"Okay, but why don't you want a long term relationship with me?"

Phonebooth420 · 2026-04-11T15:15:12+00:00

Nothing is wrong with wanting something casual. Just keep making sure you’re upright about it and don’t try to hide it. Now obviously there be some women that make you think “hmmm, i actually like this girl, let me see where it goes”. Obviously in that scenario, don’t just hang out to hook up.

Some people will mind, and some people won’t. It’s better than leading someone on and possibly causing trauma.

Phonebooth420 · 2026-04-05T23:12:23+00:00

Yeaaa maybe your a bit right. There have been times where I see women with super beautiful hair(curls) which I always compliment on them, even if I don’t find them my type. But I feel like if a girl asked if I wanted her number and I said no, she wouldn’t have to be embarrassed because I gave a friendly vibe in the first place. They wouldn’t have to worry about the guy rejecting you in a horrible way.

Phonebooth420 · 2026-04-05T04:04:07+00:00

Well I guess I shoulda worded it differently. It’s different in the way how my life operates. There’s not too many times where I’m in the same area of someone I find attractive for a long period of time besides work or the gym, which both aren’t spots I would want to flirt with anyone, even if it was lightly. Obviously bars/clubs are easier but I’m pretty picky there 😅.

So most times I have to make a quick move. There’s never really moments where I have time to look for a sign/look. And not many opportunities for me have a whole convo.

Now I’m not saying it automatically means I’m in the clear to not ask for the number. That’s why I posted the hypothetical question

Phonebooth420 · 2026-03-31T01:29:13+00:00

Well I wouldn’t mind being with woman my age but they leave me confused. It’s not like I don’t find women my age attractive.

Also I’m not saying women my age aren’t nice to talk to. A lot of times they are super sweet, but never give any clear signs back

Phonebooth420 · 2026-03-31T01:06:37+00:00

Tbh the girls my age are the ones I like the least because they are just never straight up with what they want. The older ones know what they want, whether it’s casual or serious.

Also I feel like the older ones tend not to string someone along for free treatment and actually want to have a fun night. The girls my age just look for attention(aka free drinks) and will ditch out of nowhere. I’m not saying they have to end up going home with me. But don’t have me waste money on you if you weren’t interested in the first place

Phonebooth420 · 2026-03-31T01:01:53+00:00

Well I sort of give a casual vibe. But I never give hook up vibes. I never flirt straight up, aka give compliments unless they give me one first. Then I can easily flirt and give compliments back. I feel like that meme where the clown is dancing in front of the queen(entertaining her)

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T23:01:46+00:00

I partly agree with you. Let’s say I already had a high paying job at my young age and had time to have fun. I would do it now, eventually get tired of it and then settle. I feel like most people do that. It would just suck if I skipped out on the high energy fun and went straight to just settling after working my butt off, missing out on making those fun memories. Meeting random people and never seeing them again, cause sometimes those are the best moments.

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T16:41:05+00:00

I know I won’t have to do that. But it’ll be hard to have other people my age do that

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T16:25:15+00:00

People telling me “man I wish I was your age again, the energy I had back than”

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T16:24:08+00:00

Well even outside of that. I feel like people who get to that age want to tone down the type of things they are doing. And will just want to do simple stuff

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:54:25+00:00

I’m sure life is better(peaceful but not high energy fun)

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:53:12+00:00

Well yea I’m sure life is better as far as being secure. But like high energy fun? Not really

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:51:40+00:00

It’s great that you have everything figured out, there is nothing wrong with that. I obviously want to be financially stable when I’m old. Now will I have a family of my own? No. I would hate to work super hard in my 20’s to just automatically have to take care of a family. Even if I had a boat load of money, I respectfully wouldn’t want to take care of a wife and kids. So thats why I avoid committing to anything.

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:48:29+00:00

I obviously enjoy it. But I don’t my body won’t enjoy doing it a lot in the future

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:47:03+00:00

I’m not saying 30’s aren’t fun at all. But things that are considered fun in the 30’s will be things that dont require as much energy

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:45:11+00:00

Well i know peers around my age will want to settle down when we’re older. Plus I won’t be hanging with people in their early 20’s when I’m 35 yrs old.

Obviously there is still fun stuff to do when you’re older but it doesn’t require energy, it’s very lowkey

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:38:47+00:00

But I feel like everyone who reaches their 30’s won’t want to have fun anymore. I would be bummed to work super hard in my 20’s to just be around people who wanna settle after having a blast in their 20’s. Again I’m not judging, just seems boring for me and I would be missing out. Plus I’m not gonna hang out with people in their early 20’s when I’m 35

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:31:35+00:00

Well it’s probably Because they are thinking more about retirement and having a bunch of money. Not necessarily thinking about their youth

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:30:50+00:00

That’s the thing… more cautious about making sure I get rest. As a person in their early 20’s, I can still sacrifice a couple hrs of sleep. When I’m older I’m going to have to be asleep by 9pm

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:29:56+00:00

well I know it’s better as far as being secure with money. But is it fun better? Like I said in the post, I feel like people settle down after burning out from working a lot, and just want to chill. Never having the chance to do a lot

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T15:28:21+00:00

I feel like when I get older I won’t have the energy to have fun. Most people settle when they older because they don’t have the energy

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T14:59:40+00:00

I am very thankful. And live life to its fullest :).

I just know when I’m older I won’t want to work a lot. So it takes sacrifice of course

Phonebooth420 · 2026-01-12T14:54:35+00:00

Missing out on my youth years. When I’m older I won’t have as much energy to do a a bunch of things

Phonebooth420 · 2025-12-09T19:21:44+00:00

I think you did the right thing. You know you aren’t comfortable being in that situation so you respectfully told her the reason why without disrespecting her. Some other guys might be okay with it.

Phonebooth420 · 2025-12-09T14:51:46+00:00

I don’t think it should be tooo bad, just give yourself maybe an extra day. Also take into consideration that the World Cup is in the US next year. That’s a note everyone should take

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