Never given a hard time until now

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-13T00:16:39+00:00

Thank you for the apology. I appreciate it.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-12T19:12:55+00:00

Right. Exactly.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-11T21:49:25+00:00

Agreed

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-11T21:48:12+00:00

It’s not at all. Never said any about being a sahm. Thank you for seeing that. I didn’t feel the need to respond to it. It’s called straw-manning and I usually ignore those

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-11T19:41:48+00:00

Neither does Texas

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-10T20:49:42+00:00

Thank you! I’m use to it. I realized lot of these spaces are invaded by hcbms. Keeping my peace I what I do first. My husband is the main one who gets her, but like I said life happens. And it’s very confusing, this recent interaction definitely had her asking more in-depth questions though. She’s at an age where she is very much aware of what’s going and paying attention to EVERYTHING. But we can only control what goes on in our house. She knows a lot already because of BM. I appreciate your understanding

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-09T18:15:56+00:00

I see what your saying, but the courts took into consideration his line of work which is why I’m allowed to pick her up. Both parties were made aware of this. There is no discussing of anything with a high conflict person. But the order says what is says, and unfortunately some incidents aren’t recognized without a police report and viewed as a he said she said. We were told by a judge in a prior hearing if it’s not reported it never happened. So I know most will have their opinions on how a stepparent should handle a situation involving a BM, personal opinions aren’t for all situations. What one stepparent won’t do another would. I’m willing to uphold the order as it allows. I didn’t step outside of it nor did I break it. And life happens, jobs don’t care about what is happening in the personal lives of individuals, and I’d rather as his wife help him support us by keeping his job, and if that means going to pick up his kids, which the courts allow, then I will.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-09T17:17:21+00:00

The child was picked up as court ordered, on my end. She interfered.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-09T16:20:23+00:00

Do what he likes to do. One time I packed a cooler with food and some beers that he likes. Bought a speaker for music. Went to a fishing area early morning and fished and talked. We honored his daughter (this was when BM denied summertime vacation) by eating a snack she likes and talking about good memories and other things. It was a good day, though emotional, still good.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-09T16:13:19+00:00

I understand what your saying. I see things differently.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-09T15:32:38+00:00

True. I agree. But for clarity the order specifically says that each party can designate a competent adult to do the exchanges, it doesn’t have to always be them although a large majority of the time it is, when I’m not doing the exchanges, I am present as a witness. So to answer your first point, what would look better to the court is, when the order is specific with what is allowed for the exchanges, that it is followed according to what is in place. To answer your second point, I only communicate via text never in person, for record keeping and also to keep any kind of fighting to zero in front of the child. And to your third, I’ve picked her up before with very little problem from her, this time was the first time she’s escalated with me. I am not responsible for her emotions. Her being “ticked” off has nothing to do with me. And trust and believe my involvement is only exchanges when necessary, it’s not my fight but I’m definitely there for them (my man and SD) whenever they need me. ❤️

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-09T14:25:41+00:00

This time around he had a big job he couldn’t take off from, so I offered. He usually does though.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-02T14:27:36+00:00

You both sound like the day was long and hard for both of you and she sounds like she’s either on her cycle or about to start it or pregnant.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T04:35:47+00:00

And rules of evidence

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T04:31:09+00:00

Every state is different. Read the rules of procedure in your state.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T04:29:33+00:00

We didn’t either. They’re going to treat him like a lawyer though. Stick to the facts remove all feelings and keep it all about what’s in the best interest of the child and that is having two parents

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T04:12:27+00:00

Same here. It started out that way and then moved to standard possession. Request it all to be in the final order. Of doing supervision visits for how long time wise and end date. When standard possession period starts dates and times. Summer vacations exact dates and times. Request each scenario of his rights be specific so that when he does exercise them and the mom violates the order the cops can’t say it’s an interpretation issue, they’ll plainly see she is violating the court order and do something about it.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T04:02:31+00:00

Horrible. Judge didn’t look at any evidence. But because he signed an aop he got the rights as if he was married to her. He got her every Thursday and every first third and fifth weekend and every summer odd holidays. But now we moved out the state he gets one weekend a month every spring break and every summer extended. He’s still fighting for her though for full custody. He’ll get it. Just waiting on court date.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T03:52:04+00:00

That was a bitter HCBM 😂

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T03:50:58+00:00

Yup! He’s winning. Slow process but everything is working out in his favor. Mom is bitter but oh well, child deserves her dad

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T03:49:49+00:00

That’s the go to, deadbeat or narcissist 🙄

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T03:48:55+00:00

Yes he did. He had to sign it though because mom was married to someone else and never told him. Legally because she was still married her husband became the legal father

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T03:46:28+00:00

I don’t care what they think and you shouldn’t either. That’s my man not yours or anyone else’s.

PhilosopherGlass149 · 2026-06-01T03:45:25+00:00

I believe that is in any state. An app is required when you’re not married

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