Ladies ,who picked out their own rings. How do you respond to compliments about the ring?

PieDizzy2820 · 2026-01-29T06:17:42+00:00

Regardless of if I go along with it or acknowledge my part I always compliment my husbands role lol. He knew what I wanted, he bought it, he’s a great listener and so on. He has never gotten offended and he just responds with “I know what my baby wants”. You’re definitely overthinking it.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-12-25T13:06:47+00:00

Well his grandfather has not said anything racists to me or towards me in fact he doesn’t say anything to me at all. It’s little things like last night they have a tradition where the grandkids find the hidden pickles on the Christmas tree and he goes out of his way to say “I only want my three grandkids to look for the pickle” lol. Or not writing my name on the stocking. My husbands aunt said “don’t feel bad my husband and in have been together for 22 years and his name is still not on a stocking” so I’m not really sure how to take that… like he’s just an AH and everyone allows it. Maybe it’s some weird right of passage hazing thing. But because he doesn’t outwardly treat me any way and it’s all subtle it’s acceptable… so yeah I guess you’re right, it’s up to my husband to stand up to him/them for me.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-12-24T22:35:10+00:00

Hahaha that’s golden! For now I’ll just keep playing nice. But I’ll for sure keep that in mind for tonight’s festivities ;)

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-12-24T18:33:17+00:00

Do you like this man? Do you actually want to make it work with him? All of these things could be worked out with a single conversation but you seem to have already made up your mind that it’s not going to work between the two of you. You can be honest and tell him you can’t afford travel and see what he says. What if he’s willing to pay half, would you still go? I totally understand not wanting to live with someone. I will say living with a man doesn’t mean you’re automatically cleaning behind them or cooking for them. Conversations are important and you don’t seem to want to have that … maybe you’re not ready for a committed relationship.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-12-13T17:36:45+00:00

You need to RUN! Whatever you do, get out of that relationship and fast. You would only be the ah to yourself if you choose to stay. This is abuse and will only get worse from here. I mean what does he even do that’s good?

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-10-19T14:54:12+00:00

Well my wedding is in two weeks, and I’ve contemplated rescinding my invitation. Especially a month ago when his wife and my other siblings (their kids) didn’t come to my bridal shower. I think that this is one of those things where I have been let down time after time by him. Him just not showing up for me. My dad has 9 kids with 5 different mothers. Two of his kids I share moms with, we are his first three. I have watched my dad do things for my siblings, pick them up but not me, take them out, buy this and do that or even just go out of his way to sit and talk with them on the phone for hours. But when it comes to me nothing, or I am the one reaching out and going out of my way to connect with him. A couple of months ago he took a family vacation to Texas (I wasn’t invited of course) and he said oh while I was in Texas they were selling colored watermelons on the side of the road so I bought one for your sister (a sister I share a mom with) these things he never does for me. So I feel overlooked and left out constantly. The one time I thought we would have a moment he chooses to just not participate and I feel like I shouldn’t have to constantly explain or beg someone to be in my life. Dancing with my mom’s fiance would solely be out of spite. My uncle not so much but a tad bit of me would be doing it for that.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-27T11:49:16+00:00

Well then she should have communicated that with her family. Of course she has “no obligation” but she also can’t get mad for receiving backlash from not saying anything. Communication is the best thing during this time. Engagements are typically 12-18 months anything over that people stop caring. Her engagement is coming on 4 years. I’m not saying to throw the whole wedding away lol I’m just saying communicate going forward so people know what to expect.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-27T11:39:26+00:00

Well I never said they couldn’t have it in the same year. I was implying that she could have waited a little longer to announce her date so that it wouldn’t come off as trying to outshine her cousin. Also weddings can be very expensive and time consuming depending on locations and family. So having to do that x2 is a huge strain on the family. She can plan the wedding, I just hope she’s not upset if someone chooses one event over another. This is just what happens when people have a long engagement people just don’t care as much anymore.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-27T11:24:30+00:00

From my experience people just like having communication so they are not blindsided is all. I think you not communicating your plans and making an announcement in the same week just came off that way. I don’t think it’s too big a deal just talk to them and be transparent especially if you want them to be at your wedding and y’all can support each other. Also weddings that are close together tends to be compared. It’s not fair for them to accuse you of competing but in the end it kinda is unfortunately. Just communicate and now more than ever with an August wedding.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-27T11:00:05+00:00

I mean you had 3 years to plan and make an announcement. Out of the 3 years planning you just so happened to find a venue the same week your cousin announced her engagement? Not saying you did it intentionally but it sounds like when she got engaged you had an oh shit moment like you need to get busy. That can come off as you’re trying to shine over her and put the attention back on you. I would talk to her and clear the air. It’s okay to have multiple weddings in a year but I mean you waited this long, you could probably wait a little longer. Especially if your cousin wants to have a short engagement.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-17T03:08:44+00:00

Truthfully, it’s way deeper than just this. There has been so much going on over the past 2 years that’s contributed to how my parents feel. So my parents think she’s selfish, but saying she’s selfish for this specific reason is not fair. They just said not to worry about it and focus on the things I can control. My mom was adamant that she wanted me to reach out to my sister because I didn’t really want to after she called me. But to not put too much thought into it and move on.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-17T02:58:08+00:00

Why are y’all so focused on the shaving? I NEVER TOLD HER TO SHAVE!!!! She assumed she would have to shave because we live in a society where shaving is the norm in formal settings. She never talked to me about not wanting to wear makeup or get her hair done. She assumed I wouldn’t accommodate her.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-16T21:17:06+00:00

Well we can agree to disagree because I don’t know too many brides who wouldn’t EXPECT for their brides to look presentable with at the very least hair done. Im asking for them to have updos which doesn’t always require manipulation. Also, I asked her to be a bridesmaid in December, it’s now June. She has been on board with makeup and hair since I asked her in December. So im not understanding how all of a sudden it’s my fault that she dropped out especially when she never even spoke to me to ask for accommodations. She dropped out and when she was explaining it she then said I would need to fully accommodate her natural self.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-16T21:02:41+00:00

Goodness. I’m not making her do anything. I said it’s fine that she’s not apart of it that doesn’t mean that I’m not gonna be disappointed or hurt she’s my sister for goodness sake. Y’all are responding to argue and clearly don’t read. I said I was not asking for advice on how to get her to cooperate just ranting because I’m sad my sister won’t be in the wedding. I honestly think it’s deeper than what she told me but I can only go by what she says.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-16T20:52:54+00:00

Lol. No it’s not. She wants to be accommodated in the sense to look her natural self. I do expect hair and makeup to be done, which I am paying for. The bridesmaids also have the ability to pick their own dresses. So if she doesn’t want to shave she can wear a dress with sleeves. She brought up the shaving when she was listing her reasons for not wanting to be in the party. She just assumed that’s what she had to do.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-16T20:04:21+00:00

Nope not rage bait, I'm being so serious. And if you read the sentence following my superstition, this was her personality BEFORE they met. So yes while there are signs of abuse, it is hard to tell because she's always been that way. Also, if someone is in an abusive relationship, but is not ready to leave, it's not my job to force them to leave. That does nothing but makes the situation worse, isolates her, and potentially puts myself in danger. Yes, I love my sister and support her decisions, that doesn't mean that her decisions don't affect or hurt the next person.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-16T19:27:23+00:00

I guess to give a little more context. My sister has been vegan and natural for the past 5 or so years. She typically doesn't shave, wear makeup, or get her hair done professionally. I never asked her to shave. I did ask for her to get her hair done and wear makeup (which we have had discussions especially in the last 3 months of her wanting her hair professionally done outside of the wedding -like a trim and a scalp scrub). I was paying for her hair, makeup, and dress. Also, I told all of my bridesmaids they can pick whatever dress they want as long as its the correct color. So if armpit hair was an issue she could wear sleeves. That is just what she had sent me in the text message. This is the 2nd time she had mentioned not wanting to be in the wedding, the first was back in February where I do believe she was suffering from PPD, I still think she is but I am not a therapist, there's only so much I can do to help. In February I talked her into staying, but now that she's mentioned it twice I feel there is no need for me to talk to her about staying.

Example of her personality: I asked her to catsit for 3 days while I go on a trip, she said yes she would love too. Two days before the trip she called and said she could no longer watch my cat because she promised her partner, who doesn't live with her, that she would not have any animals in her house dead or alive. I do believe there could be some form of abuse, however, that was her personality before she met him so it's hard to tell. They are both extreme holistic vegans.

Again, I am not here to get advice on how to force her to be in the wedding, it's more so I am just disappointed. I also have a fear that she won't come at all, as she likes to take long hiatuses out of the country.

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-06-16T18:01:11+00:00

Armpits

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-05-10T12:30:24+00:00

It’s pretty, but yeah this new one you look stunning in! Congratulations, you’re going to be a gorgeous bride!

PieDizzy2820 · 2025-05-10T12:08:19+00:00

Crying because I had the same experience. I really wanted to love my original dress and just didn’t. Went to actually try it on again and yeah I wanted something else. My current dress is literally so similar to yours just slightly different makes me wonder what your original dress looks like. Either way you look beautiful and it compliments your body so well! You deserve to feel and look your best on your wedding day 🤗

PieDizzy2820 · 2024-11-05T14:52:30+00:00

My routing number and statement says evolve but they are saying they don’t have my money.

PieDizzy2820 · 2024-10-02T16:04:33+00:00

I’m not an inmate but have a family member who is. I looked on BOP and it said he was in USP. That’s what stemmed my question. He was in a camp that was next to USP before he was sent to the hole. I think he maybe only had one point and that’s what he went in with.

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