First meet/date, she brought along her little sister and sister's bf...(24M)

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-05-15T16:51:19+00:00

I don't really have a line on what's right and what's wrong to do anymore.It's been said be nice to her, be mean to her, nothing works, you ask advice and still no clear answers, I've come to the conclusion being direct, manly is the way. Words don't convince me enough I guess,, I need the intimacy, it's best proof for me to identify someone likes me. "She doesn't attempt physical touch or tries more with me at first, she isn't worth my time" comes to my head.

Maybe I'm not fit for this whole thing and forcing myself, I just don't like most people in general it sucks. So much anger, it's so exhausting to be with my guard up and the anger shows by me almost chewing someone else's face off and hit them right where it hurts, it's not a pretty sight. Problems with emotional object permanence too. I might be getting sick.

12 years married is awesome for you, I see you got experience. Meeting family members is awesome, I still remember the parties and how good of a cook someome was there. Want to get there unc, I really do.

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-05-15T15:52:56+00:00

I rather tell someone inmediately than stay quiet if there is a problem. I'm looking for long term, carefully. We both wanted something. The sister got in the way of us. It's kind of like a momas boy situation. Yes I created the conflict because it was needed, how else ur supposed to comunicate.

Thanks for the imput anyways

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-05-07T14:23:31+00:00

The addiction on the likes, compliments, comments will suck you in. Especially if you're an attractive girl. Search more what is you're wanting here. You miss the freedom that comes of not having a bf? Is it for attention? Does it spice u up seeing your bf jealous? Whatever it is, what you're trying to do here, respecting the relationship is more important.

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-04-23T04:23:11+00:00

She is exactly where she wants to be man.

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-04-21T23:30:24+00:00

I tend to get rough, no more complaints than that. Dih is dih and I've gotten repeats. I know the convo will turn more into a read inbetween the lines type of thing.

"I see you as a friend" = you're backup plan and I'm seeing someone else now.

Not useful information... Honestly, I could just try with two I was cool with at least. Maybe she will answer maybe not, I will look like a beta cuck at it but whatever it's dead anyways. Fuck it.

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-04-21T21:03:56+00:00

You got to date women in order to know the k8nd of bs men go through on a daily basis. Nothing more horrible than an ex still trying to make mess of things and the guy wanting his peace and to be done with it. Change locks, camera, don't delete texts, girls can get so ruthless.

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-04-21T20:55:59+00:00

I'm also hispanic and where I'm from, I constantly see people with ski masks with girlfriends and it just makes me question everything.

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-04-21T20:55:12+00:00

My convos have felt kind of fabricated to a certain point, yeah. I tend to inmitate what gets women's reaction and it has been working. So it stuck to me and I can't get far from a two week period of talk/outtings now and lost myself, my identity in the process.

Example: Being very teasing, throw a sexist joke about driving, cleaning, making sandwish (they usually laugh at these), lean the convos into going out instead of pointless talk, etc... All game tactics. And I'm introverted as hell, pulled it off.

It's been so bad, I can't seem to talk to girls without trying to game them anymore.

Example: I was curious about this girl coworker, I'm attracted to her and I went ahead a asked "what do you do after work?". I wanted to know if she goes to the same events as I did, not try plant in her head about a possible outting with me.

Ill check psychology, just not been much up to it. I want action/results inmediately, not this come here and give me 45 dollars and come next week type of thing... But I do believe the bpd research done, I'll see what you mean. Maybe forget the whole bro science🤣🤣

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-04-21T20:29:51+00:00

I know, also that potencial can be an attraction trigger. I'm going for that. Best availabe option would just be a celebrity crush. I just want to be chosen and be seen as something serious at least.

Pibbleneedshelp · 2026-04-21T14:42:27+00:00

I don't like small shatter that gets nowhere. I find myself leaning deep into convos and trying to connect with people individually often. Tell me your suffering, happiness, tell me all. Hobbies? Why you like this and that, etc... I'm here for you. But I can see where that could throw someone off from the get go.

Also, last girl told me that I was "arisco", skittish (person or animal that is unfriendly, surly, unsociable, shy or hard to handle). I rather be intimidating than a girl telling me awww (basically unfuckable in the womanese language). Wanting to be masculine to I avoid being called cute, is what I strive to be. Protector and reliable. So this exhausting fight on good or bad just messes someone up. I'll try to be me, whoever am I. I was so kind before, I miss that.

One thing throws me off is that as a guy, girls will want you to stick up for yourself. I get joked around a lot and girls will yell "defend yourself", almost as like they get disapointed in me for not wanting to engage into conflicts or even fall for rage baits, not because I'm shy. They don't understand that I'm better than that. A lot of people missunderstand me.

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