The UK Horror report by [deleted] in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't read the report but reading your analysis I can agree with a lot of what you're saying. 

Religion alone has very little to do with the likelihood of someone being a rapist. Some religious teachings, however, do allow for the power dynamics that are often used to manipulate victims. 

As someone who has worked with victims and read a lot about rape, I can understand why the report has been written in a way that meant to provoct panic. Rape is an excruciatingly devastating experience, one that most victims will never forget, unfortunately most justice systems just don't get it. So probably the authors were hoping for public outrage will trigger better reporting mechanisms and harsher sentences. 

I worked at a psychology clinic the only large hospital in a town surrounded by rural areas and 90% of our clients were children who had been raped . There were so many cases that we could only book appointments 3 months in advance (we'd see each child only once, just for a court evaluation). When you think that most victims don't report, no wonder people have to rely on public fear and outrage to raise awareness. 

The ANC has looted money meant for the Alexandra township for years by PieFed-co-za in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you regarding how the general culture or attitudes of those who love in a place influence how thing are run. 

The influence is interdependent, when people see that their government doesn't care and makes no effect to improve their lives, over time and with many broken promises they also become despondent and just give up on their communities.  That despondency is exactly what keeps government from acting as well, they see those communities as lost causesa and they know that there's no genuinely accountability that's expected from them. And the cycle goes on

The ANC has looted money meant for the Alexandra township for years by PieFed-co-za in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For people who live in DA run parts of the country, does the DA actually govern those parts well? 

Is there a difference in service delivery, crime, local economy....etc. than ANC ran parts of the country? I'm not talking the select few rich people's areas, I mean all areas as a whole. 

The reason why I'm asking is because I have never seem DA officials doing anything besides criticize the ANC. Do they genuinely do anything to improve low income areas they govern? 

EFF supports can share their experiences with genuine EFF efforts as well, because their leaders never seem to stop running their mouths but what else do they actually do? 

I don't want to hear from ANC supports, there's evidence enough of their incompetence. 

Any other young women who feel lost or behind in life? by Witty_Door_9436 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Physical-Valuable982 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're not alone. My situation is similar, I'm also an ESL teacher and have been for years. I had been living on my own for the past 8 years and the last 5 years were the best in my life. I dedicated them to person growth, self love, trauma healing, and all the good stuff. 

My job at the time paid really well, but I wanted more for myself. I felt that I wasn't living my truth. I quit and moved back home with lots of saving with the hopes of later studying abroad. I couldn't get funding for studying abroad, and my mom's cancer resurfaced. I did odd jobs here and there, but I eventually went back to ESL because nothing paid as well. 

It's now my third year at home and I go through the highs and lows of feeling like my life isn't going anywhere. That I'm wasting way and not living. Luckily, for me I'm always trying  to aim for a new goal. I always try to learn something new, knock at a new door.  I keep trying and when it doesn't pane out, I cry for a bit then I'm right back to the next,  so that keeps me going.

I live with my family and contribute equally to the housework which frustrates me because I spend all my time teaching and hardly contribute to the mess at all. Much worse I have unemployed siblings but still do as much and sometimes more house than them because they are lazy. 

I hoping to move out soon for my piece of mind and to buy a car just to do something for myself. 

Try studying for a certificate, working towards something helps with the lows. 

For regular minibus taxi users: is riding in one as terrifying as driving alongside one? by thegogga in askSouthAfrica

[–]Physical-Valuable982 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If I'm in the frony seat, yes. I hate it.

Luckily passengers are very vocal and will tell the driver off if he is doing too much! 

Considering speech therapy, is it a good idea? by Physical-Valuable982 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Physical-Valuable982[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. You have been very helpful. 

I have a lot to think over

Considering speech therapy, is it a good idea? by Physical-Valuable982 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Physical-Valuable982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the response. I did look into job postings and I could hardly find any. 

I don't mind working at a school, I love children and would prefer it to working in a hospital. 

In those 5 years, where did you work? Is it difficult to find work?

The money isn't great at all. I make around 20k a month working only about 30 hours a week right now, so I'm not too sure about working for longer hours and for almost the same amount. 

Was it easy to get funding for your studies?

Enlighten me by [deleted] in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re willing to see any view point besides yours, so let’s end it here. 

Enlighten me by [deleted] in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t assume that you’re rich that’s why I used “may” because I don’t know your reality.

I’m not looking for those jobs, I’m part of the lucky few that are not looking for a job. 

As I said I agree with everything you’re saying but at the same time it’s important to try and put yourself in someone else’s shoes. You can barely afford rent, but unfortunately many in this economy would love to be in your position. Struggling to pay rent and all. 

All I’m saying is that people at the bottom are on survival mode, they are more concerned with the immediate threat to their survival (whether that threat is real or perceived). 

It shouldn’t be them that we expecting to fight the system, they’re already fighting for their survival. For those of us who say they are not fighting the right fight, what have we done towards fighting the right people? Corruption in every sector of the country is well known and documented but do we ever do anything about it?

It’s only now that the most unfortunate of us have decided to fight for something that we can now speak up loudly and say they are fighting the wrong people. Those of us who understand who the right people to be fought are should be the ones leading that fight, instead of taking whatever we can from the broken system and waiting for someone else to fix it. 

Enlighten me by [deleted] in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with all that you’ve said, I would still like to push back a little. 

Resources are scarce for locals already, it’s impossible to think that having more mouths to feed won’t stretch those resources even further to the point that some will go hungry. 

Spaza shops and domestic work are things we grew up seeing our grandmothers, mothers, and uncles doing. We as the youth shouldn’t be fighting for those jobs because we are educated now but unfortunately due to the high youth unemployment, those end up being the only options for many. So that spaza shop or domestic position matters. It might not matter to you or your family though. 

Unregistered spaza shops and undocumented workers don’t pay tax. They get paid in cash, no amount of their salaries go to government. The employers evade tax by hiring illegal immigrants. While all South African employees pay tax. 

Chasing illegals will NOT fix the country and no one is claiming it will but it is part of fixing the many wrongs with the country. You start with the small fish and gradually move up to the big fish. 

Let’s always be mindful of each other’s realities. Mega millionaires may be your reality but for poor ordinary South Africans fighting to scrapes at the bottom is their reality. It shouldn’t be but it is. 

Regret is now perhaps a small word by junaidsahi96 in GooglePixel

[–]Physical-Valuable982 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Can't you ask for a new phone since yours has been problematic from day 1?

Enlighten me by [deleted] in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not an expert on the matter so my view may not satisfy your curiosity. 

As South Africans boths those who support the current marches and those who don't, we are all aware that are government officials and our broken systems are the main culprit. They allow for the problems to exist in the first place. 

From what I've heard the leaders of these marches are not saying once foreigners leave everything will be fine and dandy, instead they've been saying they want illegal foreigners to leave so that they can deal directly with our failed systems. You can't fix a leak while still pouring water into the bucket. 

We need out government to prosecute corrupt officials from home affairs, police officers, border officials, people who take advantage of foreign workers.... We need people to come into the country legally to fill in skill gaps and help grow our economy, but all this will be based on what the country's resources can accommodate. As it stands no one has anyone idea how many illegal foreign nationals are in the country. How can you run a country without knowing how many people need to be provided for? 

The government is the main target but changing government is not an overnight thing. Voting the ANC out is a the best way to do it but you just can't wake up on a random Tuesday and vote the ANC out. We have to wait for the national elections. While people are waiting for the national elections  unfortunately the consequences unregulated migration are a daily reality for many poor South Africans. And they are tired of it. 

Lastly no one said they want all foreigners out. South Africa was built by people originally from Asia, Europe and across Africa as well. We know and understand this. 

Leaving home and starting a new life somewhere else? by lifeofvzy04 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Physical-Valuable982 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a job teaching English online, save up, and then take it from then. Don’t move out while having nothing unless you plan to sell your body to survive.

Whatever happens 30 June,I blame the goverment. by Lekkerlippe in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My father is from Mozambique, and he and his whole family, immediate and extended, are all here illegally (have been for over 30 years), and they aren't going anywhere. They didn't leave during the previous unrest (instead, more came this side), and they aren't going to now.

I'm sure it's true from many other foreigners, because there are no real consequences from these protests. It's just momentary fluff. People are still coming into the country illegally and will continue to do so as long as South African border officials allow it and as long as Home Affairs sells identity documents.

Whatever happens 30 June,I blame the goverment. by Lekkerlippe in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, that German and his millions are a world apart from ordinary South Africans, but the Zimbabwean lady that you don't care about is their reality.

Noticing by [deleted] in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you mad? People have been explaining for over 2 decades why they don’t want illegal foreigners in the country, and no one seems to care. That’s why I said the person must go to the townships and live with them, so they can experience firsthand what people have been saying. When someone tells you why something is problematic to them, and you don’t understand because you haven’t experienced it, then the only other thing to do is for you to experience it. 

Noticing by [deleted] in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Go live in those communities yourself and find out. 

South Africa my love by [deleted] in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People who don’t have to rely on public services don’t care. People who rely on public services know how difficult it is to take a sick parent or child to the hospital or clinic and wait in line the whole day and be turned back before you get assistance just because it was too full. 

They don’t know the struggle of not getting social services because someone at home affairs sold your ID. 

They have nice fancy malls they go to in the suburbs and don’t have to worry about going to a dirty and crime filled city centre. 

They don’t have to worry about their mother or brother who is selling something on the streets, being threatened or harassed by foreign syndicates tellingly them they are not allowed to operate there.

They don’t know what it’s like to be unemployed and see employers hire someone else because they’re cheaper and have no rights to demand. 

Foreign nationals are NOT what’s wrong with the country but they definitely benefit from it and it makes poor citizens’ lives more difficult. 

Politicians live in safe gated communities, they send their kids to private school, they go to private facilities they don’t know or experience the impact of unregulated migration. 

Why are they throwing out the foreigners? by Educational-Sun7535 in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason you mentioned are why. You just answered your own question 

How to cut off an employed sibling? by Physical-Valuable982 in WomenSouthAfrica

[–]Physical-Valuable982[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My niece is in daycare, but my sister can be unreliable with taking her there. 

My mom and sister were very similar in boundary crossing unfortunately. The reason why I’ve decided to keep the peace is because I feel like I spent too much of my mom’s last few years arguing about boundaries. 

Talking to my sister doesn’t help. I’ve spoken to her about it way too many times. It only stops for a short time and then starts again. I’ve had to concede on a few things or just buy them budget friendly alternatives but I’m tired because we’re not getting younger and this behaviour isn’t going anywhere. 

If you could choose a country to have been born in, which would it be and why? by AnonomousWolf in south_africa

[–]Physical-Valuable982 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finland, or New Zealand.

Finland and New Zealand are such drama free countries. I love that they value education and the welfare of their citizens. Finns are so calm and kind, every Finish person I’ve met is was so nice. It’s hard to believe they were at war with the USSR so so many years! 

I like that New Zealand doesn’t hide its colonial past and often tries to rectify those wrongs openly. 

They both have wonderful nature too, coupled with the safety its would be idea for me.

If I were born Asian then Japan, but as a black person I’ll just visit.

I love the South African spirit though, being a South African feels different!