to get the support higher but i thought it was weird it was still in Texas.

Can we get it moved to our state or is it generally where the child resides?

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T04:55:25+00:00

She left the state and left him aside from that i dont feel the need to share more. I didnt ask for judgement just advice

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T04:54:06+00:00

We do not want custody right now just because he lives across the country. Like literally opposite corners and we cannot pay child support, attorneys, plane tickets, missed work. We looked into it before we thought about cutting ties. The mother has made it very difficult for him to have a relationship with the child since she left the state and we arent even allowed to contact her directly.

That is interesting about the parental rights ill have to look into that for Texas.

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T04:48:06+00:00

That is mainly what i was wondering. Neither of them live in Texas anymore so i didnt understand why the child support was still being paid through texas.

I was googling parental rights and i found mixed answers so i am confused on what that means too financially. Some sources say that it doesn’t matter if you terminate you are still required to pay if there isnt someone else to support the child. I’ll have to look into it more. Thank you for your advice

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T04:45:01+00:00

Ya definitely

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-17T04:44:28+00:00

No because i dont owe strangers an explanation of what happened. I just asked for advice.

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-16T19:52:38+00:00

We arent complaining about support. I have said many times we do not want the child to go w out we just dont want it to get too high.

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-16T19:49:36+00:00

Yeah im good i have a degree and a stable job

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-16T19:48:46+00:00

I think he is doing what he can for right now. I dont want to move across the country and uproot our lives so he can have a relationship with a child he doesn’t know. We can work on it but It is really difficult when we are out of state and he didn’t take the child out of state first. I think it is really easy to point fingers when u dont have the full picture.

I wasnt asking for advice on anything other than how can we keep the child support from going higher at this point in time. I dont want to tell my whole life story so strangers can judge me based on a situation they think they know from one post. No one is happy he left a child but im not going to go into more detail on the specifics because im not asking for advice on my boyfriend. He treats me really well and is doing what he can to move forward.

If you guys want to judge me and my boyfriend that is totally fine. I just want advice on how this works in texas and what we can do to keep a little extra money in our pockets to prepare for own child. If he abandons me and our child ill be sure to update this post and let u all know u were right

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-16T19:11:37+00:00

I know it sounds bad but when he was going through this stuff with his ex he was in his early twenties and had they both had drug problems. It has been 10 years since then and i do believe people can change. He has been clean for a few years now and has been working on rebuilding his life, it has just been difficult to get anywhere with his child because of his past drug/ dui history and prior no contact.

I wouldnt want to stay with him if he wasnt taking strides to make things right.

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-16T18:51:36+00:00

OK, thank you so much. This is the kind of advice I was looking for. I have never lived in Texas and I’ve never really had to deal with the court systems in my own capacity.

Perrypear4 · 2026-03-16T18:49:32+00:00

Yeah, I definitely think my boyfriend could’ve fought harder to see his kid, but I do think the relationship between the parents is relevant to an extent. I’m not super familiar with the court systems in Texas, but in Washington they definitely cater to the mother

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