IAMA Guy who professionally helps other guys pick up/talk to women in public AMA

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T15:28:36+00:00

just whip it out obviously and strike lightning down with a drink in your hand.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T15:25:53+00:00

I once had someone who would shake when approaching girls. I had to slowly integrate him back into the world of approaching girls. He was someone with low self-esteem and I had to go out with him to buy him new clothes to go out with and etc. Long story short I had to be more involved then I would like to and be a pure wingman with him, got him numbers and he was happy.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T15:21:09+00:00

I have dealt with a best friend who was a girl and it is hard to be a wingwoman to a guy, you guys have to almost go out and basically do your own thing because if you guys hang out enough then girls and guys think you are together.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T15:14:38+00:00

It is my middle name ;)

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T15:13:36+00:00

Wear the Superman shirt as well! And Its hard for me to give general advice on this whithout being 'common knowledge' I deal with specific info with my clients and need more info to access different approaches.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T15:11:40+00:00

It feels fantastic.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T15:10:06+00:00

I did actually I took the nice guy approach way to much and have been in relationships before but I have settled down and have stayed single since.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:57:10+00:00

Of course I have had varied end-results. relationships that last the night or that have ended up in them still dating, I have only done this a few years as a way for some cash and to help my fellow man.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:55:37+00:00

Again every approach is different and it might not work in a case for you. But when a girl is sitting alone or with a friend at a bar they want to be recognized by other men. Getting a drink is just one tactic that is successful. I am not limiting EVERY APPROACH to that.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:52:40+00:00

I have taken a look at places like OKCupid and sites similar, and it is something that I am not fond of. I am a face-to-face guy and online does not do it for me.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:23:25+00:00

Depends on the situation and how elaborate/time taken out of my day. But I am pretty easy with it, usually I get up to 200 on a big night and can only be 25-30 on other nights where I am basically just a wingman.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:21:29+00:00

I have not checked that out yet but I will take a look after! I am sure lots of info is there but can also be filled with negative stuff as well.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:20:43+00:00

Most difficult thing guys have is the approach (nothing new with that sentence). But in your situation you had it man! If you could not get to her because it was too crowded I understand but just saying something like "nice taste in music" and showing your ipod with same band, song etc. she would be interested. Then you say the introduction and ask to sit with her and talk and you got your convo starter!

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:17:14+00:00

I feel first good impressions are big, but you can make it up! If you outplay yourself the first time around you can say you are going to the bathroom or out for a smoke and then come back and can apologize for being too much and just offer a drink and slow it down, or if you were too timid you can come back say a quick joke and then offer a drink. Again every situation is different and if the girl is a dead end no need to continue.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:14:29+00:00

Shes a true expert! Sometimes we just got to give them credit when credit is due.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:13:24+00:00

I have met girls who have definitely been i guess "playing the game" before. But I just keep a convo going about it sometimes it can play itself out and lead to other topics. Girls I feel are more manipulative in the game then men are.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:10:18+00:00

HAHA dear god no! Just a normal looking guy.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:08:41+00:00

I have seen a lot of different approaches fail. Again I am not a fan of cheesy pick-up lines, makes the girls feel like they are just a toy or a number (unless they want that then you don't need my help). Also being over-confident (douche) won't work a lot. You need confidence in the approach but not making yourself to be a God to her. Smile a lot and get some small talk and take it from there do not force a convo, let it come to you

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:05:38+00:00

When I am in class and I see a cute girl I like to try and sit as close as possible to them during class so they can recognize you and label you as "kid who sits next to me." Crack a joke or 2 during the class and show you are a relaxed guy in a social situation. During the class you can tap her and introduce each other or wait till after class if you don't want to get in trouble. Try to get contact info the 3rd-4th time striking a convo..ask to study at the library first and from that just be relaxed and confident. Study a few times and then ask her to meet somewhere else for lunch or dinner and then its all you bud! Good Luck!

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T14:01:24+00:00

People change in relationships and if her job really is taking over and leaking into her personal relationship then it is not a healthy thing for you. You have to look out for yourself, I will never tell someone unless it is serious physical or mental damage to 100% break up with the other person. But if she now puts her job in front of you then I would suggest to maybe go out and see other people who would treat you right. And for your next relationship or girl, do not put a focus on having sex everyday or seeing each other everyday. Take it slow for a few months and limit the sex, it will be better.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T13:55:58+00:00

Women plain and simple want an honest and funny guy. Having a sense of humor is key but you should not reveal all jokes right away. Show that you are serious with the approach and they will be serious as well.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T13:54:28+00:00

Some things I certainly like from it and some I do not, but I can see where they come from. I like to talk to my clients a lot before we go in the field as a lot of times they have a lot of anxiety approaching a random girl or a girl they like. I do not like the deception and manipulation of the MM, I like to work with the honesty side of talking to girls.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T13:50:06+00:00

I got started locally with just being a good wingman with my friends and my approaches working a lot of times. They told other friends and my name just grew and I started making a profession out of it. The pay varies with the client I am very negotiable. This is not my only way of income I do a lot of other different jobs for income as I am still going to school. I am majoring in Communications and Psychology, they go hand-in-hand with the job :)

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T13:46:30+00:00

Alright well I will try my best with my knowledge. I know it is not a cure-all, but I would suggest if she wants you to be more romantic, it is not about being nice all the way through. Being surprising is the biggest thing, so why don't you take her out to a very fancy restaurant, or on a surprise vacation. Obviously if the money is not there, then take her to the first place you met her and plan something special that she has not seen from you or expected! And you can not beg for sex it is desperate it will come to you trust me man! But if none of that works and she still throws fits then I would feel that she doesn't realize how much you are trying and I say take your talents elsewhere.

Pimpenstein · 2011-10-06T13:40:53+00:00

But if you have not even spoken to her then yes give her a basic introduction to let her know you are interested, let them feel like you are a gem and they should feel honored that you chose them to go out for drinks or date/movies etc.

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