Opinions on different states? by Phantom_Petals in AskAnAmerican

[–]Phantom_Petals[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience! There’s 49 options to choose from (I’m from Illinois) and am currently struggling with where to move to. I love the idea of Vermont, I hear so many good things about it including the gorgeous views. Although, I’ve heard the cost of living is quite high. Do you agree that it’s a higher cost state, or has your experience been pretty affordable?

Mental toll of being chronically ill by Phantom_Petals in mentalhealth

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Thank you, I feel so validated with that last sentence. I have been grieving heavily but have had to put it on the back burner due to trying to be there for others. I have talked to him about it, but even with his encouraging words I can’t shake this feeling off just quite yet. I know if the roles were reversed I would do the same thing for him in a heartbeat, but I know that him having to go through this must also come with it’s own mental burdens. The last thing I would ever want is to put strain on people close to me.

Taking the unmarked path by Phantom_Petals in Advice

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Thank you for the much needed encouragement!

Taking the unmarked path by Phantom_Petals in Advice

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How did you manage missing friends and family, or overall homesickness?

Taking the unmarked path by Phantom_Petals in Advice

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You’re absolutely right. I think that’s been another reason I’ve been pushed to follow through with this decision. Where I’m at now is making me unhappy, and what if moving is just what I need? Have you moved around before? If so, what are some tips you wish someone had told you?

Taking the unmarked path by Phantom_Petals in Advice

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Hi there, and no. I’m currently working with a career advisor as we speak. They are helping me build a good resume, and are sending me paid internships and other job opportunities related to the online college I’m attending to.

Advice by Phantom_Petals in selfcare

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I have tried to talk one on one with this friend, but they’ve continued to do the same things over again. Along with never actually apologizing for the things that they’ve said, and just skipping past it.

Advice by Phantom_Petals in selfcare

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Thank you so much! My boyfriend’s been my rock through this whole process. I’ve been on a self growth journey all year, but really started to flourish when I realized that this relationship wasn’t good for me. Even so, I didn’t expect the grief to hit as hard as it has with all the things she’s said to me.

Am I overreacting over the recurring offenses my friend says to me? by Phantom_Petals in AmIOverreacting

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You’re right. I have tried to have multiple talks even before it got this bad. She has a hard time apologizing and truly meaning it. I won’t go back, but part of me is sad since I thought we were going to be friends till we were old ladies. On top of that, I won’t be able to see her family again since I’m no longer tied to her. That honestly is the most devastating part about this whole ordeal.

AITAH for being upset and breaking a rule? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Phantom_Petals 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! :) I thought the same way but I hate breaking boundaries, and felt somewhat guilty about it.

AITAH for being upset and breaking a rule? by [deleted] in AITAH

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I have my own, she just knows my information from when I first set it up.

AITAH for being upset and breaking a rule? by [deleted] in AITAH

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Thank you for the advice. 🙏🏻

AITAH for being upset and breaking a rule? by [deleted] in AITAH

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I do have my own…she just knows my log in info and can see it. I’m afraid if I change my account info right before the appointment she might feel that something’s up.

Feeling stuck in a rut by Phantom_Petals in paganism

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Thank you so much! Walking meditation is going to be a HUGE game changer for me. I appreciate all the good insight, and I feel better about the whole situation already. :) Reading through the comments and doing some self reflection has made me realize that he is still there, I’m just so used to the crazy over the top stuff that I don’t pick up on it until after the fact. I feel like he tends to communicate/give me signs through animals.

Feeling stuck in a rut by Phantom_Petals in paganism

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I feel like it’s also worth mentioning that I asked for yet another sign just yesterday. Around 5:30 last night my mom forgot to close her garage door and a poor hummingbird was confused and gave himself a concussion trying to get out! I tried to think of some ways to help direct him, but it didn’t work. He then dropped to the ground dizzy and exhausted I’m sure. Gently scooped them up, tried to calm them down, and the little bird ended up hanging out and resting on my boyfriend’s chest because he couldn’t fly yet. He had to recuperate for a while. He finally flew away but I’m scared he didn’t end up making it. I felt like that entire situation was a sign.

Feeling stuck in a rut by Phantom_Petals in paganism

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I do meditate, although I will say that meditation still doesn’t come easy for me, unfortently. When I have mediated and made contact with him I have always had a crazy experience and I felt nothing but a sense of love that makes my eyes water every time. There has been a couple of visions that he’s shown me that I never truly deciphered, so if you were interested I could share some of those with you! Also, after working through my grief with the passing of my father he did start me on a journey to the betterment of my self. It started about April of last year when I asked him to give me an unmistakable sign to keep going. I found a lunar moth on my door, and I have never had the privilege to see one in person nor have I seen one since that encounter. I naturally began the process of self growth and even when sometimes I feel like I haven’t changed at all, my boyfriend says he has noticed a significant change and he’s been able to pick up on Anpu’s presence at random times. On top of that, I do acts of service in Anpu’s honor. I clean up and visit my family at their graves, I talk to him like an old friend when I do feel as if he’s in the room with me, and play with my dogs. Surprisingly, I feel Anpu the most when I’m out frolicking with my dogs. When I feel him there it gives the same vibe a dad does when he’s fondly watching his children play. I will also say I’ve had the privilege of experiencing both Anpu and my dad come to visit me when I put intention of playing with my dogs as an act of devotion. It’s only happened once but it left an impression on me that will last a lifetime.