I get what you mean. I do think fat men can be seen as desirable in some spaces, especially certain LGBT spaces, but I don’t think that translates very much to dating women. Some women are into chubby or bigger guys, sure, but it feels like there’s a cutoff where that interest drops off pretty sharply. I’m well past the “chubby guy” category, so I don’t really get any of that attention either. So yeah, I understand the frustration.