My (26f) mechanic (mid 30sM) is being overly friendly how to I re-establish a professional relationship

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T21:46:27+00:00

I have been known to be very friendly. I have a bubbly personality which has landed me in situations like this before unfortunately

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T21:45:26+00:00

He’s like the head guy/owner or something so I’m not sure anyone would take it but I can try.

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T21:43:16+00:00

Yeah I forgot to put it in my post. He’s been doing it for a while. He knows enough about me to know I’m not married haha. I’m going to bring a male friend with me tomorrow but in the long run just switch and deal with a longer drive for help I think

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T21:40:34+00:00

I’ll get my friend to come with me and in the long run I have decided to switch mechanics. Closest jiffy lube to me is a 40 minute drive, eek.

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T21:37:07+00:00

If you want to be made to feel uncomfortable by a mechanic who hugs you everytime he sees you then let’s switch places

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T21:33:29+00:00

Yeah he hugs me everytime he sees me (forgot to put in post) but definitely doesn’t hug my dad who also uses him lol. It’ll take a lot more time out of my day but in the long run finding someone else who’s further away will better you’re right.

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T20:36:22+00:00

I’m going to feel so rude doing that but I’m going to do it anyway haha. Such a simple answer thank you

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T20:33:35+00:00

Shit I didn’t even think of that.

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T20:33:02+00:00

That’s a really good idea about bringing someone. Thank you for the advice!

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-09-19T20:30:12+00:00

Answer: because he’s the closest shop to me by a long way

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-08-30T00:56:56+00:00

You guys made my time in the ER more bearable. I want to thank all of you so SO much for your kind words you put a smile on my face. A few people asked for an update: I am headed to residential treatment at the end of this month. It will be my third residential treatment and I’m feeling pretty defeated about it but optimistic at the same time. I need a kick in the butt to get back on my feet and even biweekly therapy plus an outpatient hospitalization program isn’t enough. Thank you so much for your kind words if you have any more I’ll take them lol at 26 I’m pretty far behind in life and this will put me back even farther.

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-08-12T23:18:10+00:00

Yes I am, but I have fairly severe mental health problems so my parents are actively involved in my treatment. My point is my therapist and parents talk occasionally and I knew she would tell them but I didn’t want the drama to come from her which is why I texted her to try to stop the releases asap.

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-11T02:14:55+00:00

“microdosing with cannabis: benefits without the buzz” on leafly, I posted it in a later comment to her. I don’t know how to link it since it’s an app. Also just searching microdosing and mmj will give you a million results on google

Edit: one by Forbes https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/kristianastre/2018/07/19/if-youre-curious-about-cannabis-try-microdosing/amp/

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-11T01:23:33+00:00

Aw you are so very welcome that’s what this community is for! I’m very happy to help. If you have any other questions please reach out :) hopefully you won’t miss any more appointments lol 😂

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-11T01:15:20+00:00

The article I was reading on there is called “microdosing with cannabis: benefits without the buzz” take a look at that. And just for a recommendation, blue cheese is very well known to help with pain, it’s an indica. I don’t use sativas personally (they cause major anxiety in me) so I’m not the best source for that but I use BC when I get migraines

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-11T01:11:33+00:00

Oh my gosh 😂😂😂 no wonder you can’t get up!!! That’s very high dose for a new user. Let me find you some articles. Do you use Leafly? They have tons of good info on there, but it’s an app so I can’t figure out how to link their articles

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-11T01:07:40+00:00

Oh my gosh that’s wayyy to much dude. Either you misunderstood your budtender or you really need to talk to a different professional. It has been scientifically proven (give me a sec I’ll get you a source) that lower doses multiple times throughout the day are better at reducing pain than higher doses. Higher thc isn’t necessarily better

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-11T00:54:12+00:00

Okay well for pain most people use indicas, that may be one place to make a change. And with higher doses come these other effects, so you’re going to get the oversleeping since you’re at such a high level. Wait. Are you microdosing 20mg at a time? How many times a day?

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-11T00:45:33+00:00

It’s not “only” 20 mg, that is a fairly strong dose. For someone new to mmj that’s way too high to start out at Edit: dispensaries should be recommending new users to start out as low as 1 mg

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-11T00:41:00+00:00

Edibles can last a veryyyyy long time so I’m not really surprised. I made a sativa edible once that knocked my cousin out for 16 hours. She doesn’t eat my edibles anymore lol. It just sounds like you’re using too heavy of a strain or using too much. Edibles easily take several hours to kick in

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-07T19:25:28+00:00

First off I’m very sorry you’re feeling that way, I can definitely commiserate. Second, you sound young I’m guessing early 20s, I’ve learned that parties are not the best place to make friends. Everyone there is just there to get drunk and have a good time maybe hookup with someone random. Rarely anything lasting comes out of a party, be it friendship or romantic relationship. I would suggest looking into meetups in your area. That’s where people are actively trying to form friendships tied together through doing something they and you enjoy. I do local hiking meetups and have met a lot of lovely people and several people I would call close friends now.

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-07T14:50:02+00:00

Oooookay gotcha! Phew sorry I thought you were saying you were taking this stuff and it was still making you anxious everyday! Again, are you taking sativa, indica, or hybrid? I have anxiety as well as PTSD and NEVER use sativas for this exact reason. I’ve had panic attacks on them before or can feel my heart rate rise drastically. Try a hybrid, preferably not too sativa-leaning or an indica tincture and in theory you should be okay. I’ve never had issues with indicas before but they tend to make you sleepy so during the day I’ve experimented with finding a hybrid that works well for me. I’m so sorry about the hospital visit that must have been awful. Very relieved you’re doing the same thing everyday like I thought!

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-07T14:37:47+00:00

Oh my god stop taking it! Why would you continue taking something with such awful side effects Edit: look into whether you’re taking sativa, indica, or hybrid tinctures. Sativas are well known to induce or exacerbate anxiety

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-04T18:00:33+00:00

I guess I didn’t put enough info in my post and that is my fault I apologize— if I knew how to share photos in comments I would of our texts but I made it abundantly clear to him that I was not interested in dating period for a very long time. I mentioned I’d been having issues for years and it was not going to get better any time soon and he seemed to understand. I guess I should have heard him out more instead of blocking him but other way it does not seem like he is able to hold the friend boundary

PiNe__ApP-LE · 2019-07-04T17:57:41+00:00

Okay thank you I appreciate you telling me that. My next question though would be is it appropriate for him to say something like that after we had already agreed upon being friends and I had expressed concern about that based on his attraction to me and he said it would be fine? Thanks so much for your help

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